How do you handle the embarrassment of interacting with people within the ddlg?

[StrawberryDoll]

I knew DDLG years ago but I barely have interacted with people on it because I feel embarrassed of talk with others, and I'm scared to be discovered for people around me. How you handle with this?

[Alaskan Daddy]

 I don't hardly talk with anyone outside the DDLG community about anything DDLG related. Most people don't understand. I am very guarded just because of the judgment of others outside of the DDLG community. All you can do is be careful with who you share with

[CollateralBeauty]

Good question! I struggle with social anxiety myself, so talking to anyone in general is a hurdle in and of itself. 

 

Something that I find that helps make it easier is to start small. So maybe start by talking with a few people at first. And then once you are more comfortable, start branching out and talking to more people or joining some of the social chatting sites. I also journal a lot, which helps me to reflect and track the progress that I am making. 

 

Regarding talking about DDLG, maybe ease into conversations about it. Start by just getting to know someone and building your trust in them. Once you have built up your trust in them, gradually start talking about parts of the DDLG lifestyle. 

[Guest princesslovelace]

Well, here's what I highly recommend you do if you're afraid of people you know finding out you're into ddlg online: make an alias name for yourself. With a set alias you can comfortably be yourself and chat with those about DDLG, whether it's here on this forum or somewhere else online. 

It's alright to feel scared or embarrassed to talk to people about these types of things, that's why this website was created: to allow a safe place for people of the same interests. I believe there's a category somewhere on this site where people can go and make friends with people online (you should check it out!)

In regards to talking to people about it in real life, I don't really recommend doing so... ddlg is a bit of a controversial thing and not everyone will understand.

 

If you ever wanna chat with me my door is always opened! I hope I was able to give you some good advice.

[MasterPhotog]

I knew DDLG years ago but I barely have interacted with people on it because I feel embarrassed of talk with others, and I'm scared to be discovered for people around me. How you handle with this?

 

There's no need at all to be embarrassed in talking to others about DDlg as others are fully accepting of this dynamic. 

Feel free to add and DM me if I can be of further help. 

[BrassyBabyGirl]

IRL I do not advertise my lifestyle. Every now and then though someone will smile in a way you know they get you lol like if I am walking in Walmart and have a fit over giant bears....alone....ha. I get away with a lot like I am cutesie and petite anyway so it is not that odd I like bows and color but I do not think it is wise to overshare period. Work is work and school is school and little space is little space. My BF is my Daddy so we are ummm reserved around family. Like at Christmas he was like ahhhhh we forgot to get babygirl her bib...and we both startled and got big eyed and I was like you mean that apron? hehhe That said....I am not ashamed of who and what I am and if anyone ever came at me to shame me......I will poop allllllll over their day. Believe that.

[Guest Bearnana]

It be like that sometimes, I find it more welcoming to talk with others inside the lifestyle than people outside of it. I have had the guts to talk about CGL to essentially vanilla people but on very rare occasions. The most I elude to with someone outside of dynamics and kinks is my kink to ropeplay and so far that always gets a reaction I can judge if more should be said or not. Most of the time it's not more.