Abandoned and really scared ... (TRIGGER WARNING)

[Guest unwantedlit]

I had the best daddy for several years. He told me he'd take care of me forever and I believed him but then he met someone else and he completely ghosted me for her. I am 20 years older than him so I guess I shouldn't be surprised he wanted someone his age. I've never been so vulnerable with anyone in my life and have never opened myself so completely. I never felt what he made me feel. And then. Poof. He was gone and never even checked on me. I feel like a failure. So what now? I need someone and trust no one. Not sure how long I can do this. I feel like I'm going through motions, he was my whole universe and I'm so scared without him. I need help. I'm lost. Can anyone give me advice?

[Pyroo]

Talk to me : (

[Guest princesslovelace]

Aw you poor dear I am so so sorry to hear what happened   That was immature and completely uncalled for of him. If he were man enough he would have respectfully ended the relationship with you instead of ghosting you.

 

Have you ever had a diary before? I love writing in my diary whenever I feel distressed and it really helps me release. Maybe you can buy a pretty one to write in. You should distract yourself from him and do things that make you happy   

 

If he suddenly decides to contact you do not respond, if he is not mature enough to properly end a relationship then he is not mature at all and does not deserve your time and attention

 

Don't worry, I promise everything will be alright   only time can heal a broken heart 

Edited September 5, 2021 by PrincessRoseCandy

[Guest unwantedlit]

I feel so stupid ... I don't even know how to reply to individual people on here. I didn't even know you did! Thank you both, Dijeid and PrincessRoseCandy. I'm so sad. I've cried every night alone for more than a month and never heard from him again. And then I found something he posted about me that was really hateful. I don't understand any of it. I knew things were getting different when this girl came into the picture. But I was completely blindsided. I just pray that the hurt will stop.

[LeeLee1]

Pls don’t give up.first thing you need to do is block anything online ,you really don’t need to see anything he may have posted .

You need to move on slowly there is no timing for pain,

Except you hurt and embrace it let it happen and don’t make the mistake of letting anyone tell you that you shouldn’t grieve because you should.

I truly think your pick yourself up .I’ve been where you are .it wasn’t a DDlg lifestyle but I was very broken for a good few years .But now I’m learned a lot from the past and I’m stronger for it.you will meet the right one ,who will love you for the person your are .

[LittleMissQuinn]

I had the same thing happen to be several years ago. He was my everything. Eventually he started using ghosting as what he called a punishment. Even though he already knew my past history of abandonment issues. Then one day he just disappeared. All of his social media accounts gone. Phone number disconnected everything. Never talked to me again.

To say the least it broke me...

I hid my little side from everyone till a a few months ago when my now Daddy discovered I am a little. (We had been friends for years but was pretty closeted with my little side)

[Princess_Strawberry0]

I don't have much advice im sorry im new to this in general but don't give up! Just take it one day at a time we are here for you!

[PrincessSnorlax]

I’m so sorry your going through this and hurting the way you are. I see it’s been a whilst since you posted, how are you feeling now?

[J_Sophie]

I saw this post today. And read all of the replies. And somebody said it took them a bit of time, perhaps years. And I freaked out. Because years? I'm going through something similar. And I've been shattered for about forty days. And I thought maybe, maybe I just need a couple of months. The idea that it could take me years to get over this blows my mind. I'm sorry you went through that. And I understand saying that especially over two years later isn't any help. But it feels like the sort of thing that would give you PTSD (am I using that acronym right?). Nobody, and I mean nobody deserves to wake up one morning and realise everything is gone. Or what feels like everything at the moment. I hope you're doing better. I hope you're alright now. I hope you sleep bettter these days, and that you feel better. I hope you don't cry as much anymore, or even at all. I hope you feel joy in the small things as you do in the big things. I hope the vacuum he left is no longer swallowing you whole anymore. I genuinely, sincerely hope the future has been all it was promised to be, when it comes to healing and learning to be a different personality after that experience changed you.

[Cebakes]

1 hour ago, JustHuey said:

I saw this post today. And read all of the replies. And somebody said it took them a bit of time, perhaps years. And I freaked out. Because years? I'm going through something similar. And I've been shattered for about forty days. And I thought maybe, maybe I just need a couple of months. The idea that it could take me years to get over this blows my mind. I'm sorry you went through that. And I understand saying that especially over two years later isn't any help. But it feels like the sort of thing that would give you PTSD (am I using that acronym right?). Nobody, and I mean nobody deserves to wake up one morning and realise everything is gone. Or what feels like everything at the moment. I hope you're doing better. I hope you're alright now. I hope you sleep bettter these days, and that you feel better. I hope you don't cry as much anymore, or even at all. I hope you feel joy in the small things as you do in the big things. I hope the vacuum he left is no longer swallowing you whole anymore. I genuinely, sincerely hope the future has been all it was promised to be, when it comes to healing and learning to be a different personality after that experience changed you.

How are you doing now? I went through a break up in April, but I knew it was inevitable due to our age gap and her desires we discussed from almost day one. 
I hadn’t experienced heartbreak like this for 25 years.   After a month, I called my doc and asked for Valium or the like. He said no and wanted to put me on Prozac. I passed on that and he gave me 10 Xanax.  I still have 5 left….

You are young and  will find love again.  You have to have that mentality.  When you wake up each day, you must believe that you are one day closer to meeting someone.  With that being said, you must heal first,  when ready, move on.   I did read a fair amount of articles on break ups and the typical sadness and depression over a break up should last 2 to 3 months.  So 40 days is not a crazy amount of time.

 Do you have friends and family to share and discuss certain things about your relationship and loss?  At first  I had no one to talk about my feelings and loss. My friends and family would have told me I was mentally ill in the first place to get in a relationship like this.  I did have a nice little that reached out from here who offered to be my friend.  

It’s important to keep your mind busy.  I did spend more time with family and friends, at the gym,  went to Jamaica, started a diet, began dating again, and stayed active here.   

I would stay active here and keep sharing your feelings.  Again, this will pass and you will find someone. 
 

 

[Sloth Fairy]

On 1/8/2023 at 4:06 AM, JustHuey said:

I saw this post today. And read all of the replies. And somebody said it took them a bit of time, perhaps years. And I freaked out. Because years? I'm going through something similar. And I've been shattered for about forty days. And I thought maybe, maybe I just need a couple of months. The idea that it could take me years to get over this blows my mind. I'm sorry you went through that. And I understand saying that especially over two years later isn't any help. But it feels like the sort of thing that would give you PTSD (am I using that acronym right?). Nobody, and I mean nobody deserves to wake up one morning and realise everything is gone. Or what feels like everything at the moment. I hope you're doing better. I hope you're alright now. I hope you sleep bettter these days, and that you feel better. I hope you don't cry as much anymore, or even at all. I hope you feel joy in the small things as you do in the big things. I hope the vacuum he left is no longer swallowing you whole anymore. I genuinely, sincerely hope the future has been all it was promised to be, when it comes to healing and learning to be a different personality after that experience changed you.

It's something that takes time and everyone heals at their own pace. Sometimes you feel better then something triggers a memory and it hurts again. If you need to ask for help such as counseling or talking to someone don't be afraid to do it. Sometimes it's hard to ask for help. 

Do what you can to take care of yourself and heal, and be patient with yourself. There's no timeline for healing. 

Edited January 9, 2023 by Sloth Fairy