(potential warning: a bit sad) Littlespace and breakup with my first Daddy

[Guest Cara]

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Vampiress and Alaskan Daddy, thank you both for your kind responses! <3

 

It's been 6 months and I'm doing so much better now, and reclaiming my little side as a part of myself rather than something that belongs to him. The heart is resilient indeed, I'm happy to be where I am today. I hope you both are doing well, y'all's responses helped me a lot.

 

If anyone else is out there struggling with a significant breakup, my heart goes out to you. I believe in you.

Edited December 19, 2021 by Cara

[Vampiress]

Hello there. I am so sorry you are having a difficult time and that your relationship with him ended. It sounds like for a time you had something really special so I can understand why you are hurting so much. All I can say from life experience is that things like this do hurt and take time, but eventually say days, weeks, months, and years go by your heart will heal little by little each day. Over time you won't think about him as often as you do now. Some of the things that remind you of him will eventually get new associations to other people and things in your life. Inevitably there'll always be a few things that will bring you back to those memories of him, but he won't exist in every thing the way it feels now. Someday you you'll be at a point where you'll go days, then weeks, then months, and maybe even years in between the times you think of him. It seems impossible now and hard to fathom how that could be so, but the heart is resilient and you can and will move on and you will be able to love again and have new special memories but for now just allow yourself to grieve as this is a loss in your life. Make sure to engage in self-care and be kind and patient with yourself, take the time you need to heal.

[Alaskan Daddy]

I know that is may hard to believe right now but the pain will pass. I had some of the same feelings you are having with the last girlfriend I had. I don't think I feel such intense emotions as I had with her ever again with a another person. When we broke up it was painful and I could feel things about our relationship with many of things I came in contact from day to day. Instead of fighting those emotions I embraced them. As painful as the breakup was and as much as I missed her, I realized she helped love someone (her) more than I ever thought I could love anyone. I embraced the pain as a blessing for being able to meet someone who unlocked something inside me that I did not know was there. I did not know I could love and understand some one as when I was with her. I am a better person for having her in my life. The love I got from her made me the daddy I am today. 

My point is that when you are not feeling so raw, try to take all the good things that you had with your daddy and use those things to move forward into your next relationship. It sounds like there are many blessings you can take from the relationship that can make you stronger.

I hope my words give you some comfort. I wish you all the best