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[Little Becca]

I joined this site to meet other littles at the encouragement of my (former) Daddy who just broke up with me. I am just feeling sad. I don’t know if I did something wrong - he said there are things going on in his life. I wasn’t with him very long - just a month - but I felt a true connection with him and thought I had finally found my forever Daddy. Looking back, there were some red flags I chose to ignore, because of the connection I felt. I tried my very best to be a good little girl for him. I am sad and do not like feeling this way. I was not expecting to be on this site to share this, but I am glad I’m here. Thank you for listening.

[PwincessMe]

awn im sowwy that happened, you can always try to talk to him just to understand better what happened. 

he could be feeling overwhelmed and decided it was for the best to end things... 

you should't feel like it's your fault, you probably did nothing wrong, it's all about communication if he couldn't tell you what was happening there was nothing you could do to change things 

 

[Little Becca]

Thank you so much for your response!! I don’t want to make assumptions but he made it clear that he doesn’t want to talk about what is going on. I hope everything is okay, of course, but it is in my nature to question my role in this. I truly can’t think of anything I might have done. I guess I just need to work on moving on!!!

[Mischa]

I am the same way and question everything I do also. I hope you can find peace in this time. I am so sorry you are hurting and am here for ya if you need me. Us littles have to stick together!

[MasterPhotog]

@LittleLavenderGirl, I'm sorry that you're sad. 

You mentioned that there were some red flags that you chose to ignore because of the connection you had felt. It's possible that one or more of those 'red flags' hold the key to the reason for him to break up with you. Therefore, you may want to revisit those red flags that you chose to ignore in order to find some answers. 

 

You also said that he made it clear that he 'doesn’t want to talk about what is going on' Therefore, it's possible that he had certain limits to carry on the relationship. 

 

My suggestion is to assume that none or not much of it was your fault and move on as thinking about it won't help but would continue to make you feel hurt. 

 

Hope it helps. Let me know if I can be of further help. 

[Little Becca]

Mischa, thank you so so so so much for your response, my nice little friend!!!! It means a lot to me and I have decided it is for the best. I did feel a connection with him but there were things that made me feel bad and sad, like he did not ever ask how I was doing, or how I was feeling, or if I sent him pretty dress-up pictures or pictures I colored, he would not ever even acknowledge them. So I think, looking back, this is for the best!!!!

[Little Becca]

Hi, MasterPhotog!!!!! Thank you very much for your response, it helps me a lot and it makes sense to me!!!

 

Yes, there were red flags which I talked about in the previous reply, of him not ever asking about me or how I am or feeling at all. I don’t know if it has to do with being a little and a sub, but for whatever reason I usually prefer to focus on how my Daddy feels and meeting his needs because sometimes I think it is maybe selfish to focus on myself. Still, there is a deep need I have of being cared for and about which he did not fulfill, and I don’t think I would have been able to sustain that for the long run. Also if I colored pretty pictures for him or sent dress-up pictures he didn’t usually respond at all, just ignored them so I would be left feeling very uncertain and discouraged. I ended up asking for affirmations and that is not something I am comfortable with, it makes me feel too needy!!! But also it was very confusing because he would ask for them and then not say anything.

 

I really don’t know what is going on in his life, he didn’t really open that up to me, but I think you are right that I should just move on and not worry or dwell on it anymore!!!

 

Thank you again for your response!!!

[Guest LittleElizabethBun]

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