Trying to do littlespace with a partner who doesn't want to be a caregiver

[KittenAyaka666]

Hello I'm Ayaka most people just call me Aya. for about two years now I've been trying to get my partner to participate in littlespace with me but he really seems to hate it... what do I do?

EDIT: my partner says he loves littlespace and has done it with his other partners in the past so this is why I'm confused

Edited October 6, 2021 by KittenAyaka666

[Little kaiya]

You can't force someone to like something they don't or to be someone they aren't. If your partner hates it then you really need to accept their boundaries and stop trying to force them into something they hate.

[Guest LittleElizabethBun]

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[Guest LittleElizabethBun]

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[TwistedColors]

Sounds like he doesn't kno what he wants??? Or maybe it was casual before and he doesn't want a full time dynamic. Sounds like a pickle for you both. If he's willing have a convo and see what he expects and if it doesn't match maybe rethink what you need or decide if you need to break up.

[DaddysMonkey]

I agree with Kaiya. If it’s been two years and you still get the vibe he hates it , he probably isn’t enjoying it. This is where being an adult and having an open discussion comes in instead of trying to subliminally force something on someone. Forcing someone to do something they aren’t enjoying will cause resentment. I see that you edited , and put in that he has stated that he loves little space and that you’re confused.. communication is key. If he loves little space why would you get the vibe he hates it ? Are you being self conscious ? Over thinking ? I can’t stress enough how important and mature it is to actually talk to your partner instead of trying to be slick and coax someone into something.

 

Think of it the opposite way. If he was trying to get you to mommy him , and you didn’t want to hurt his feelings and just kept doing it to make him happy…. There’s going to be a breakdown of the relationship at some point. He’s human , try talking to him.

[DaddyDomination]

Honestly the word Daddy used to creep Me out. I've been a BDSM Master half My life. Maybe it was just Me getting older but now with the right woman it can be a real turn on. Some are just born to be Dom, some are not into it at all. Then even a DDlg is a give and take relationship just like any other. Just far more Intense. 

 

There's consequences for any choice good or bad. If someone is completely unwilling to flex on a limit, then they just might see less time with Me. That's not forcing anyone to do anything they don't' want to that's known as reality. It's also one of the reason I Rarely "Date" I have lady friends who are perfect for dancing, fun company nothing sexual. Some are Hot in all the other areas some are a great mix of all of the above. I have one who I would never date but I do have a strong Sexual attraction to her, I just know from the time I have spent around I can only take her personality in small doses. 

 

If both parties don't agree to something you have to be Honest enough to sort out what is a deal breaker and what you're at least willing to try. 

 

Tough call on when your partner claims to love littlespace with others, since we're only seeing one side of the story. 

Edited October 7, 2021 by DaddyDomination