What is a daddy

[LeeLee1]

Waves .hi as you may no I’m new to DDlg,Ive always been a sub,but I’m Enjoying learning the DDlg lifestyle.

Can I ask what you think the basics are for being a daddy .I understand everyone is different,but what would u expect the basics to be for being a good daddy.And to make you feel the best little you can be.

I’d love some insight from littles and daddy’s .thinkies

[(not) Narancia]

Now this is my kind of question!

 

I was gonna write down a list, but I'm both lazy and I think it'd be interesting to explore one particular trait a little bit further so here goes

 

Nurturing. A Daddy (or caregiver, mommy, etc) has to be nurturing in my opinion. To me, this means encouraging growth, self-care, self-appreciation and the affirmation of one's worth.

 

Lots of people who identify as a little find themselves needing that little extra bit of reassurance that they're loved. That they're special. Being a daddy means being someone's happy place. A person they go to for comfort and safety. That is a unique and special position that is not easy to fill.

 

I honestly could go on for ages, but I think you get my point. Thanks for asking the question!

[LeeLee1]

Ty but pls feel free to tell me more xx

[Guest LittleElizabethBun]

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[MissPattch]

The most important aspect for me is acceptance. Knowing that if i mess up or make a mistake or am having a really bad day, that they don't hold it against me, its just dealt with and we carry on. No grudges or back-biting remarks about it after. 

[Guest Teasing Tink]

I second nurturing being the main ingredient. Someone who genuinely enjoys being this way.

 

-Kind

-Patient

-Calm/Gentle

-A safe place

-Encouraging

-A good guide

-Receptive

-Doting

-Enjoys basking in their little

-Usually has a strong inner child themselves

 

And I know daddies can be either Dom or sub (or Switch), so I didn't add that.

Edited September 10, 2021 by Teasing Tink

[ValesKittenEEvee]

Hi All!

It's been a while since I was here, and I do have a lot to say on the subject,  but i'll try to keep my answer brief.

First, after having a rather negative and scary experience with one "daddy" and now having spent a year living daily with my Soulmate and "Daddy" I think the biggest difference is that we are compatible.

My Daddy, Witcher (who may or may not hop back on the site) and I are compatible in almost any way we can think of.

It doesn't matter what tv show we watch, what music we listen to or what we're doing moment to moment, we are always working to be in flow together.

Compassion, support and care are part of the mix, but he is naturally all of those-outside any Dynamic. What an ex of mine called "me being needy" is actually what makes him feel like he's "The One" for me. We have the ability to check in during this workday (and I currently work from home on my own time), so often when those random questions pop into my head during the day, I can send him a text or he can call me. I am always asking for support, guidance and reassurance, and he loves providing it.

We work daily to build our relationship on the values of Consent, commitment and communication. That is at the heart of all of our decisions and choices as a couple, family and Dynamic.

i think any relationship, D/s or vanilla needs compatibility and respect. Sex can be great with many folks, but that deep understanding is what keeps the spark alive long after the honeymoon period passes into the far past.

i would love to get folks reaction and hear what others think! This is a great topic!

[Vampiress]

I think lots of people see a Daddy or Caregiver as a safe space and being the strong one, but I think what's really important to me is that the Caregiver should be willing to lean on the little/middle and also be open and vulnerable. A little/middle should be able to be met halfway by their Caregiver and feel that they can also be trusted, too. Some Caregivers are too closed off and only want the little/middle to be vulnerable while not giving the same back in return.

[Guest LittleElizabethBun]

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[LeeLee1]

Thank you I’ve loved the comments.it’s so nice to see so many ppl say the same things,I’m learning a lot .I think your right about trust .that’s the same as S/D relationship.

I’m also enjoying the whole gentle side of DDlg.as a ex sub I guess you would call me ,the whole idea of nurturing and letting go it something amazing ,But still getting the feeling of being owned and protected.But they really are two different beasts .

[Guest DollxBaby]

Daddy is someone who loves you forever and takes care of you, and he wants you to do the same for him, too!