**trigger warning** please help - I hit my DD

[PrincessSnorlax]

Last night me and my daddy had the worst argument we’ve ever had in the 4 years we’ve been together, he was really scary and I hit him. It wasn’t a hard slap more of a shock. I don’t know what happened, there wasn’t even a thought process behind the action. I feel disgusted with myself. I feel sick, I want to rip my own skin off. How could I do this to the person I love the most.

[Guest Hero_Yuri]

You should apologize for hitting him and then try to have a calm chat and make up for what happened; hopefully nothing bad happens again.

[DaddyDom3238]

First off I am sorry that happened, has he hit you before in anger? Outside of a scene? If he was that scary and had hit you before I can understand your reaction of hitting him as well. That does not condone it of course, as hitting someone whether inside or outside of the dynamic without consent is wrong. 

I would apologize and remember if the relationship is abusive you both need to talk to someone and/or move on as it will only get worse. 

I hope the best for you and your Daddy!

[Princess_Strawberry0]

Please dont be so hard on yourself we all make mistakes! If you feel like you are in an unsafe situation it might be time to split ways, if it's not like that it might be a good idea to have a talk and tell him how you are really feeling I hope everything works out okay.

[SmolAetherr]

we do a lot of crazy things due to emotions, but at the moment you need to attend to your partner and their needs, if they want space give it to them but try to talk to them before things get much worse than they already are, i would suggest working out within yourself what caused you to feel like being physical was a viable response, do you have a history of anger/emotion regulation issues?

 

 

First off I am sorry that happened, has he hit you before in anger? Outside of a scene? If he was that scary and had hit you before I can understand your reaction of hitting him as well. That does not condone it of course

 

 

you do know people can be physical without provocation right? i also think op would have a different reaction other than "shock" if this was not the first time either of them had lifted a hand to the other

 

feel free to correct me if im wrong here but are you trying to say that her daddy is somehow at fault in this scenario despite op not mentioning it?

could be I'm not understanding the thought process that pushed you to mention it, its dumb to think but i have to state  women can be abusive without the other partner/man not doing anything to deserve it if there is ever a case where someone deserves to be assaulted (there isnt in this context)

[Vampiress]

I'm sorry that you both got into such a horrible argument and that things unfolded in the direction it went. I think this is a great opportunity to work on this proactively together. I think you need to express that you are very sorry for hitting your partner. Don't make excuses, but you need to also explain to your partner that whatever it was they were doing was very scary and caused you to react in an unexpected way. It doesn't make hitting them right, but at least this can be prevented from ever happening again. Figure out where the communication breakdown started to occur, and find ways you can learn to argue fairly and more calmly. There's lots of articles out there about how to fight fairly and how to communicate better in ways to reach some kind of understanding or solution rather than it going the way it went for you. I don't think it'd be fair for the outcome of this for everything to be on your shoulders. He was scaring you, and I'm guessing the initial issue was never resolved. You need to circle back around and figure this out together fairly and calmly.

[Guest LittleElizabethBun]

Agree with Rawr.

Something scared you and triggered you into fight/flight mode and your body chose fight. 

Sit down and apologise and talk it through calmly, work out what the trigger was so you can work through it and avoid it happening again.

You are not a terrible person, but it feels horrible. Hoping the best for you and your Daddy to sort this out.

[DaddyDom3238]

we do a lot of crazy things due to emotions, but at the moment you need to attend to your partner and their needs, if they want space give it to them but try to talk to them before things get much worse than they already are, i would suggest working out within yourself what caused you to feel like being physical was a viable response, do you have a history of anger/emotion regulation issues?

 

 

 

you do know people can be physical without provocation right? i also think op would have a different reaction other than "shock" if this was not the first time either of them had lifted a hand to the other

 

feel free to correct me if im wrong here but are you trying to say that her daddy is somehow at fault in this scenario despite op not mentioning it?

could be I'm not understanding the thought process that pushed you to mention it, its dumb to think but i have to state  women can be abusive without the other partner/man not doing anything to deserve it if there is ever a case where someone deserves to be assaulted (there isnt in this context)

SmolAetherr,

Yes I do know that people can be physical without provocation and as far as the reaction being "shock" and saying it was most likely the first time was not an assumption that I wanted to make without more clarity which is why I mentioned it. I did not want to make any assumptions without clarifying what happened and what may or may not have led up to the physical violence. I have had a handful of little/subs in the past who were not physically abused but were emotionally and mentally abused which led to physical things happening on both sides. I may have worded my response wrong and my intent was merely to gain insight into what may or may not have led to her striking her Daddy. 

