adult life and little life

[plushprincess]

hello everyone,

i'm posting this because i (more or less) recently face a serious issue:

i think i kind of lost the touch to my little side.

 

this makes me really sad and causes various struggles in daily life. but maybe i should start from the beginning:

i was a happy and balanced person last year. i could get into my little space normally, or keep myself in the big world, if needed.

ever since i graduated high school that changed. i could less and less feel little, cute and safe. in the past 7 months, i don't think i ever was truly sunk into my little space, as i used to be back in the days.

now adult life is adding to it...

 

i entered university this semester and my degree course (c.s.) requires a lot of time and energy from me. knowing that little space would help balancing out the stress, beside other methods, it is so so frustrating to not be able to either find time to get into it nor know how again.

plus i think my cg and i both recognized how my little side sometimes subconsciously comes up in totally inappropriate situations, which i guess is due to the lack of attention and affection i'm giving it at the moment.

i just don't know what to do...

 

if anybody relates to this or knows any tips/ways to handle the situation, please let me know. i guess at this point, anything would help :c

[Guest Princessblushie]

I completely relate to this since starting uni and rethinking my life I haven’t felt safe and when my little does show up my cg isn’t in a mindset to help / care and i also notice it happens in inappropriate situations as well.

 

I unfortunately haven’t found a way to manage this and im looking forward to any advice that gets posted .

If you need a friend im also open to listening ✨

[plushprincess]

I completely relate to this since starting uni and rethinking my life I haven’t felt safe and when my little does show up my cg isn’t in a mindset to help / care and i also notice it happens in inappropriate situations as well.

 

I unfortunately haven’t found a way to manage this and im looking forward to any advice that gets posted .

If you need a friend im also open to listening ✨

thank you lots

my cg and i talked about this too now. we came to the conclusion, that it'd be best if i organized pauses and "little self-time" into my weekly schedule too.

the "not enough proper rest" problem doesn't solely affect little me, but also big me.

so i guess, i'll just have to manage everything through :/

[Lilita~♡]

Estoy pasando por algo similar, ya que no encuentro un momento para ser pequeño, pero les deseo lo mejor y espero podamos encontrar el equilibrio de nuevo Lilita~♡ fuera...

[Guest MidiLily]

[Lilita~♡]

Suena realmente lindo, me alegro que estés disfrutandolo, intentaré hacerlo también y muchas gracias por responder~☆

[feather-among-stones]

Hi there. My response is a bit late but I wanted to write here what I replied in another post.

 

I get the struggle so much. I haven't been comfortably in little space for 3 years now (at least). Like you, my little self comes out in unappropriate times while I can't get into it when I want to. It's really frustrating, isn't it?!

 

I can tell you how I'm dealing with the problem and you might pick something from these tips:

• I try to focus on something else long-term while I'm hoping that my little side comes back to me.
  
• I'm finding that my inability to get into little space serves some higher purpose. All my life I fell back to little space when things got tough. It was my main coping mechanism for life. Now it's time to think who I am outside little space and how to cope outside it. Find new ways to cope (haven't figured out how yet). Also, it was the struggle to get into little space that made me truly realize how it has been a big part of my life and how I relied on it. Believing that it will come back to me when the time is right.
  
• Even if I can't be in a little mindset right now, I can still enjoy little activities that I like and let it be. If it feels awkward, I choose middle activites or activities that adults are "allowed" to do, as well (adult coloring books, gaming etc.)
  

Things might be different for you but I hope I could offer some perspective, and may your little side come back to you again.

[CuteToBe]

Maybe you have too much on your plate and you're taking life way too seriously.

 

Don't get me wrong school is incredible important in the present and the future. But it shouldn't become your only focus and you shouldn't neglect your other needs.

 

I say take some time to relax and tend to your mind and body.

 

And when things relax try being little again but don't force it.