Long distance punishment

[MemeDaddy]

So I'm really new to this whole dd/lg relationship thing. My little has been telling me I've been doing good, but the only thing is I don't have any punishments for her. She's real good, but when she messes up I normally have to just take away nicknames and just call her by her real name. The reason why this is the only punishment I use is because we're in a long distance relationship. Does anyone have any good ideas for punishments in this situation?

[Princess Ahri]

I don't usually date close because of people not being similar to me, but my master has done things such as denial of sexual play, enforcing rules, and also requiring me to spank myself and if it's not hard enough, makes me redo. Also denial of something they like, but not anything such as food or anything hazardous. (Except for like, maybe no sugary treats.) It all depends on her really!

 

You can also start off sentences with "Bad girls don't get ____." Whatever that may be, I'm not sure denying attention is usually a thing but you can be nice about it as well, such as "Bad girls don't deserve Daddy's affection." Or whatever, fill in the blank.

[princess.kiki]

always have a warning before punishment. dont just want to jump into a punishment. if the behavior continues, then punish. (just including this, because i find it helpful.) and, the main thing my Daddy does is have me write lines (ie- "i will not disobey Daddy", etc). i have a notebook with my rules written in the front cover. and we call it my "punishment book." if it has to do with 'playtime', He will not let me finish or play for a few nights. no stuffies. no talking to Daddy for say, 10mins. ummm. it really depends on the situation (disobey, play w/out asking, being a brat, etc) on what the punishment should be. 

[Princess Ahri]

I'm going to be blunt but this is terrible advice. This would categorize as humiliation, which is a wonderful thing but isn't for everyone. Humiliation is one of those things that can be used as punishment or as a kink. It really depends on the individual and what they're into. 

 

I wouldn't recommend it as a punishment to newbies though, especially since "don't deserve affection" is walking a thin line of an abusive statement. Humiliation of this level could be a hard limit for many. Think about this, a little has broken a rule and is already feeling ashamed and guilty for what they've done. They're listening to their Big give them the speech about what they did and why it was wrong, and suddenly these negative words come out of their mouth. In such a fragile state of mind, the little could take this to heart and it harm their self esteem.

I think you're taking it the wrong way I said it depends on the person and I'm just giving my perspective on it. Usually when you do that it's also considered a time out, but I'm also not a little that's why I was kind of unsure of saying it. Don't need to be rude. That sentence is usually a warning. I'm not asking him to abandon her, lol.

[Guest Mr TwitchPool]

We use chore monster,  my little gains points for being a good girl, i.e brushing teeth, making her bed, choosing clothes with daddy, going to bed on time etc.

 

you can set points per chore and how often i.e daily or weekly etc.

 

You can also give points just because but you can always take away points.

 

Points make prizes,  when whatever point limit is reached, big rewards little with a gift.  Such as amazon vouchers or a new outfit.

 

I love how this works, I would never stop loving or showing affection, I certainly would never ignore her, that is abusive in my eyes.

 

So as punishment my little loses points.  and when her points get her a new Lolita dress she learns her lesson.

[Guest DaddysLolita]

So I'm really new to this whole dd/lg relationship thing. My little has been telling me I've been doing good, but the only thing is I don't have any punishments for her. She's real good, but when she messes up I normally have to just take away nicknames and just call her by her real name. The reason why this is the only punishment I use is because we're in a long distance relationship. Does anyone have any good ideas for punishments in this situation?

First let me say I am new to this too, as is my Daddy, second, what works for others may not work for you and your little so it's important you establish hard limits with each other. My Daddy and I are LD too so punishment is tricky.. it bothers me a lot to hear I've broken a rule or deserve punishment. Sometimes it just depends what's happened, sometimes just hearing in his voice that I've disappointed him is enough. Other times, things are denied or taken away. Playtime, nice things like a hand written note, etc. Naughty things might be denied. For me, I highly dislike when he ignores me or doesn't talk to me (this is in no way detrimental to our relationship, it would be a good punishment because I seek his attention all the time, please don't take that wrong or as abusive, etc) The most important part is finding out limits, what motivates your little to behave and being extremely creative.