Learning and more challenging activities

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Hello all,

 

My Little age varies between 3 and 6 years old. When I am tired and deep in Little Space, I enjoy very passive activities like easy coloring, stickers, watching TV, eating regressive food or naps etc..  But 80% of the time, I am quietly active and creative and I will work on art projects, puzzles or use different sorts of building blocks to create scenes etc. My partner has been giving me creative activities and it has been enjoyable for the both of us to share that kind of connection.

 

Now, I have recently noticed that when I am fully rested, my mindset is a bit more pro-active, and I need engaging, more challenging activities, some sort of intellectual stimulation because something that I really enjoy is learning. Nothing overbearing of course. But learning definitely brings me back to the mindset of a happy, curious little student working hard and eager to do her best. So, yesterday I asked my partner for an equation. I love learning algebra. Specifically because I am not good at it. 

 

Of course we all know 6 year-old kids do not learn Algebra in first grade but as a teacher, I very often observe my students always so happy to  try new things, striving to do well, enjoying the praise and reward..  They're enthusiastic, they want to grow and learn! And I find that working on something I struggle with brings me back to that very same position and I tremendously enjoy it. Of course my partner knows my level and adjusted the challenge to my abilities.

 

Having to brainstorm for one hour doesn't mean it was too hard and I never felt bound to fail. But it was challenging. And I was fully aware that this is something my partner completely master and can solve in 2 minutes, which created a deep, very interesting connection. I enjoyed the praise of course. But mostly, it was a very rewarding moment of complicity.

 

Have you ever experienced this type of connection? If your Little Age varies, do your activities vary accordingly?

 

Bee

 

 

[MissPattch]

Like you , my little space is very calm and the things i do are very passive, like you described. 

 

When i'm not so small though or edging more towards my middle, learning is my thing also. I suck at learning languages. I can only speak English, i can label a few things in Welsh and can count in a few others. My Daddy has a second language and over the last few months i have really been enjoying using an app to help me learn that language. My grasp is still very basic, but when i use my new found skills in conversation with him, i can feel his smile from all these miles away.  He has said it makes him happy that i am trying to learn this, which in turn makes me happy and more willing to keep going and not give up like i ordinarily would.

 

Oddly, i find the older my head space, the less inclined i am to follow things through. When im very small, the thought of pleasing Daddy is always forefront. Not necessarily seeking his approval, but if he asks for me to colour him a picture, i will labour over it for hours to make sure it is worthy of his request, but if i am more middling, i will just rush through it and get it done. I'll still do what is asked of me or what i have said i am going to do, but effort levels vary a LOT >.<

[Vampiress]

That's a very interesting post Bee, thanks for sharing! Can't say I've really ever experienced this to the same degree in a relationship. More or less this is something I find happens a lot more with friends I make that are much older than me because they have so much life experience and knowledgeable in things I am not.

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Like you , my little space is very calm and the things i do are very passive, like you described. 

 

When i'm not so small though or edging more towards my middle, learning is my thing also. I suck at learning languages. I can only speak English, i can label a few things in Welsh and can count in a few others. My Daddy has a second language and over the last few months i have really been enjoying using an app to help me learn that language. My grasp is still very basic, but when i use my new found skills in conversation with him, i can feel his smile from all these miles away.  He has said it makes him happy that i am trying to learn this, which in turn makes me happy and more willing to keep going and not give up like i ordinarily would.

 

Oddly, i find the older my head space, the less inclined i am to follow things through. When im very small, the thought of pleasing Daddy is always forefront. Not necessarily seeking his approval, but if he asks for me to colour him a picture, i will labour over it for hours to make sure it is worthy of his request, but if i am more middling, i will just rush through it and get it done. I'll still do what is asked of me or what i have said i am going to do, but effort levels vary a LOT >.<

 

This made me smile because when my partner is back from Kuwait, we sort of expect him to be deployed to Germany and I've been learning German. It's very different from French and it puts me in the exact same position I was talking about so I smiled when I read you are learning a new language too! It's so exciting to learn something new! I bet your Daddy must be proud and finds it very endearing! My partner doesn't speak German, but he is very encouraging nonetheless. As for the Middle side, I don't have one so I can't say I can relate but it does completely makes sense to me. I teach multiple levels and this is typical of my "older" pre-teens students! =3 Haha. That's cute!

Edited August 8, 2021 by CraftyPinkBee

[Guest Account deleted]

That's a very interesting post Bee, thanks for sharing! Can't say I've really ever experienced this to the same degree in a relationship. More or less this is something I find happens a lot more with friends I make that are much older than me because they have so much life experience and knowledgeable in things I am not.

 

Thank you! =3 It completely makes sense and as a Little, the age difference is something that I have come to enjoy more than I used to - my partner is 18 years older than me. We never paid attention to this too much before. But - now that we have included the DDLG dynamic to our relationship - I think some aspects of our complicity have been greatly and naturally enhanced solely from the fact he is older.