Falling (unconsciously) into Little Space // Nonverbal Headspace

[Guest SleepyOtter]

Hey, I just had an experience that was quite jarring. I wanted to know if anyone else experienced anything similar or knows how to deal with it. 

 

I was intimate with someone, and they did everything right. Deep in subspace, and pretty pleased with what I'd done. A phrase they said during playtime triggered me and I felt that they weren't happy with me, and that I'd made them angry.

 

I instantly (and unconsciously) switched to little space and couldn't speak at all. They were very concerned and helped me calm down, instantly stopping what we were doing and put me to sleep. 

 

This has never happened to me before, I've always consciously switched between the two headspaces. I felt more vulnerable than I'd ever before and was basically a mess. It took me hours after waking up to work through my feelings and figure out what might've triggered me. It wasn't anything that had bothered me before. 

 

This is also seeping into regular life where if I get too emotional or feel vulnerable, I just stop talking and at times regress. Lately, I've been a tad bit emotional because of some stress, but not sure if that has anything to do with the same. 

 

I'm not sure what this post is supposed to be, but just looking to see if anyone's experienced this before. Or knows a way to navigate something similar. 

 

[MissPattch]

Hey  

 

I've had episodes like this with my Daddy and also in other areas of my life. For me, it's mostly when i'm feeling negative emotions that make me feel sad or inadequate or like i have done something wrong. It triggers an almost involuntary regression where i just lose the ability to speak and fall headlong into a much younger head space than i am used to.

 

As someone who loves to communicate verbally, i find it quite hard to deal with. When it happens within the confines of my relationship, being left to be small but supervised by him until i find my voice again, is usually the key. He will carry on doing the things he always does and the reassurance from that is almost always enough to help me figure out a way back from the silence.  When it happens at work or when im among friends who don't know about my kink side, i just explain that i'm not feeling so great and i either excuse my self from company, or i just take a back seat in the conversation or activity thats going on.

 

If the trigger is something i feel like i need to talk about, i either bring it up with my Daddy when i am not in a small space or if that isn't needed, i will write it in my diary so i can go back and try to make sense of it later. It almost always passes within an hour or two. On the rare occasion i have gone to bed feeling like that, i wake up feeling distanced from my Daddy or friends or co workers, so i usually try to talk or write something down before i go to sleep, so in the morning the feeling of isolation isn't so overwhelming. 

 

I'm not sure if any of my experience is helpful to you, but i totally understand the feelings you are talking about and wanted to offer support <3

[Guest SleepyOtter]

Hey, thanks a lot for the support and for sharing your experience. 

 

You've given me a lot of good pointers to try if it happens again. Glad to know you've figured out a way to deal with this. 

 

Thanks again for writing, I feel much better reading this. 

[RavenHollow]

Yes, I have but I've always had to deal with it myself, and its because of the amount of pain im in and I end up dropping into it to deal with the amount of pain im in. And I have found when im like that I can't talk sometimes at all during it. One time on a date with a guy that I met on here when I twisted my ankle real bad and to deal with it I instantly dropped to deal with the pain i was in. Lets just say that the guy didn't like that because I was unable to speak at all.