How do you treat your little when they are mad?

[ghadijay]

What if your little is mad because you didn't do something your promised or because of something else?

 

Yesterday mine was mad and i really didn't know how to react, because I explained myself, I admitted that it was my fault, but still she was mad, I didn't have no options in my mind but ending the conversation, and I know this isn't good for the relationship to just say "ok" and ignore her.

 

What do you do when yours is mad? do you just leave it until she calms down, do you try to talk in another subject? Any ideas?

 

[Vampiress]

I think anytime one fails to fulfill a promise there is an understandable level of upset, which is why you have to be careful about promising things as it sets a precedent... and if it keeps happening it can be damaging to relationships. You did the right thing in acknowleding her disappointment and understanding why she'd be upset, and it's okay if she doesn't get over it immediately... but if she's continuing to act out and guilt trip you then she's going too far since you apologized and took responsibility. There's not much more you can do than that and just try to do better in the future. I do think you're wrong in just ignoring her as silent treatment is never a good thing to resort to in a relationship as it can be seen as kind of abusive. You probably need to revisit how this was handled and maybe go over articles on how to handle disagreements fairly and what an acceptable level of upset is and how to figure it out together. If she needs space give it to her (but you should ask) or if you need space express that and let her know you'll contact her again when you've had a little time to yourself... but it is very important to let someone know you'll be back after a little bit of space. Also good to remind her that you care about her so there's no room for insecurities or worries.