How to be less shy

[Lovely_Princess03]

Hello guys.

 

 I'm discovering new things about DDLG everyday but I'm still shy about talking about it. No one in my family knows I'm kind of looking into this lifestyle and liking it. Is that bad? Is it bad that I'm shy about this.

 

I want to be less shy and like it but idk how. 

 

I want to explore more about this for myself. But I'm scared to know what my family and friend reaction would be like.

[Lollipox]

It is just my opinion, but Family and Friends don't really need to know about it. It's generally not well received, as it's a bit of a niche and somewhat taboo interest/lifestyle no matter what your involvement is in the Community (e.g. regressor, ageplayer, little, daddy/mommy, sexual or non-sexual). For me it's something to be kept private, as it can unnecessarily make other people uncomfortable. And I don't like the assumptions people make about it usually coming from a place of fear, misinformation or maybe they just don't like it (which is A-Okay for people to have their own opinions).

 

I think it's better to reach out to other community members and make friends who you can talk about it with. There's some great people, and some crappy people. But in my experience the great ones are worth taking the time to find. ^-^

[PigtailPrincess]

Love Lollipoxes response and completely agree with all aspects.

[MasterPhotog]

I too fully agree with Lollipox's reply. 

As long as you like it, keep your lifestyle to yourself, no one needs to know. 

Feel free to talk about it in this community where no one will judge you for it and will help you with your questions.

 

Hope it helps, best wishes. 

[CuriousRed89]

I feel the same way. I'm really really shy. And I know my family wouldn't approve so it's something that I have decided to keep to myself. And hope to find friends that are in the community that won't judge because they understand.

[MasterPhotog]

@CuriousRed89, seems like you have the right ideas.
Yes, it's best to talk about your likes with like-minded, non-judgmental and understanding people.  

[Lovely_Princess03]

Thank you guys for all the responses they really helped ❤

[Guest Blanketfortninja]

It is more like an anxiety feeling induced by the protection response from your littlespace toward the anticipated fear of negative reaction from your friends and family. It is normal because negative reactions, rejection from friends and family can be distressful to a person.

 

While, the need to connect with others who understands your littlespace is the feeling of need to explore your littlespace together in the context of shared environment which includes others like you. It is also normal social need to be accepted and belong.

 

 

In order to manage the anxiety, and fullfill your need to connect ,you need to make friends with the right people in the community that you can find. If you think your friends and family will not be judgemental, then you can try communicating with them. But, never force yourself to do something.

 

 

Now, right people mean those who understands your emotions, feelings. There will be people who will not agree with you. And that is all right because in human society, both the kinky and non kinky side, there exists diversities in the sense that, different people hold different values. If someone disagrees with you, then, don't interpret it as judgment but, interpret it as diversity. You will focus on making long term friends - all of that happens in one step at a time, with deep breath and relaxed mind.

Edited February 12, 2022 by Blanketfortninja