[Guest Aquaman]

SmolAetherr,

Yes I do know that people can be physical without provocation and as far as the reaction being "shock" and saying it was most likely the first time was not an assumption that I wanted to make without more clarity which is why I mentioned it. I did not want to make any assumptions without clarifying what happened and what may or may not have led up to the physical violence. I have had a handful of little/subs in the past who were not physically abused but were emotionally and mentally abused which led to physical things happening on both sides. I may have worded my response wrong and my intent was merely to gain insight into what may or may not have led to her striking her Daddy. 

i agree, if there was more to the story than "arguing" and "very scary" its kinda difficult to give any kind of real advice. despite what others might say, I think you're terrible for hitting your partner and that you should be very critical of yourself so that he doesn't dump your ass in the future if it happens again(assuming he doesnt dump you now) remember this feeling so it doesn't happen again

[Guest Teasing Tink]

In my opinion, truly terrible people don't feel an ounce of remorse for the ways in which they hurt others and it usually is pretty intentional. You clearly already feel like shit about this, you don't need anyone rubbing it in. I don't think I've encountered a single person who benefitted or improved from drowning themselves in shame over mistakes they've made. It only causes them to spiral and sink further into the abyss. If anything, it's more likely to cause one to make the same mistake again if they already feel they're worthless and only capable of causing others pain. That being said, it's good that you feel *remorse*, but please forgive yourself when you can and do what you can to make things right with your daddy. And if this is turning into a toxic relationship for both of you, then it's best to part ways.

[Vampiress]

i agree, if there was more to the story than "arguing" and "very scary" its kinda difficult to give any kind of real advice. despite what others might say, I think you're terrible for hitting your partner and that you should be very critical of yourself so that he doesn't dump your ass in the future if it happens again(assuming he doesnt dump you now) remember this feeling so it doesn't happen again

 

I don't think she deserves to be called terrible. She clearly feels horrible and did not mean to do it, and doesn't sound like she has a history of doing it. Seems like a mistake, one she hopes to never make again and clearly wants to avoid. You're being unfair and feels like you're just trying to make her feel like shit even more. She's already beating herself up over it, we don't need to add to it.

[SmolAetherr]

SmolAetherr,

Yes I do know that people can be physical without provocation and as far as the reaction being "shock" and saying it was most likely the first time was not an assumption that I wanted to make without more clarity which is why I mentioned it. I did not want to make any assumptions without clarifying what happened and what may or may not have led up to the physical violence. I have had a handful of little/subs in the past who were not physically abused but were emotionally and mentally abused which led to physical things happening on both sides. I may have worded my response wrong and my intent was merely to gain insight into what may or may not have led to her striking her Daddy. 

thanks for explaining, i do hope my words were not precieved as an attack, merely my brain being special as it tends to be

[j0k3r]

Hey,

 

I'm sorry what you and you partner had to go through. A mistake has been made and all you can do is to figure out why it happened and how to prevent it from happening again. And make up for the mistake

 

I'd suggest taking some time out of you day to sit down and write it all down(how it happened and why) It helps you establish a train of though on what made you act the way you did. And it'll also help your partner understand what you felt at that moment.

 

And also write a apology letter to your partner. A message or saying might be enough but that is for you to decide. I personally believe it shows greater effort. But be genuine and hope for the best

[PrincessSnorlax]

Thank you everyone for your responses. I haven’t been online for a whilst since it happened as I’ve taken some time away from things. In response to those asking if my daddy has ever been violent towards me or abusive etc the answer is simply NO. He had never lifted a hand to me outside of a scene and has never been violent or anything like that to me. An ex of mine had, but I have never held him at fault for others behaviours towards me. He has always been my safe place.

 

In the heat of the arguement he really lost his temper, and I was backed into a corner, and he just screamed in my face. No words just a scary angry scream, which was when I had hit him. - context for those asking for more information on how the events actually took place. I was in such a state when I made this post and I felt I had no one to turn to, and didn’t explain anything very well at all. I can see that. I apologise.

 

We’ve chatted a lot and are okay. Thank fully, I’m lucky he chose to forgive me. I still feel disgusted with my actions and slightly scared of myself. I have never ever lashed out like that before or behaved like that before EVER. I’m struggling to stay in little space because of my feelings towards myself at the moment. I feel like I’m in a hole I dug for myself. But I’ve also not felt afraid like that for a long time, and I find myself feeling afraid incase I make my daddy angry like that again! He also had never been that angry before. Obviously it’s going to take time heal and get back to where we were.

 

But thank you to all for taking the time to respond to my post, and to help me sort my thoughts out.