Fairly new but have some XP as Daddy, looking for improvement

[Arthur Brulmar]

I am in a LDR and also in the DD/lg lifestyle with my babygirl (a Middle) Nathalia Archer. We got most things figured out, just need some advise on appropriate punishments. Also, if you have great examples of rewards. The more ideas the you have the better. We look forward to your comments and possibly making new friends.

 

Always striving to be a good Daddy as she deserves.

Edited November 29, 2021 by Arthur Brulmar

[Nathalia Archer]

Aww 

 

Yeah, I'm not yet truly sure what I need though we do communicate clearly it's hard for me to come up with good rewards for myself. Some inspiration would really be welcome!

[Vampiress]

Have you guys tried looking at this thread for a base of ideas to build inspiration from? It'd help if we knew more what kind of things are off the table. Like some littles are okay with punishment that's more physical like spanking, and for some that's too fun to be a punishment or they just don't like it at all.

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/27958-rewards-and-punishmentsfunishments-ideas-charts-etc/

[Nathalia Archer]

Have you guys tried looking at this thread for a base of ideas to build inspiration from? It'd help if we knew more what kind of things are off the table. Like some littles are okay with punishment that's more physical like spanking, and for some that's too fun to be a punishment or they just don't like it at all.

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/27958-rewards-and-punishmentsfunishments-ideas-charts-etc/

 

Ooh, tyvm, we'll look into this! 

[Arthur Brulmar]

I will not punish in such a manner that causes permanent damage, other then that we are open to ideas.

[LittlePupRune]

Punishments should be very tailored to the individual. You also need to consider what the need for the punishment is, if any. Some need punishments as a way to feel absolved or move past the infraction, for some all they need is a conversation. Punishments are normally designed to correct a behavior, so if your partner needs strict corrections they make sense, if they genuinely try but sometimes fail maybe a punishment would be detrimental. If you discuss and decide punishments are necessary decide if they'll be physical or not, and negotiate what is acceptable to both of you. Some like adding extra chores, or writing lines, spanking is a default but you need to consider if its more of a funishment and not an actual punishment. Some people do things like kneeling on rice or something with legos to create actual aversive punishments. But as always it needs to be negotiated and tailored to the individuals involved.

[Arthur Brulmar]

Punishments are not really the issue to that extreme or kneeling on things, since we communicate very well and she is a very obedient little. Activities and Rewards are the focus more on the topic I feel. I am very grateful to be her Daddy and she respects me and reciprocates back properly. I adore and love her.

[LittlePupRune]

Punishments are not really the issue to that extreme or kneeling on things, since we communicate very well and she is a very obedient little. Activities and Rewards are the focus more on the topic I feel. I am very grateful to be her Daddy and she respects me and reciprocates back properly. I adore and love her.

 

Then at that point you could probably just not have punishments in your relationship and focus on rewards. Sounds like punishments may not be necessary at all.