Caring King Posted November 4, 2015 Report Posted November 4, 2015 She told me some people have been picking on her after they found her little side, telling her to grow up and be mature. I'm not very experianced in all this, and I don't understand what it's like to be a little, nor do I know any other littles besides her, but I know that side makes her happy and it's a part of who she is. I've comforted her before and now just recently as it happened, but with being so new to this I'm not sure what I can do- should it happen again. One thing I've seen in other posts is that daddys can help encourage the little side of girls, for instance by playing, coloring, being supportive of that side. But what I'm wondering in particular is how can I help insist that being a little is worthwhile for her when I don't fully understand what it means. At least in d/s there are switches... ddlg feels like one or the other, right? There's no way to be able to fully relate to the little mindset. If there was, then I'm sure I'd already be there... How can I confirm her feelings when I don't know what they are?
Guest Pouty Kitten Posted November 4, 2015 Report Posted November 4, 2015 I think you kind of answered your own question..you see how happy being little makes her so I think it's great to encourage that behavior. You may not know what it's like to be little but it's the same way as being Dominant or whatever you may identify with. It's just as natural to you as being little is to her. You can reiterate to her that she should be herself no matter what anyone says or thinks about it because at the of the day, the only thing that matters is how she feels. 1
LB Chris Posted November 4, 2015 Report Posted November 4, 2015 So long as she's being responsible where it matters, then everything is okay as how we enjoy ourselves "let our hair down" differs across all sections of society and that is perfectly fine. 2
Princess-P Posted November 4, 2015 Report Posted November 4, 2015 I want to point out that there are switches in DDlg. All you can do is incourage her to bring her little side out and then show her how much you love it. Help her build confidence in her little side and she will start to worry less about what others think. 1
Caring King Posted November 4, 2015 Author Report Posted November 4, 2015 Thank you for the advice guys and gals. Intresting that there are switches... I really do have alot to learn ^^; anyways, I hope that I won't have to face this problem, but should she be bullied for it again, this should help.
lilvioletcub Posted November 4, 2015 Report Posted November 4, 2015 I'm a DD/lg Switch as is my boyfriend. best advice I can give is this timing. For example don't be little 24/7 if your at work or need to be "big" then be big there will be times to be little for the getting bullied/picked on about it well my first advice would take care of that if people don't see her (for example) sucking on a pacifire at work or doing little activitys in the office then if she is bullied on it she can explain that what she does outside of work is none of these peoples concerns she IS grown up and she IS muture and what she does is no diffrent then unwinding with a glass of wine/beer/tea and watching TV at the end of a hard work day and to please leave her alone so she can focus on her work That should work no matter the setting then when you two are home you can encourge her little side and have little time for as long as you two want. What you do in your down time is no one's buissness 1
Guest DaddyJoe Posted November 4, 2015 Report Posted November 4, 2015 She told me some people have been picking on her after they found her little side, telling her to grow up and be mature. I'm not very experianced in all this, and I don't understand what it's like to be a little, nor do I know any other littles besides her, but I know that side makes her happy and it's a part of who she is. I've comforted her before and now just recently as it happened, but with being so new to this I'm not sure what I can do- should it happen again. One thing I've seen in other posts is that daddys can help encourage the little side of girls, for instance by playing, coloring, being supportive of that side. But what I'm wondering in particular is how can I help insist that being a little is worthwhile for her when I don't fully understand what it means. At least in d/s there are switches... ddlg feels like one or the other, right? There's no way to be able to fully relate to the little mindset. If there was, then I'm sure I'd already be there... How can I confirm her feelings when I don't know what they are? who is picking on her and where?
Guest LexiGremlin Posted November 4, 2015 Report Posted November 4, 2015 There are switches in Caregiver/little dynamics. I'm a Mistress/Little and my girlfriend/Mommy is a Mommy-Domme. I would say, just tell her to ignore it and express herself. Be true to herself. If she's acting immature, that's for HER. She's not trying to impress anyone. She's doing it because it makes her happy. And she can't turn it into a joke? They might only be bullying her because she reacts. I'm open about my Lifestyle. The few people in my department know I'm a Mistress/Little. One coworker who I love to death calls me "Lil Freaky". I don't let it get to me. I laugh it off. And it doesn't get to me. Because I'm comfortable with who I am. And always remember: Bullies only bully people because they are insecure with themselves. They target things about a person that THEY want to be. Or that is different from the "social norms."
Caring King Posted November 5, 2015 Author Report Posted November 5, 2015 I don't know who is bullying her, she just told me that she was being picked on for it. I'm not sure how they found out either, but likely someone online on a less-supportive website.
lilvioletcub Posted November 5, 2015 Report Posted November 5, 2015 I don't know who is bullying her, she just told me that she was being picked on for it. I'm not sure how they found out either, but likely someone online on a less-supportive website. Wait is she being builled online or in person?
Guest LexiGremlin Posted November 5, 2015 Report Posted November 5, 2015 I don't know who is bullying her, she just told me that she was being picked on for it. I'm not sure how they found out either, but likely someone online on a less-supportive website. If it's cyber-bullying just have her avoid that site for a while or even block said members from contacting her and from her being able to read their stuff. 1
LolitasDaddy Posted November 11, 2015 Report Posted November 11, 2015 It seems to me that you need to be having a conversation with her, like maybe find out what actually happened, where and why, than looking for a blanket solution to an unknown problem. 1
ThePlusSizedBarbie Posted December 8, 2015 Report Posted December 8, 2015 She needs to tell these people to stick it where the sun don't shine!
HerDarkDaddy Posted December 9, 2015 Report Posted December 9, 2015 You were a kid once...albeit, perhaps not a female one...but, you do have SOME idea of what it is like to be little and, while not every little kid is the same, you can still somewhat relate to how she feels when she is in "little space". That need for attention, approval and the loving support of your caregivers (parents/Daddy). Littles need all the same stuff. And, just like when any little kid is bullied, they seek protection and comforting from their caregiver. If being little makes her happy, it is nobody else's business. As you said, it is who she is...it's a part of her...and NOBODY has the right to tell her that it is wrong and that she should stop. To do so, would be denying who she is...and that isn't healthy for anyone. She needs to just ignore those people (although that can be VERY difficult sometimes, depending on who they are), distance herself and BE herself. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with what she is doing and if those people are too blind/ignorant to understand that...then, that is THEIR problem...not hers...and, she doesn't need them in her life. You are doing exactly what you should be doing. Reassuring her that being little is okay and that you support her. Encouraging her to be little, whenever possible is great and you can foster that by helping her get into little space whenever you can; i.e, making her "childish" snacks like animals shape chicken nuggets, mac 'n cheese, fruit snacks, etc...give her her drinks in sippy cups...give her baths and wash her hair, then brush it and put it in ponytails for her...sit and watch some Disney movies as you snuggle with her on the couch. This lifestyle isn't one that many people understand...but, it is one that can be very beneficial for both parties involved, in SO many ways.
Caring King Posted December 20, 2015 Author Report Posted December 20, 2015 Thank you all for the responses, but this issue is an (as far as I can tell) outdated one. I should have locked the topics. Currently I am having trouble convincing my little that it is worthwhile to be a little and that she shouldn't deny this side of her (it is heavily rooted in our relationship, but problems have come up), however, this is for a different reason. I can apply some of what you've said to this, so it is convienent I am seeing this now, but it's not longer about being buillied. Once again, thank you. -- oh, and yes, it was online.
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