Advice For A New Little!

[NaughtayPumpkinLatte]

Hello, I’m Luna!

 

Hope you’re all super well!

 

I’ll start off by saying that I know every relationship is different, and ought to be tailored to fit the individuals and how they coincide together. That being said, I had some questions and was hoping to get some advice from experienced people in the lifestyle, as this is relatively new to me, and I am finally considering for the first time, looking for a Daddy, or Mommy.

 

1. What do you think the absolute most important thing is in a cg/little role? Something that is important in every dynamic?

 

2. What are some helpful ways that you have found, to slip into headspace whenever you’re feeling stressed, or anxious, or is it just natural for you?

 

3. What’s some of your favorite, but unique things to do while you’re in headspace?

 

4. Do you find it easier to go into headspace with certain people, or on your own?

 

Just curious and would love any info or advice passed along my way!

[Little kaiya]

Well, let's see now.

 

1. Trust and communication. Without those two things no relationship will survive and especially not one as emotionally intimate and vulnerable as DDlg.

 

2. My Daddy's lap. 10 seconds in his lap and BOOM, instant littlespace.

 

3. Really anything with my Daddy but I'd say bath time is super special.

 

4. Definitely with my Daddy. I honestly couldn't imagine being in littlespace without Him.

[PapaGrayWolf]

Hello Luna,

 

As you said, every relationship is different and that doesn't change reference the type of relationship; vanilla, BDSM, Dom/sub, DDlg or any number of types.

 

Communication is a two way street.  It's just as important coming from you as to you.  That depends upon you and the type of relationship you want.

 

Speaking only for myself, I would not want a relationship without that level of communication.  I also need to give love as well as receive it. 

 

Before you enter into such a relationship you need to talk at length with your prospective Daddy to insure you agree and to compromise on things you have differences about.  And there will be differences, whether favorite type of music or movies, politics and a host of other things. 

 

Good luck to you and if you care to, do a friend request. 

 

Michael

[NaughtayPumpkinLatte]

Well, let's see now.

1. Trust and communication. Without those two things no relationship will survive and especially not one as emotionally intimate and vulnerable as DDlg.

2. My Daddy's lap. 10 seconds in his lap and BOOM, instant littlespace.

3. Really anything with my Daddy but I'd say bath time is super special.

4. Definitely with my Daddy. I honestly couldn't imagine being in littlespace without Him.

All of that sounds super awesome! I’m glad you’ve found someone you can feel safe, happy, and comfy with. That’s all so so important! I’m looking forward to bath time with my CG when I do find one, because I already love bath time, but I think I’d like it a lot more with my partner. Thank you for all your answers! <3

[NaughtayPumpkinLatte]

Hello Luna,

 

As you said, every relationship is different and that doesn't change reference the type of relationship; vanilla, BDSM, Dom/sub, DDlg or any number of types.

 

Communication is a two way street.  It's just as important coming from you as to you.  That depends upon you and the type of relationship you want.

 

Speaking only for myself, I would not want a relationship without that level of communication.  I also need to give love as well as receive it. 

 

Before you enter into such a relationship you need to talk at length with your prospective Daddy to insure you agree and to compromise on things you have differences about.  And there will be differences, whether favorite type of music or movies, politics and a host of other things. 

 

Good luck to you and if you care to, do a friend request. 

 

Michael

Hi, Papa, and thank you for your response! Communication is definitely important. I struggle with being able to identify my feelings in the moment, and don’t usually recognize them until afterward. I think I could greatly benefit from someone more emotionally organized than myself, to help me sort those thoughts and feelings, and funnel them down into their raw emotion — like “I’m feeling like I want to kick the wall, and scream, and hit things,” into “anger”. I dunno, maybe I’m too complicated or weird for most potential CG’s, but only time will tell, I suppose.

[PapaGrayWolf]

There is nothing wrong with being complicated but you are right, not every partner would be good at dealing with that.  That emphasizes the need to talk prior to entering into a close relationship. 

 

One thing that it took ,me far too long to learn, but finally I did, is to hold her until she calms down, letting her cry and/or scream.  Holding her lets her feel safe and cared for even as those emotions are rampant and crying may let her exhaust that emotion, to become calm.  Not every caregiver or partner can do that. 

[NaughtayPumpkinLatte]

There is nothing wrong with being complicated but you are right, not every partner would be good at dealing with that.  That emphasizes the need to talk prior to entering into a close relationship. 

 

One thing that it took ,me far too long to learn, but finally I did, is to hold her until she calms down, letting her cry and/or scream.  Holding her lets her feel safe and cared for even as those emotions are rampant and crying may let her exhaust that emotion, to become calm.  Not every caregiver or partner can do that.

 

I absolutely would never rush into a dynamic of any kind without properly hashing things out, or communicating my needs, as well as what I’m willing and able to bring to the table for someone else. I have had a tendency in my past relationships, to get very clingy and that was always something that didn’t bode well in the normal relationships that I’ve had, so definitely something to be discussed with a potential partner.

[Pieplup]

Hello, I’m Luna!

 

Hope you’re all super well!

 

I’ll start off by saying that I know every relationship is different, and ought to be tailored to fit the individuals and how they coincide together. That being said, I had some questions and was hoping to get some advice from experienced people in the lifestyle, as this is relatively new to me, and I am finally considering for the first time, looking for a Daddy, or Mommy.

