Need help

[DaddySheep]

Hey everyone I'm new to the ddlg community. I need some tips on being a better daddy for my little we've talked and I have her full consent but. Im New to the hole kink community and would be open to any ones help.

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What in particular do you need help with?

[DaddySheep]

Well I'm struggling on staying in the mindset of daddy and i have a hard time giveing punishment to my little because I don't want to hurt her. Im look for some tip on how I can stay in the mindset so I can give my little a better life and more of a routine.

[Little kaiya]

You can't force a mindset. There may be times you are in a Daddy mindset and there may be other times you aren't and that's perfectly ok. If you try and force yourself you may find it starts to feel artificial or like a chore. Try going with the natural flow of things.

 

As for punishments, not all of them have to be painful things. There are soooooo many different types of punishments. Trying talking together to look at different options and see what may or may not work. If your little wants more corporal punishments but they make you feel uncomfortable then the two of you need to find a middle ground that respects BOTH of your feelings.

[Guest LittleElizabethBun]

Hi DaddySheep! Me and my Daddy are quite new to this as well and he has had similar issues, including not being keen on punishments than involve hurting me, and also resistance at fiest to our new dynamic, feeling ashamed etc. If you want to chat 1 to 1 about it, send me a F/R.

 

Agree with Kaiya though - it helped to have a clear talk about it, and both write down what we were wanting from this. A yes/no/maybe list in terms of punishments/services/pain play.

 

For routine and rules, discuss and agree a little bit at a time and maybe helping her with a weekly plan for her week, possibly for things she already wants to work on or has to do? My Daddy didn't realise til we wrote them down how many rules and routines he has said out loud which already actively effect my behaviour.

 

Don't force the mindset. Come at it from a place of love and exploration together with your little. You may be surprised what you already do for each other!

 

Good luck

[DaddySheep]

Hello ever one need some pointers on how to make a safe an comfortable place for my little. We live in are own apartment and she has here own little room. What else can I do to make her feel better and safer I'm afraid she is ti stressed out about every thing and I'm trying to lessen her stress but nothing I seem to do is working