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[Lovebites]

I have been in a DD/lg LDR for 10 months.  Large age spread enough that I wonder if she will ever come open to her family.  She is in college now and real Dad is paying.  I did give her the option of us paying for it.  She said she will be disowned but she tends to be a bit over dramatic always.  She is now letting me be her Daddy but will not show that she is taken or owned on any profiles.  She also states on her profile that she is looking for long term Daddy or care giver.  I dont want to loose what we have built but I am not getting the respect that i deserve.  There always seem to be something that holds us back from becoming what I want it to be.  I really think its the new guys giving her the attention rush of a new guy telling her all the things she wants to hear,  Yes I support and boost her every day and support her with my time.   Am I asking for too much to show me as Daddy and stop her search.   I want the profile to show that she is taken and any friendship from a Dom,Daddy or Mommy be oked thru me. She has always said she is wanting other Littles but has very few in her friend list.   I am protective with my little. 

[Little kaiya]

Sounds pretty disrespectful honestly and perhaps a bit like you are being used or at the very minimum taking for granted.

 

It sounds like she is getting what she wants from you but is not reciprocating or respecting your needs. Very one sided from what you've described.

 

You deserve better but the longer you stay in your current situation the longer you forgo finding someone that will respect you.

[(not) Narancia]

I think it's time to have a conversation about what you both want out of this relationship. Encourage her to be honest despite any fears she.might have and take the time to really hear eachother out.

 

I definitely think it's weird that she presents herself as someone looking for a relationship on whichever public profile she uses and I'd even go as far as to say that not adjusting that would be a dealbreaker.

 

My final note would be that it kind of sounds like you have different expectations. Hell, i wouldnt be surprised if it turns out she would like an open relationship. Also,be careful with vetting your partner's friends. I think it's a very slippery slope and it totally enables jealousy and bad blood a lot of the time.

 

Best of luck to the both of you.

[SmolAetherr]

if you feel disrespected and like this person is taking advantage of your emotions for her then tell her, dont put an ultamatum or anything, they never end well but like other's have said tell this person how you feel in an equal conversation

no bdsm involved just two adults with an issue to clear up in a hopefully mature and peaceful manner

 

listen to her side and make sure she knows without any confusion what you want/need and that you feel like you arent getting what you need at present

[Guest Teasing Tink]

I think that's odd, unless she just doesn't ever use the profile where it says she's still looking for a Daddy, anymore. In that case, she wouldn't have thought to update her relationship status. So it could just be a misunderstanding. Or, she really does have one foot in and one foot out of the relationship. I think it's better to invest in those who invest in you. Of course you're not asking too much. Just tell her what you want, so you can determine if you're on the same page or not. If you both want different things or one of you is more invested/committed than the other, you're simply incompatible/have a one-sided relationship and it won't work.