Reaching out...

[DaddyandMunchkin]

As the majority of you know, I have a little, who's name for the sake the interweb is Munchkin. Munchkin and I have been in the lifestyle for a while, long before we knew there was a label for it. She's got problems with being sociable with other littles, issues reaching out. She doesn't know how to, and has problems trusting people, with people being fake littles and fake Bigs. She sees me chat and thats all well and good but is having trouble really putting herself out there herself. If anyone has any suggestions, or warm words of support, it'd be appreciated. Please and thank you.  

[Kitten Cupcake]

Perhaps talking one on one with a little? at first, it is hard to trust people and open up to especially if you don't know anyone and it can be scary too.

[DaddyandMunchkin]

YOUUUUUUUUUUUU just want to Skype with my munchie! Heh, I kid, I kid. She doesn't want to put herself out there and think theres something for her only to get hurt..Kinda like having a relationship, only with the community as a whole. 

[Kitten Cupcake]

YOUUUUUUUUUUUU just want to Skype with my munchie! Heh, I kid, I kid. She doesn't want to put herself out there and think theres something for her only to get hurt..Kinda like having a relationship, only with the community as a whole. 

Well I'd like to be her friend as well. and I understand, I was like that at first but getting to know people can be tricky- I understand being hurt as I was hurt by a lot of people in another dd/lg chat room and it caused me a lot of pain, but I've met great people who understand me here and many many great people who I consider friend in such a short time, sure there is always the possibility of getting hurt but that is a part of life, anyone can hurt you even friends can hurt you but there are people who are genuine and caring and want to to make friends. She will find that when she is ready to open up, one step at a time, one person at a time~ and here as a community and a forum we look out for each other-granted not everyone will like you vise verse but you can make friends! you just have to be willing take a chance!

[Foxy]

I think this site is nice, warm and welcoming but for me Tumblr helped me out a while ago to just feel comfortable and not alone. Just liking and sharing, seeing other little with simular interests made me feel like apart of the community, like a frist step, with out having to invest before feeling comfortable, ya'know ^_~

[DaddyandMunchkin]

I guess it makes sense its just a habit that I've had for a long time treading lightly. I've trusted many and got burned so its going to take awhile to just jump in but I'll get there with the help of my Daddy and others. I think I can.

[ashwee]

Often I am the exact same way.  I find it really hard to put myself out there at first.  I'm a very introverted person and like what you said, I have a very hard time trusting people.  I think for me though, I've discovered that once I take that first step things only get easier from there.  The more I talk to people the more I trust them I guess?  So I'm not sure if that helps or not, but I would just suggest taking things slow.  Don't do any more than you're comfortable with and you should be fine

[LilDemonBaby]

I know the feeling, for me its compounded by the fact that im autistic. I learned really quickly that my quirks can set people off or even get me in trouble. i always had such a hard time understanding and socializing with people and when i tried, i got hurt. a lot. i push myself to socialize now because i dont want to be isolated or depressed and its great practice! ill never be the standard, but at least ive grown in a sense that if i find the right people, i can be myself and now i even advocate better for myself. its not easy by a long shot, but i feel better about who i am, and thats important. 

[Kitten&Spice]

I can understand her point and reluctance! My advice is to see if she would be interested in you reaching out to some littles for her! Maybe you can sit down one day and you both can find a little that would share interest, similarities, or anything that would work for her! You can start chatting and let the little know the situation! You can chat for a bit with the little and she can let you know when she is ready to chat with them and make it a group chat with you, her, and whoever! That way she can get out there without the fears!! I know it will be a bit more work but I am sure she will feel more at ease knowing that you approved and watched out for her!

 

I hope that she can find something that works! This community has a lot of wonderful people in it! And I am sure with her just getting out a little each time she will find some friends!!