 

1. What do you think the absolute most important thing is in a cg/little role? Something that is important in every dynamic?

 

2. What are some helpful ways that you have found, to slip into headspace whenever you’re feeling stressed, or anxious, or is it just natural for you?

 

3. What’s some of your favorite, but unique things to do while you’re in headspace?

 

4. Do you find it easier to go into headspace with certain people, or on your own?

 

Just curious and would love any info or advice passed along my way!

1. Trust.

2. I don't.

3. i like taking being bathed by cg

4. I don't really enjoy age regressing by myself doing it with other people is a large part of what makes it enjoyable for me.

[Guest]

1. What do you think the absolute most important thing is in a cg/little role? Something that is important in every dynamic?

• Trust and communication. As you said most relationships are unique to those in it, but you have to have these two things to make any relationship/dynamic work. 
  

 

2. What are some helpful ways that you have found, to slip into headspace whenever you’re feeling stressed, or anxious, or is it just natural for you?

• I normally fall into that headspace pretty easily but when im really anxious or stressed it can get hard but if i watch some cartoons, listen to some disney playlists, or play some animal crossing type games it helps me relax enough. 
  

 

3. What’s some of your favorite, but unique things to do while you’re in headspace?

 

• I'm not sure if its really unique to me...
  

 

4. Do you find it easier to go into headspace with certain people, or on your own?

• I can go into the headspace on my own, but i normally need to be alone at home to do so but I can slip into the headspace with my daddy normally anywhere because i feel safe and relaxed with him. 
  

[Guest Teasing Tink]

1. What do you think the absolute most important thing is in a cg/little role? Something that is important in every dynamic?

It's hard to generalize, but for me personally, at the risk of sounding cheesy/cliché/vague, I'd say love. I also think real chemistry and compatibility is important just in general. I don't believe in forcing a dynamic with someone just because it's something you both happen to want -- if that makes sense. It should happen organically.

 

2. What are some helpful ways that you have found, to slip into headspace whenever you’re feeling stressed, or anxious, or is it just natural for you?

I don't believe in forcing things, so I don't force it. If adult me is getting too stressed and obsessive compulsive, she can have her moment until little me is ready to come out and play. I guess I value my adult space as much as my little space, so I never feel a sense of urgency to enter little space. Or rather, entering little space is not the only way I destress. It's only one aspect of my personality.

 

3. What’s some of your favorite, but unique things to do while you’re in headspace?

I don't know about unique, but overall, I just babble, age play and get overly hyper, playful and silly.

 

4. Do you find it easier to go into headspace with certain people, or on your own?

I'm not sure. Maybe an equal amount of both? I noticed I have certain triggers such as anything that has a strong essence of purity, joy and innocence like certain children's movies or songs. Sometimes it's just seeing cutesy things. It's more of a heart space than a headspace for me because of the feelings that precede it. And sometimes there is no trigger and it's just random. Being with and thinking about my Daddy can also take me there.

 

I do tend to feed off of people's energy, so sometimes it is easier to enter that heart space when I'm with my Daddy or I'm with my brother who knows I'm a little but doesn't identify as a little. Sometimes my brother acts child-like though, and we're both really close, so I feel super comfortable being my little, crazy self around him.

[Vampiress]

1. What do you think the absolute most important thing is in a cg/little role? Something that is important in every dynamic?

Like most everyone has answered, trust and communication is a major component of this lifestyle. This dynamic just doesn't work without those because both people give so much more of themselves.

2. What are some helpful ways that you have found, to slip into headspace whenever you’re feeling stressed, or anxious, or is it just natural for you?

If I'm stressed or anxious it can be very hard for me to even get close to littlespace. My little side tends to retreat during these times, but on occasion it will come out. When that happens it's usually not in a good way, like feeling scared and helpless.

3. What’s some of your favorite, but unique things to do while you’re in headspace?

Not sure if anything I like is unique... but I like going through my toys, playing with Barbies, cuddling with stuffies, watching cartoons, listening to littlespace type music, playing with my dog, gaming, coloring, etc.

4. Do you find it easier to go into headspace with certain people, or on your own?

I feel more comfortable on my own (less fear of judgment and vulnerability) but it's easier with someone else if they trigger it in me unexpectedly.

[LittlePupRune]

1. What do you think the absolute most important thing is in a cg/little role? Something that is important in every dynamic?

 

I think active building of trust and proactive communication is the most important in a dynamic. As for specific for a cg/little role, I don't think I can say anything else apart from the previous except for everyone involved to remember that they are all people and individuals to be valued and not just a single role or kink dispenser.

2. What are some helpful ways that you have found, to slip into headspace whenever you’re feeling stressed, or anxious, or is it just natural for you?

Physically making myself smaller, curling up, wrapping myself up into a blanket, getting my sippy.

3. What’s some of your favorite, but unique things to do while you’re in headspace?

 

Origami, polymer clay stuff. I do want to try doing some crochet in little space but it may be too "big" for it.

4. Do you find it easier to go into headspace with certain people, or on your own?

 

Its easier with people tbh, either on a zoom little social or event, or with my Sir in the room with me. 

[NaughtayPumpkinLatte]

Wow, thank you so much for all the responses! I know I didn’t make it very Daddy/CG/Dom friendly, so I apologize for that! Any advice that the Daddies have for me would be greatly appreciated, as well!