relationship advice

[Guest Oni.oni]

hi hi, not much to really say here but can anyone give me any relationship advice? how to try and work through long distance, mistakes to avoid, how to try an get past fear of abandonment, etc? or anything that I haven't mentioned, also I'm sorry if this is meant for another topic I wasn't exactly sure where to post this :')

thank you in advance

[Guest]

I'm happy to help the best I can, coming from my boyfriend and my experience with a LDR. Some things to remember:

• Set aside time for each other, whether its 30 minutes a night to just talk on the phone, skype, or anything else that you PLAN to be together each day. Outside of the random texts, pictures you may send to each other. This gives you two something to look forward to, to invest in your connection. 
   
• You both will make mistakes, you cant read each others body language or anything else through text or call. It will happen and make sure you are honest with each other when it happens and you know the difference between an honest mistake and a red flag
   
• Always make sure to make it clear when your going offline and for what reason
   
• A set way of saying good night adds structure routine and helps let them know when and why your off
   
• Also always try and work in talking again later cause then it’s more like a promise
   
• Try and avoid not talking to them for a day or more, time moves differently online. 
   
• Don’t get frustrated because they may need you while you’d normally be asleep just appreciate that they need you and try to be there for them, But at the same time do so within reason and don’t let it harm your health or job.
   
• Share stuff you think they will like even if not actively in a convo at the moment, a cute picture/meme/tiktok/ etc. It’ll help their day by knowing that they are being thought of even when they aren’t actively engaging at the moment
   
• Always try and ask about their day and stuff but also about their life around them like any pets or things like that

Edited January 30, 2022 by Alana_Lala

[Guest Oni.oni]

I'm happy to help the best I can, coming from my boyfriend and my experience with a LDR. Some things to remember:

 

• Set aside time for each other, whether its 30 minutes a night to just talk on the phone, skype, or anything else that you PLAN to be together each day. Outside of the random texts, pictures you may send to each other. This gives you two something to look forward to, to invest in your connection. 

   

• You both will make mistakes, you cant read each others body language or anything else through text or call. It will happen and make sure you are honest with each other when it happens and you know the difference between an honest mistake and a red flag

   

• Always make sure to make it clear when your going offline and for what reason

   

• A set way of saying good night adds structure routine and helps let them know when and why your off

   

• Also always try and work in talking again later cause then it’s more like a promise

   

• Try and avoid not talking to them for a day or more, time moves differently online. 

   

• Don’t get frustrated because they may need you while you’d normally be asleep just appreciate that they need you and try to be there for them, But at the same time do so within reason and don’t let it harm your health or job.

   

• Share stuff you think they will like even if not actively in a convo at the moment, a cute picture/meme/tiktok/ etc. It’ll help their day by knowing that they are being thought of even when they aren’t actively engaging at the moment

   

• Always try and ask about their day and stuff but also about their life around them like any pets or things like that

thank you! that's definitely a lot to work with and I appreciate it greatly, I'll remember to keep all of those in mind

thank you again ♡

[Guest]

thank you! that's definitely a lot to work with and I appreciate it greatly, I'll remember to keep all of those in mind

thank you again ♡

Of course!! im happy to share. its not an exact science since every relationship is different but these things seems to help me and my boyfriend. if you ever have any questions or need someone to listen, im here to help ^-^