Asexual/non-sexual littles?

[themightyloner]

Hi, are there any other ace/non-sexual littles on here?

 

I have been treated so badly by potential daddies because I won't send nudes or sext with them... and I was just wondering if there were other non-sexual littles on here that I could maybe talk to and relate with.

[Akuchiakuba]

I'm here! Actually, I'm probably the most extreme version of sex-respulsed asexual you can get. ^^; So I totally feel you. Even though I try to make it clear from the get go how I am, I can't tell you how many times a potential cg has come at me insisting that I would definitely change my mind after being with them and I would definitely learn to enjoy it. As you can imagine, I stopped talking to those people immediately, and I have yet to have a caregiver as a result. I don't mind, though. I'd much rather be independent than to force myself into a damaging situation.

[Istrawberry]

I'm sorry you made this experiences hun

 

I'm here too.  I'm non-sexual as little and adult me would be best described as ace. I have  acouple sex-related traumatas beside no sexual desires and the inability to feelthe emotions other feel during orgasms... but yea I also had someone press me and corner me on the topic that it would change if I was just with him. Maybe it will change one day, but I am not entering a relationship with the expectation that it will. That's not healthy and you shouldn't let yourself be talked into something like that either.

 

Be careful of the people who pretend to be understanding but then say things like "I am a man. Why would I put so much efforts into a relationship and DDLG if I won't get sex then?" It's not a sex exchange, that's what a few people don't get. Also please make sure not to fall for it when someone says "No daddy would want a little like you, it's a given." They just try to make you hopeless and then force you into accepting what they offer.

 

I just recently came here a couple weeks ago, but I had a very nice cg show interest. He was completely okay with the non-sexual part, but he was in an age were he didn't want to go for LDR again. So there are people that are open and understanding about us, it might just be a little difficult to find them.

[themightyloner]

I'm here! Actually, I'm probably the most extreme version of sex-respulsed asexual you can get. ^^; So I totally feel you. Even though I try to make it clear from the get go how I am, I can't tell you how many times a potential cg has come at me insisting that I would definitely change my mind after being with them and I would definitely learn to enjoy it. As you can imagine, I stopped talking to those people immediately, and I have yet to have a caregiver as a result. I don't mind, though. I'd much rather be independent than to force myself into a damaging situation.

You know, I think I am sex-repulsed too. There are some days where the thought of doing it with someone who I am emotionally bonded to (think soulmate type bond) sounds a TINY bit appealing. But then I think about the unhealthy relationship most men have with sex/girls in general and it fades rather quickly. Lmao.

 

But yes I have had so many guys try to "convert me"! Like, they think their dick is so amazing that I'm just gonna turn into some sex vixen. Wtf man.

 

I am having trouble coping with the forced independence that comes from being ace though lol. I want a daddy. Like, I see all these girls with loving daddies and I'm like 'Why can't I have that?' Ugh. Maybe we can be friends?

[themightyloner]

I'm sorry you made this experiences hun

 

I'm here too. I'm non-sexual as little and adult me would be best described as ace. I have acouple sex-related traumatas beside no sexual desires and the inability to feelthe emotions other feel during orgasms... but yea I also had someone press me and corner me on the topic that it would change if I was just with him. Maybe it will change one day, but I am not entering a relationship with the expectation that it will. That's not healthy and you shouldn't let yourself be talked into something like that either.

 

Be careful of the people who pretend to be understanding but then say things like "I am a man. Why would I put so much efforts into a relationship and DDLG if I won't get sex then?" It's not a sex exchange, that's what a few people don't get. Also please make sure not to fall for it when someone says "No daddy would want a little like you, it's a given." They just try to make you hopeless and then force you into accepting what they offer.

 

I just recently came here a couple weeks ago, but I had a very nice cg show interest. He was completely okay with the non-sexual part, but he was in an age were he didn't want to go for LDR again. So there are people that are open and understanding about us, it might just be a little difficult to find them.

Thank you for such a sweet message. ♡ I relate so much to the situations given and believe me, I have heard it all.

