Further Reflections…Non Age Reg or Age Play Little Possible?

[justalitnerdxx]

I’ve been trying to step back and not overthink for the past few days (not really worked though, but I feel less up a height anyways).

 

The more I read about DDlg, it does seem like something I’ve been drawn towards for a very long time without having the language to put into words. My favourite type of idealised partner is someone who is protective and caring but also firmly stable confident. Someone who appreciates my imaginative and sappy nature and supports me to grow as a person. Who treats me like a precious treasure, apple of their eye, yet also as an intelligent partner that they can have discussions with. And likewise I’d hope to inspire them and make their life better too, support their needs.

 

My issue seems to be going in circles over what *my* role is. A little? A middle? Do I age regress? Age play? What is my little age? Do I have a little age? Well, I can’t define that. I don’t think I have an age.

 

What I’ve figured is that I don’t age regress (always keep my same headspace no matter what I’m doing) and I don’t age play. Sure, I daydream about my days of childhood and teenhood and feel nostalgia, but I don’t want to go back to those stages.

 

Though what I am is that as a person I’m naturally timid, placid, submissive if you will. I go with other’s flow unless their flow is harmful to others and myself. I’m mousy but I like to think I’m not a doormat anyways!

 

The huge chunk of me that I feel is little is that I am still quite whimsical and girlish, quite innocent I guess in that I expect the best of others and colour everyday life with fantastical musings I.e. what if Atlantis is underneath the beach where I live? Or I’m working, doing adult chores, but mentally I’m imagining being immersed in the romantic historical fiction I’m in.

 

I’d say my favourite genre is fantasy, and I like mythology and fairytales best of all. As to my tastes, I love things that are feminine and sparkly, that hint at antique unique trinkets.I have a pink and blue tie dyed bag cause it reminds me of Sleeping Beauty Pink and Blue dress drama. I collect dolls as beautiful hand sized artworks that hint to a fantasy life (medieval Barbie, Ariel the mermaid, Songbird Princess Barbie). Mermaid print bedcovers. Hanging ballerina figurines.

 

In essence, I kinda feel like I am definitely an adult woman and don’t want to be anything different, but that there’s a large aura of sensitive childlike energy surrounding me and within me at all times. And that it won’t change. I’m nearly 30 so I’m figuring if I not changed my personality yet then I won’t.

 

My worries are that I’m not little enough. That because I may not age regress or age play, to my understanding anyways, that it means I’m not really a little and this isn’t the dynamic or place for me.

[MissNMTX]

It sounds to me that you've put a tremendous amount of thought into it and are very self aware. Both of these are excellent things! So often these discussions seem to focus on "labels". I understand the tendency and have struggled myself with feelings of belonging or not...most often not.

 

In my very humble opinion, the most important thing is to be true to yourself as you grow. Be honest, talk to others. You will find people who will help...and those who don't. Its not so much about "labels" as it is self awareness and relational communication.

 

Best of luck!

[Pieplup]

I’ve been trying to step back and not overthink for the past few days (not really worked though, but I feel less up a height anyways).

 

The more I read about DDlg, it does seem like something I’ve been drawn towards for a very long time without having the language to put into words. My favourite type of idealised partner is someone who is protective and caring but also firmly stable confident. Someone who appreciates my imaginative and sappy nature and supports me to grow as a person. Who treats me like a precious treasure, apple of their eye, yet also as an intelligent partner that they can have discussions with. And likewise I’d hope to inspire them and make their life better too, support their needs.

 

My issue seems to be going in circles over what *my* role is. A little? A middle? Do I age regress? Age play? What is my little age? Do I have a little age? Well, I can’t define that. I don’t think I have an age.

 

What I’ve figured is that I don’t age regress (always keep my same headspace no matter what I’m doing) and I don’t age play. Sure, I daydream about my days of childhood and teenhood and feel nostalgia, but I don’t want to go back to those stages.

 

Though what I am is that as a person I’m naturally timid, placid, submissive if you will. I go with other’s flow unless their flow is harmful to others and myself. I’m mousy but I like to think I’m not a doormat anyways!

 

The huge chunk of me that I feel is little is that I am still quite whimsical and girlish, quite innocent I guess in that I expect the best of others and colour everyday life with fantastical musings I.e. what if Atlantis is underneath the beach where I live? Or I’m working, doing adult chores, but mentally I’m imagining being immersed in the romantic historical fiction I’m in.

 

I’d say my favourite genre is fantasy, and I like mythology and fairytales best of all. As to my tastes, I love things that are feminine and sparkly, that hint at antique unique trinkets.I have a pink and blue tie dyed bag cause it reminds me of Sleeping Beauty Pink and Blue dress drama. I collect dolls as beautiful hand sized artworks that hint to a fantasy life (medieval Barbie, Ariel the mermaid, Songbird Princess Barbie). Mermaid print bedcovers. Hanging ballerina figurines.

 

In essence, I kinda feel like I am definitely an adult woman and don’t want to be anything different, but that there’s a large aura of sensitive childlike energy surrounding me and within me at all times. And that it won’t change. I’m nearly 30 so I’m figuring if I not changed my personality yet then I won’t.

 

My worries are that I’m not little enough. That because I may not age regress or age play, to my understanding anyways, that it means I’m not really a little and this isn’t the dynamic or place for me.

I don't think it matters what you are, I think that all that matters is that you enjoy what you are ding and participating in. I think you should be less focused on labels and what is or isn't and more focus on what you like to do. It doesn't matter if you are childlike, or a little, or a middle, or a submissive, or whatever label you want to assign yourself. Labels should just be used as tools to describe yourself. They aren't perfect you ca't always fine one that fits right. This is true for all labels. if you are goingt o use them don't identify with them just use them to describe things you experience. Ultimately it doens't matter what label or category you fit in. all that matters is you enjoy what you are doing. I also think most peopel keep a childlike side to them as they grow up. Some people also just liekm being in those kinad relationships and naturally taek those roles in relationships. even people who aren't into ageplay of any kind. Some people are just maternal/paternal some peopel just like to be protected and looked after. Some people are also just childlike without being alittle and some littles aren't childlike when they are big either. i don't think it matters if your little or not. If you wnat to be in a relationship like that be in one.