How long and how often?

[Gator798]

So my wife and I have just restarted our DDLG connection. I love my babygirl to pieces and love spending time with her. However I'm getting tired and everything. My wife and I have a 6 year old son and due to health reasons I have to remain home from going to work. So I'm always with my wife,son,and babygirl. Like I said, I love spending time with my babygirl. She is out majority of the day until bedtime at 8. Lately, dealing with babygirl all day and every day I have became tired and haven't been able to focus on myself or the wife. How often should babygirl come out? How long should babygirl come out? How can I balance the husband, self, and daddy role? Forgive me but this is all new to me.

[DaddysMonkey]

I’m unsure if I’m just stupid , or if it’s your wording that’s a bit confusing. You talk as though your wife and baby girl are two separate people or entities. This isn’t the case. Although she might be your baby girl , she’s still very much your wife and partner and if you’re feeling that tired and run down , you should have an open discussion with her about it.

 

As for how long and often someone “should” be or feel little.. there is no answer. For some people it comes in waves , for others it’s just engrained in who they are , sometimes it’s just a bedroom kink for people.

 

For me , it’s engraved into my soul to be middle. BUT ! I also know how real life works , and that even though I am this way I still have to be a productive member of society and if I had a partner that was my Daddy… and they were feeling as tired and run down as you say.. I would want to know. For all you know she has no idea how tired you are so she is just running sheets to the wind with it. It’s not fair to put all of the responsibilities of this on yourself either though , obviously she’s grown especially since you guys have a child together. It sounds like you guys need to have a serious discussion about splitting up your adult responsibilities more evenly.

 

As for balance , that’s a personal endeavor dawg. Some guys get off on being tired and taking care of everything all the time. Other guys need a break for a couple days to let their brain rest. 6 year olds are fuckin wild animals dude , so the fact that you have a 6 year old running around on top of a partner that’s a little (and it sounds like uneven responsibilities) I don’t blame you for being tired. The best answer I can give you is to sit her down and have an actual adult conversation with her and tell her this isn’t a time to be little. Whether or not you guys have a DDlg dynamic, you’re both still grown adults and should have open and honest communication especially since you have a kid.

 

Best of luck.

[♡ マリィ ♡]

What Monkey said!

 

Your wife is your little girl... but she's still also your wife. Her being little is a part of her; as long as she's still doing what needs to be done around the house, in her workplace, there's no reason for her to not be little whenever she needs to be. I don't personally schedule times to be little, I just do it. Most littles do, keeping in mind the schedule and nuances of their regular lives. If she's ignoring her adult responsibilities in favor of being little all the time (and putting too much on you), that's a problem and I can see why you feel so worn out.

 

The real question is, why haven't you communicated this to her yet? If you can't be her Daddy all the time, that's totally fine and I think she'd understand if you told her! I can't imagine how much juggling there is to be done taking care of an actual child, let alone also a little... but you're going to have to find a way to make it work.

 

It doesn't mean you have to put yourself last, though!

 

To be a good father AND a good daddy to them both, you should be in a good state of body and mind. If you need time to recharge, tell her! If you need her to be less little and more adult around the house to help you compensate, that's okay too. Being daddy also doesn't mean you have to be doing things with her every ten seconds; you can help her be little without being directly involved, and still be the daddy she needs while being able to be yourself in the meantime. Why not ask her to draw you pictures in her spare time, or give her arts and crafts? Like your own child, you don't need to dote on her EXCLUSIVELY at all hours of the day; most littles just appreciate a watchful eye if nothing else!

Please feel free to reach out, and I hope things get better for your family. You sound like a sweet person and I'm proud of you for wanting to step up, but also to take care of yourself, too. Take care, Gator!

[Gator798]

Thank you all for responding. We have talked and both little and wife agreed to split time together. Meaning part of the day little will be out then later in the afternoon my wife will be out. It's just I'm mentally drained. so far everything has gotten better for myself,little, and wife. Please forgive me in asking but this is my first ever ddlg relationship.