 

I just want to... be loved I guess. For me. Not for my vagina. But most guys only want you for what you can offer up (and that includes daddies) so it's soul-crushing honestly.

 

Maybe we can be friends if you'd like? ♡

[Istrawberry]

Thank you for such a sweet message. ♡ I relate so much to the situations given and believe me, I have heard it all.

 

I just want to... be loved I guess. For me. Not for my vagina. But most guys only want you for what you can offer up (and that includes daddies) so it's soul-crushing honestly.

 

Maybe we can be friends if you'd like? ♡

 

Sure, I'd love to

While I have been aware what being Ace means for probably 4 or 5 years ... well and three or so months ago I started accepting what I am... and not wanting to force myself into sex any longer after an abusive relationship.

 

God, just had another person telling me he felt sorry for me that I don't want sex. WTF dude. I told him "How about I tell you that I feel sorry that you want sex? Feels weird right?" -.... Blocked. The only thing one can really do is just ignore and block stupid comments.

 

 

I can understand the part about wanting to be loved... it's the same for me. All I ever wanted was being loved... and how far did it bring me? Seemingly my personality disorder drove me in a cycle where I just always when for the wrong people and in the end, ended with someone that forced me to have sex with him every 2-3 days or he would shout at me or get angry. Where I needed to initiate it and act as if i liked it or he would het angry...wherre he would grope me even if I said no and told him to srop... just be careful. Your wish to be loved might drive you in relationships were you think "Well if I get loved... having sex is a small sacrifice right"... it's not. You shouldn't have to force yourself into something just so someone is in a relationship with you... that's neither right nor how it is supposed to be.

[Akuchiakuba]

You know, I think I am sex-repulsed too. There are some days where the thought of doing it with someone who I am emotionally bonded to (think soulmate type bond) sounds a TINY bit appealing. But then I think about the unhealthy relationship most men have with sex/girls in general and it fades rather quickly. Lmao.

But yes I have had so many guys try to "convert me"! Like, they think their dick is so amazing that I'm just gonna turn into some sex vixen. Wtf man.

I am having trouble coping with the forced independence that comes from being ace though lol. I want a daddy. Like, I see all these girls with loving daddies and I'm like 'Why can't I have that?' Ugh. Maybe we can be friends?

Of course, lovely. ^^ I'm always happy to make friends. And I can totally relate to that longing. I daydream about it all the time, having a caregiver that would just be soft and gentle with me all of the time. I think there's nothing else I could ever want more. •v•;;; And I've been told not to give up, but I've been looking for years now with absolutely zero luck. But I hope you can find someone platonic that can care for you, one day.

 

If you'd like, I can usually get to my Line messages much faster. If you have one or don't mind downloading it, I'll be happy to speak with you there. Otherwise, just try to be patient with me. ^^;;; It might take me a hot minute, but I promise I'll reply to you!

[Phoenix78]

Im asexual and I got alot of people who can't seem to understand what it means when I say no to sext or anything with them. They act like it's the end of the world. All I want is a nice relationship not built on sex. Is that to hard to ask for? Edited August 20, 2021 by Phoenix78

[Guest]

I am! I have OCD so I'm very sex repulsed and terrified of intercourse. My little space has never been sexual in any way, shape or form.

[Lil-Angel]

I'm so sorry they treated you like that. I'm not asexual but for me my littlespace is completly non-sexual due to past trauma and also it just being a safe space for me. 

[Guest KaniPink]

I am also asexual and have had not only daddies but mommies as well try and push for a more sexually active relationship. At the start I played with the idea putting my own uncomfortable feeling away because "Daddy knows best" and I always regretted doing even the smallest sexual act, even sexting I can't partake in. Over the years I have learned that the dom doesn't always know best and sometimes they just want sex and will push you because as they say "It will make mommy/daddy so happy" forgetting that I should also be happy.

 

Now I am being more assertive and standing my ground which a lot of people think is "mean" but I don't want to be unhappy in a relationship where I am supposed to be loved and taken care of. 

I would love to be friends with you as well and we can just talk and be there for one another.