When do you get sensual with your Daddy/ mommy?

[Chocodoll]

I’ve been running into issues trying to find the right mommy. I feel like most of them have been getting really sexual right from the start and not wanting to actually have a real conversation first. Always like 5 messages in the sexual stuff starts happening. I’ve made it clear that I’m brand new to the cgl/ ddlg community and I just don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m being a prude or too needy.

 

I just really want someone to care for me and make sure I’m okay in little space. Sex is fine with me I just don’t want the relationship to revolve around it. Does that make sense? Am I too picky? I just feel like I’m out of place for not wanting sexy stuff immediately.

[Guest Delete please]

Don’t feel bad. It’s normal and right for someone to actually want to chat non sexually. For me I can’t just fuck anyone without talking first. That said everyone is different. Some people don’t find sexual talk as anything more than sexual talk. Others make it more powerful. Meaningful. So example being if I just met you and I thought hey I like you and the way you are open minded. I’d ask you would you like reading a fantasy story I wrote? It is sexual but it’s not geared towards me getting you in bed. It’s just my way to express my mind. Wants. Likes. Ect. Doesn’t mean that I’m interested sexually in that particular person.

 

Most people in a relationship need sex and that chemistry. Things to chat about. Common goals and likes even arguments. So much to talk about especially when getting to know someone so not everyone jumps right into sex. Some do. Sex just means different things to different people. See what I’m trying to say?

 

You are not out of place. Just sometimes gotta express no I don’t want to chat about sexual things. Let’s go back to...say favorite foods. Favorite movies. Ect. Good luck.

[JMAlexandre]

I personally don't get people that very quickly get into sexual stuff without first getting to know each other and then getting to know each other respective ddlg(etc) side, to me that just feels the right way to go about it.

 

You shouldn't feel prude or needy at all, just how you feel which is totally normal especially if you are brand new to it on top of it all, some people are okay with it, that's fair enough but you are not and thats okay.

 

Like the above post said, if you still feel comfortable with the respective person you are talking to, try to create 'boundaries' and say that you not ready to talk/get into those things yet and change the conversation and if they are reasonable and respectful they will accept and be patient, if not... they are probably not worth your time anyway.

 

Hope it helps and never feel bad for feeling that way, that's never picky/needy or prude