The discomfort of demanding better treatment as a Little

[SexyLittleThing]

If you find that your Daddy might be:

- ignoring you

- talking to other girls

- not being affectionate

- getting mad at you for trying to discuss something that is bothering you

 

I don't know what to do.  

Edited September 20, 2021 by SexyLittleThing

[Little kaiya]

If that was happening to me I'd dump them as they clearly dont love or even respect me. Edited September 20, 2021 by Little kaiya

[SexyLittleThing]

If that was happening to me I'd dump them as they clearly dont love or even respect me.

 

  I don't want to do that. 

[MJA78]

I don't mean to rain on your parade, but if this is the way you are being treated then its pretty clear that he doesn't love you near as much as you love him which is unfortunate. My advice would be to lay down the ultimatum. It would be better for you to let him go then for him to let you go in this situation. Those are all red flags. Don't settle for anything less. Take care.

[Little kaiya]

I'm not really sure what you're looking for from people. If your Daddy is doing what you've described then he clearly doesn't care for you or respect you. What you've described is callous at best and honestly borders on, if not actually is, emotional abuse.

 

Why would you want to stay with someone who treats you so badly??

[SexyLittleThing]

I definitely appreciate yall weighing in <3

 

That is probably where I should be.

 

I'm going to need to work up some more nerve, because honestly, talking to Daddy about talking to other girls was a disaster and I'm still broken up about it. 

 

He's my first Daddy and he $poils me...

 

I am going to need actual therapy.

Edited September 20, 2021 by SexyLittleThing

[DerbyNerd]

I definitely appreciate yall weighing in <3

 

That is probably where I should be.

 

I'm going to need to work up some more nerve, because honestly, talking to Daddy about talking to other girls was a disaster and I'm still broken up about it. 

 

He's my first Daddy and he $poils me...

 

I am going to need actual therapy.

Him spoiling you doesn't make up for the other bad behaviour. I'd rather have a daddy who doesn't spend $ on me but spends his time and affection. Being spoiled doesn't equal being loved. 

 

I don't think you should put up with his behaviour or give him the excuse 

 

For your own mental health I think you either need to demand the respect you are due (if he will give it) or leave. Its better to be alone then with someone who treats you as just another one in the crowd and thinks he can throw gifts at you and thats enough. You should be the center of your daddy's world, you should be the first one he thinks about messaging when something happen and the first person he wants to spend his time with. 

[SmolAetherr]

sounds like alot of disrespect and mistreatment, if you cant even talk to the person about your issues i would argue its time to walk away if they arent willing to listen, show them and yourself you are willing and ready to find someone who will

[SexyLittleThing]

So, I reluctantly confronted him last night, and told him all of the bullshittery that I knew about, and he denied it, and said I was the only one, and that he loved me, asked, "Why else would I... (examples of Daddy kindness <3)" 

 

And honestly, I feel a lot better.  If I was right, he knows he messed up, and if I was wrong (no way), then (that would have been) good.

 

I love him very much and would rather just move on.

Edited September 21, 2021 by SexyLittleThing

[DerbyNerd]

So, I reluctantly confronted him last night, and told him all of the bullshittery that I knew about, and he denied it, and said I was the only one, and that he loved me, asked, "Why else would I... (examples of Daddy kindness <3)" 

 

And honestly, I feel a lot better.  If I was right, he knows he messed up, and if I was wrong (no way), then (that would have been) good.

 

I love him very much and would rather just move on.

Sounds like you probably still need to be careful.

I'm sensing red flags with his denial and deflection. Acts of kindness does not make up for what he was doing. 

I'm glad you're feeling better but if it were me there would be no moving on until he had been honest with himself and you. 

[SexyLittleThing]

I know it's not a good look.  

 

I agreed not to snoop and he agreed not to lie anymore, and when I start to fixate on this I am going to:

 

- write letters that I won't send

- study

- do my makeup

- yoga / meditation / deep breathing

- look at a list of reasons that I want to work it out with Daddy

[DerbyNerd]

I know it's not a good look.  

 

I agreed not to snoop and he agreed not to lie anymore, and when I start to fixate on this I am going to:

 

- write letters that I won't send

- study

- do my makeup

- yoga / meditation / deep breathing

- look at a list of reasons that I want to work it out with Daddy

Those sound like good strategies! 

 

What did he agree to do to make you feel more valued and secure?

[SexyLittleThing]

Those sound like good strategies! 

 

What did he agree to do to make you feel more valued and secure?

 

That didn't relly occur to me...  that stuff comes from within.  I feel like his regular behavior and assurance to not lie will be enough from Daddy!

[MurkMonster]

I really do hope things work out for you but please don't let yourself stay with someone who isn't kind to you. It's not worth it. I had a boyfriend like this who I thought I was in love with and now I'd punch him in the face if I could.

 

He didn't treat me right at all. Was always short tempered and impatient. Raped me throughout our relationship and more violently after I broke up with him. (He still walks free) But mostly he didn't care about or respect my feelings at all. And that does so much to you mentally you don't even know how bad it is until you're out. ​

 

 

Don't damage yourself for a man. There are other people that you can turn to for support. I know you want a man (I know this desire) but trust me this one's going to chew you up and spit you out and you won't be the same.

 

The only comfort I had was that I broke him when I left (he ended up having to go on meds) because he lost the one person who thought highly of him. He was no prize. Oh and guess who was the 'bad' guy in our break up *and throughout our entire relationship*? I had people approaching me at work feeling sorry for him and his friends all thought I was a bitch *I was a bitch for having feelings in our relationship and wasn't allowed to be upset with him*. As a quick example he once came back from a strip club and told me about having one of the stripper's breasts in his face. I was clearly upset by this and was trying not to say anything about it but he got so pissed because I was sad. And those were the reasons why he'd tell his friends that I was a 'bitch' to him. And this guy your with is probably going to do the same to you.

[SexyLittleThing]

I really do hope things work out for you but please don't let yourself stay with someone who isn't kind to you. It's not worth it. I had a boyfriend like this who I thought I was in love with and now I'd punch him in the face if I could.

 

He didn't treat me right at all. Was always short tempered and impatient. Raped me throughout our relationship and more violently after I broke up with him. (He still walks free) But mostly he didn't care about or respect my feelings at all. And that does so much to you mentally you don't even know how bad it is until you're out. ​

 

 

Don't damage yourself for a man. There are other people that you can turn to for support. I know you want a man (I know this desire) but trust me this one's going to chew you up and spit you out and you won't be the same.

 

The only comfort I had was that I broke him when I left (he ended up having to go on meds) because he lost the one person who thought highly of him. He was no prize. Oh and guess who was the 'bad' guy in our break up *and throughout our entire relationship*? I had people approaching me at work feeling sorry for him and his friends all thought I was a bitch *I was a bitch for having feelings in our relationship and wasn't allowed to be upset with him*. As a quick example he once came back from a strip club and told me about having one of the stripper's breasts in his face. I was clearly upset by this and was trying not to say anything about it but he got so pissed because I was sad. And those were the reasons why he'd tell his friends that I was a 'bitch' to him. And this guy your with is probably going to do the same to you.

 

Thank you for sharing this.  How awful.  I do have a place to go if sh17 relly hits the fan, and Daddy is out of town for a while anyway.