Vanilla Guy - Need Advice

[wickedwhimsies]

I met a guy on a vanilla dating app. I have been upfront and forthcoming about being a little and about having kinks.

 

He was curious so I sent him a couple of YT links explaining it, better than I could.

 

He says he really likes me and wants a relationship. He says he is understanding and okay with my little side. He knows I color, paint, love Hello Kitty, cows, unicorns, Snoopy, etc.

 

I have told him, several times that I can't have a plain vanilla relationship because that's not where my happiness is. He says he doesn't want me to change.

 

He came to see me two nights ago and we had a country bumpkin star gazing date. It was nice, sweet and innocent. We talked for a while, held hands, kissed. He brought me a unicorn stuffie that he bought me.

 

I don't know where to go from here. I don't know exactly how to explain to him what things I need as a little.

 

Any advice would be much appreciated.

[Guest Dove]

A good place to start could be to ask him what he expects and wants from a relationship with you and likewise tell him what you expect and want. You don't have to jump into anything, but being more clear about what you're maybe moving towards while enjoying each others company and feeling things out won't hurt. c:

[Guest UnicornPuff]

So far you have been honest with him and he seems to appreciate that... Continue to be honest. Regardless of how you met him, need to verbalize your wants and needs. If you met a Daddy here, you would have to tell him what you want.

[wickedwhimsies]

Thanks y'all. We discuss a lot of things related to DD/lg. We're just now beginning to discuss the goals of this, my expectations etc. I'm hoping this stays in a positive direction.

[Little kaiya]

[Daddylunababy]

He sounds like (at this early stage, granted) he could be a keeper: willing to learn (watching the YouTube videos), interested in you *as you are* (saying he doesn’t want you to change), and just a nice, considerate guy (bringing you a unicorn stuffie).

 

I’d say just “be cool” with him and see where things go. Try not to be too too overwhelming with the littleness, but don’t exactly hide it, either. You want him to get to know you for you.

 

Plus, a “country bumpkin star gazing date” sounds so wonderful and even, dare I say it, old fashioned.

Edited November 26, 2021 by Daddylunababy