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[Phoenix78]

What does it feel like to be loved or love? I don't know the answer, I'm genuinely confused. It feels like a dumb question like what kind of person doesnt know what love feels like. How stupid or oblivious does this person have to be. But I genuinely don't know or don't remember, it's all the same at this point. I feel alone and I have no right. I feel unloved and I have no right.

I feel ungrateful?

[Fuego]

It's all soft and warm and fuzzy. Like petting a kitten or a puppy

[Little kaiya]

It really depends on the individual as it is very different for different people. The love I have for and with my wife is different from the love I have for and with my Boyfriend/Daddy.

 

In general though it feels like authenticity, support, care, comfort, it feels non-judgmental, enduring and life changing. Love makes me feel like a better person and more truly me because I don't have to hide any parts of who I am.

[DollDirector]

love is a material .

not a concept or something like that.

supply is not critically short, but short. that's why you have to make do with times when you are bordering on withdrawal symptoms.

[Guest Teasing Tink]

It's not a dumb question at all. I think there are plenty of people who don't know what love feels like. Especially if they never had an example of it reflected back at them or they experienced trauma in childhood or early on in life. 

 

I'm not sure why you feel you have no right to your own feelings. Or why you feel ungrateful -- unless you mean you feel like you do have people who love you in your life but you don't allow yourself to receive/feel it for whatever reason. You feel what you feel, you know? You're entitled to your own feelings. Life can be hard enough as it is without shaming ourselves for having our own feelings even if they're low, such as loneliness and emptiness. It's good to be honest with yourself about how you feel, even if it's not pretty. It's the only way to transcend these lower states we fall into. 

 

I think all feelings are valid and there are valid reasons behind them, even if they come from a distorted/wounded place. It's just a sign that something inside of you needs healing or your attention. But that is the art of self-love or self-care. Many of us tend to have a very critical or harsh inner voice. If you really want to know what love feels like, it starts inside yourself, in my opinion, by speaking kindly and gently to yourself. Taking care of yourself and encouraging yourself when you feel down. I know that's a process that can take time to learn though. A lot of us wind up internalizing unloving voices and then that sort of becomes our inner voice over time, without us noticing. But it's good to work at changing this in order to cultivate that feeling of love inside yourself. I believe it's in all of us, because at our core, we *are* love and light. 

 

But yes, it also definitely helps when we're surrounded by people who love us too, if we don't know where to start. No one loves perfectly, of course, but what everyone else said was spot on. It is a very warm and velvety feeling if we're strictly talking about vibrations. It feels like nurturing. Caring about your well-being. Wanting the best for you and your growth. There are different types of love of course, and everyone defines it a bit differently, but that's sort of the general consensus, I suppose. Perhaps you've numbed yourself to the feeling since being hurt by someone, as a way to protect yourself? I'm not sure, exactly, but I hope this at least helps a little bit.

[DollDirector]

it's like when you have a cramp or something, you are well aware of it. but when it goes away you immediately forget it because the normal state, is not aching. suddenly you realize the cramp has gone away and you didn't even notice.

 

maybe I take love for the normal state, forget to be grateful for any amount received.

 

[Phoenix78]

Thank you everyone for the answers Edited December 10, 2021 by Phoenix78