Ds relationship without punishments?

[Rosebud]

My Dom/Mistress and I are going on two years this December. We have been going through changes in ourselves and our relationship lately but we're working through them. I think I've always felt little without realizing others out there feel the same (hey guys!) and we've talked about my being little and what I feel like I need/want. I already had rules and we expanded on them but to be honest, we've hardly followed them or that's how it feels like from my POV. I've only been punished a handful of times for breaking them and I definitely break our bedtime rule quite a lot. It also apparently doesn't count when we're together because we always stay up super late anyway. I brought it up today about how I want and need rules to be enforced (what's the point of having them if they aren't?) and she said that she doesn't think they're as important to her as they are to me. She has made excuses about not knowing how to punish me while we're long distance (we've lived together but until the summer months she's away at school.) She said she already has a lot on her mind and is stressed out from school but we'll talk about it later. I'm not sure what's going to happen yet but whatever happens, I want to stay together but I have to make sure that I'm happy too with whatever we decide.

 

I always thought of our relationship as Ds but now I feel like it's changing completely and while I'm fine and feel like I can adapt to different situations, I don't know what's going to happen to us. I've done without rules so far so it isn't that big of a deal but I still feel like it was important to bring up to her... is there anyone in a Ds, DDlg, etc relationship without rules? I just want to know how other relationships function. How do you deal with the distance? Do you talk about issues right away rather than wait and think about them first? I need all the advice I can get.

 

Thanks!

x Poppy

aka Rosebud

[Daddy'sSpacePrincess]

My Daddy and I don't have a set list of rules. He basically just corrected my behavior as he goes, so I can kind of understand was it's like to have no rules. If you don't have rules, I think it's important that your significant other does things with you to make you feel little. That's the situation I have going on and it works well for me. I can't offer much advice on an LDR because I'm not in one.. But skype. imo, it's best to discuss problems when they arise. Idk about you but keeping silent about problems stresses me out. You'll feel better and get everything worked out more quickly if you just discuss problems right away.