Discussing Collars and the meaning behind them.

[Guest]

I love to learn other members of the communities view on collars/Symbols of ownership, such as:

• Do you like them in little space? 
• Does it hinder your mindset? 
• What does it mean to you, if you do have one?
• etc. 

 

​What is your symbolic collar?  

• choker
• earrings
• anklet
• necklace
• tattoo
• etc.

If you haven't really explored collaring, here's some videos that may help you ^-^ 
 

Collars 101 - [NSFW]

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6FKV_z9EfQ4

• Creator: Evie Lupine - Youtube Profile
• Description: Collars, collars collars! Everyone wants to know about collars! Few items in BDSM are as important, as revered as the all-encompassing collar. I know I have spent a lot of time in the past on this channel talking about collars from the D/s or power exchange perspective. But at the end of the day, collars started out as practical tools for bondage. So what I'd like to do is return to those roots, talk about the origins of collars, their types, how to use them in scenes and safety issues. FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY. All of my videos are intended to provide safety information for adults that choose to engage in these activities as well as combat stereotypes and misinformation.
   

BDSM COLLARS - For Beginners - [NSFW]
 https://youtu.be/JpMaUjp2E8I

• Creator: Watts The Safeword - Youtube Profile
• This week the wonderful, sexy and resident Daddy Kristofer is back to discuss collars and how he and Amp define their collar and relationship. What is a collar when it comes to BDSM, what types are there, and what do they mean to different people? 

Collar Ceremonies - [NSFW]

 https://youtu.be/oN9d8_YMsUI

• Creator: Evie Lupine - Youtube Profile
• Description: First come loves, then comes... collaring ceremonies? Maybe? What exactly is a collaring ceremony? Who can have one? What role do they play in BDSM? What does one include in a collaring ceremony? How do you know you are ready for one? And what the heck does this all have to do with vanilla marriage and collars?! Let's discuss! FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY.

 

 https://youtu.be/RgqhmMpDB0U

 

• Creator: Evie Lupine - Youtube Profile
• Description: Review what collaring ceremonies are, when people have them, where, and what sort of things are typically included in collaring ceremonies. FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY.

 

Self collaring - [NSFW]

 https://youtu.be/9ydOLkY5ZcY

 

• Creator: Evie Lupine - Youtube Profile
• Description: Discussing the concept of self-collaring! Is it possible? who can do it, and how? How much like regular collaring is it, and what meaning does it have? Why might someone do this? FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY.

Alternatives to collars to show ownership - [NSFW]

 https://youtu.be/qtfNZpdV2HQ

• Creator: Evie Lupine - Youtube Profile
• Description: Besides just collars, there are many alternatives to show that you are owned. Scarring, piercings, tattoos, and branding are all ways that people mark their submissives when they are in a permanent, lifelong relationship. Many, but not all, have a similar meaning to a vanilla wedding band.
• In the world of BDSM, marks of ownership are an important way to convey your status as a submissive and the status of your relationship. Collars are the most common  way to mark ownership. But over the last few years collars have become fashion statements and many submissives wear them, owned or not (even solid steel locking collars) for how they look and their aesthetic.
   

BDSM 101: Protectors and Being Under Protection - [NSFW]

 https://youtu.be/DJ7gzBCCOXE

• Creator: Evie Lupine - Youtube Profile
• Description: What or who are protectors in BDSM? How do you find a protector? What do they do? How are they different from having a Dominant, or a trainer? I answer all these questions and more in this video! 

 

please ask any questions that you may have, share videos, links, etc.

Edited February 21, 2022 by Alana_Lala

[Pieplup]

not so much in little space more when being a pet. Idk to me it's more of a symbol of being owned and part of the pet roleplay

[PrincessVanellope]

It doesn't hinder or enhance my mindset in little space. I don't mind wearing it during little time. Mine is a black leather choker with a heart in the middle.

[Little kaiya]

I wear a locked stainless steel day collar 24/7/365. I don't have the keys, those belong to my Wife and my Daddy/boyfriend. As it is something I always wear it is with me when I'm in littlesoace or not and in no way hinders my little mindset as it's a symbol and reminder of my relationship with my Wife and my Daddy.

 

For us the collar represents a lifelong bond and commitment on the same level as my wedding ring with my Wife. It is not something given early in a relationship, easily or lightly.

 

The meaning is different for everyone but for us it is not something given while just dating, to a play partner or oneself. It is a bond between partners rather than a fashion statement. It took a lot for the three of us to get to the point of a collaring ceremony so we very much hold a collar as a very, very significant item in our relationship.

[LittlePupRune]

I don't think I could do a solid leather or nylon "choker" style collar in little space, but a chain or cord would definitely work. I'm supposed to be wearing a 24/7 discreet collar but my partner has not found a replacement one since I developed allergies to the last one I wore.

Outside of little space it does not hinder, but actually enhances my headspace.

For us its an affirmation of the commitment to each other and the dynamic we have agreed to enter, as well as a reminder of our responsibilities to each other to strengthen, support, and assist in continuing to grow and develop.

[Guest]

When I first got into the lifestyle, I only seen collars as a symbol of my submission and my dominants ownership of me, which in part it is but in my current relationship it means so much more. 

 

​I have quite a few pieces of jewelry that signify the connection, commitment, and love between me and my daddy. They fall into three categories for me and the main jewelry I wear for it. 

 

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Play collar - Used in a scene or to get into the mindset for a scene:

 

 Black leather choker - very simple design that closes tight against my throat. It places me in a darker mindset but I wear it during most scenes. 

 

 

 

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Day collar - these are more for every day use, can pass in the vanilla world: 

 

  A rainbow chain day collar/necklace - with a heart lock for when we are playing around, public together or special occasions. I feel my collar can put me in a little/middle mindset but I don't have to have one on to reach it. So while it doesn't hinder my mindset, it isn't a necessity either. This one makes me feel cutesy. 

 

  Kitten birth stone day collar - very simple chain and design that I can wear anytime I like and goes with most outfits. 

 

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Permanent Collar - something I wear constantly to remind me of our relationship and commitment. 

 

  A set of cartilage earrings - one that is black and one that is silver to signify us. we bought them together for me to wear constantly since where I work I cant wear any type of necklace/choker. 

 

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The main thing for me is each one was given or bought to solidify the connection we already have for each other. 

I even bought my daddy a collar that he wears constantly so they aren't just for submissives, its just a symbol of what you make with the other person. 

Edited January 16, 2022 by Alana_Lala

[Vampiress]

I think collars in general enhance my headspace whether it's just submission and BDSM or littlespace. Especially if it's a certain type of collar. The cuter it is, the better it is for littlespace. I also like the idea of bracelets or anklets as a more acceptable alternative form of "collaring" in public.

Edited April 24, 2022 by Vampiress

[Little kaiya]

My Daddy and I adjust the fit of my play collar depending on whether it's for a scene, day wear at home, leashed walks or sleeping.

 

My day collar has a static length of fine chain and is a reminder but completely non-restrictive.

[LilDemonBaby]

Sorry for double post! Edited April 19, 2022 by LilAlienBrat

[LilDemonBaby]

[Guest Crybunbun]

When in little space i prefer cute lookin collars / chokers - nothing to heavy; somethin that also pass as vanilla
as an alternative i also like a bow ( bigger than a bowtie; you often see these on school-uniforms)
i love wearing a collar to get into pet-space - but it needs to be cute too hehe