ABDL Limit Potential Partners?

[LeftyGuitar]

Hello all,

 

I was wondering does anyone thing that being ABDL limits your chances of finding someone? I know its probably one of the lesser known fetishes. Also, probably not as understood as some might say more established fetishes.

[Guest idk10]

I do feel that ABDL is a kink that not a lot of people find appealing. It's often hard to find people near you into it. Also I tend to see a lot more adult babies than caregivers in that respect. However I also think DDLG is the same when it comes to difficulty. These kinks publicly speaking are viewed quite controversially also there are differences into how much people are into them. e.g some use pacifiers etc others don't like it. 

I think you can increase your chances depending on where you are looking. For example, reddit I know has an ABDL seeking section as does Fet. It is important to note like all dating sites these run the exact same risk when it comes to seeking individuals, so bare that in mind. 

[Little kaiya]

I've never found being ABDL an issue or limiting. I had multiple partners who knew before I got married. I'm now married to my Wife of 15 years and been with my Daddy/Boyfriend for 4+ years. Both of them are fully aware and involved with me as a little and ABDL and it's never been an issue.

 

Heck, my Daddy actually wants me in diapers more than would be my preference lol.

[LeftyGuitar]

Thank you for the replies. I agree that it is kinda controvesial to the outside world. Also, there are some who are really into it. I'd also like to see other's replies as well.

[SmolAetherr]

i think with all fetish/kink the more you have the more specific your needs are = the more difficult it is to find people who understand let alone a partner that is something you have to bear in mind, having an idea about things you can live without if you met the right person would be valuable

Edited January 25, 2022 by SmolAetherr

[Barney048]

Kinks/fetishes of any sort (except some extreemes) don't really limit people as much as you may think. I often hear people say that they can't find a suitable partner because of their DDLG/BDSM side. But let's be realistic. The vanilla side of a relationship is much more limiting than kink could ever be. Finding someone who you hit it off with, whose company you enjoy, someone who you can see a REALISTIC future with ... That's a challenge. When it comes to kink, as long as both parties embrace their Dom/sub side, and are open minded, the dynamic will evolve into something great with time (Given that there's proper communication and trust). Ofcourse your kinks will limit you to some extent as well, but not nearly as much as the vanilla side of a relationship.

Edited January 25, 2022 by Barney048

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Hi Lefty!

 

I have some friends who are into ABDL and they almost all of them kind of opened up to their SO about it after rather than presenting it as a main aspect of their lives/personality, though we're all girls so I think that makes people more forgiving of that sort of paraphernalia than for boys.

It's controversial, I agree, but also super misunderstood (because it's not always a sexual thing for people, not everyone messes/wants changing ect ect), so I can see why it's hard to open up about that. I would say that you'd probably have to find someone who has at least HEARD of DDLG or ABDL before opening up about that part of your life, but it's something you'd probably have to let unfold with time. I think you should also let go of rigid expectations of what a relationship like that would look like, because being open-minded about stuff like this takes two, you know?

[Pieplup]

Kinks/fetishes of any sort (except some extreemes) don't really limit people as much as you may think. I often hear people say that they can't find a suitable partner because of their DDLG/BDSM side. But let's be realistic. The vanilla side of a relationship is much more limiting than kink could ever be. Finding someone who you hit it off with, whose company you enjoy, someone who you can see a REALISTIC future with ... That's a challenge. When it comes to kink, as long as both parties embrace their Dom/sub side, and are open minded, the dynamic will evolve into something great with time (Given that there's proper communication and trust). Ofcourse your kinks will limit you to some extent as well, but not nearly as much as the vanilla side of a relationship.

This is true obviously people have limits but my s/o wasn't even wanting to do ageplay but she loves it now. I don't think even if you are both sub or dom it's a huge issue because we were both sub but now we are both switch. I think people should look for people as people you want to be in a relationship first because most people are atleast somewhat open to it and I think also alot of people have a kinky side they don't know about.

[princessfreckles]

Tbh, abdl is pretty niche. Overall it's a kink that's either a hard limit or they enjoy it, and there isn't really an in between. It may take a while, so be as honest as possible when getting to know someone who you're interested in. 

[Little kaiya]

For my Wife and for my Daddy neither were into ABDL but nor was it a hard limit. It was just a kink they hadn't tried before. We explored it together and it turned out well.

 

I find a lot of ABDL folks are sadly not honest when they start relationships then end up wondering why their partner is so upset to find out only much later. I think it is the hiding, lying and self inflicted shame that ABDL folks do and put o themselves that ends up being limiting far more than being into ABDL play.

[LeftyGuitar]

Thank you all for the posts. I was waiting to see if anymore would post. This has helped me gained more in-sight on how some people see ABDL.