Stuck in Little Headspace, am I an Age Regressor?

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I feel like I’m all the time in little headspace at some level, but I never manage to get fully in there: it’s always either mild or moderate or somewhat strong feeling. I can’t get fully in adult headspace either, I can pretend somewhat well for a little while but soon I slip somehow and do/say something childish or for example notice that I have rushed to check the toy aisle instead of choosing food when shopping alone. I wonder if this is common? I mean, would a normal situation be that the person is fully adult otherwise and fully in headspace when scening and never between or how does it usually work?

 

Or does my situation maybe mean that I’m more like an age regressor instead of being voluntarily Little(I’m not actually sure what the difference between different types of being Little are, maybe someone wiser could explain…)? I was able to be an adult when I was about 16-19 years old, but when I moved to an own flat I gave up and let go(I was kinda a kid until I was 16, I played with toys etc until I got too embarrassed and pressure to stop grew too much since my several years younger sister stopped playing before me, so I decided to be fully adult, forgetting that I was supposed to be a teenager first).

 

I’m most likely autistic/aspie, so I’m also wondering if it can cause the lack of ”adult headspace”, any ideas?

 

And last question, if I’m an Age Regressor, am I still allowed to be here?

Edited July 16, 2021 by Space

[MJA78]

I think its because we loved childhood so much we never wanted it to end. If you think about it, look how simple things were compared to today where we have adult responsibilities. I was a lego fanatic when I was a kid and played with those like toys until I was around 16 or so then few years after I integrated them into tabletop games. Then I sold my soul to Warhammer fantasy and spent stupid amount of money on that crap lol. I pretty sure I'm on the spectrum as well. I have a childish mind but I cant express it because of the fear of being hated on and what not. Its like I live in this world where I am just not allowed be myself.

[Nymph]

I was able to be an adult when I was about 16-19 years old, but when I moved to an own flat I gave up and let go(I was kinda a kid until I was 16, I played with toys etc until I got too embarrassed and pressure to stop grew too much since my several years younger sister stopped playing before me, so I decided to be fully adult, forgetting that I was supposed to be a teenager first).

 

Hmm, what does it mean to you to be an adult? It might just be that you stopped being true to yourself for a while because you couldn't find friends with similar interests, got burned out and then went back to your natural personality. There ARE playful adults, and immature ones, and cutesy ones, and some are littles but don't know the labels for it and they kinda end up in the lifestyle without ever finding out about it.

 

Some people like to go to extreme and describe it like an alter ego or split personality. I find that a bit disturbing as more often than not that is a sign of some serious trauma going on, not always of course, sometimes people are not good at describing these sort of things or they get carried away with their fantasies. Don't sweat the labels too much, they are quite flexible, they are a good starting point to get to know someone but you shouldn't assume everyone under that label will be the same you know?

 

I stopped "growing up" when I reached 12 or so, this doesn't mean I didn't learn and matured, but my tween likes did not change. I never "grew up" out of anime, games and cute stationary, etc. I can adult just fine... I might treat myself a bit too often to pastries and hello kitty merchandise, sometimes I will see a nostalgic toy that I wanted growing up and will buy it just because I can. Technically I am a middle as I am never into diapers, bottles or baby stuff. I also don't particularly care about dolls although I do like some plushies but have very few and I don't name them or anything, they are just cute decoration to me.

 

Also, age regresor or not, everyone is welcome here as long as you are respectful!! in fact if you find you are just an average vanilla person as long as you have an open mind you are welcome to hang out as far as I am concerned.

[Lollipox]

I agree with a lot of what Nymph said.

 

The following isn't meant to be condescending, just a re-examination on what a Little is etc. Maybe it'll help put together the jigsaw of your thoughts and queries so you can decide what you think about yourself as a Little vs. Regressor.
 

A Little is a person (adult) who is so in their soul, heart and personality. Little Space (referring to mindset, not physical space) is a term that Littles who age regress or age play use, and Little Age is similarly referring to an age which someone regresses or RP's as. Although regression and ageplay are ultimately different things, those terms are still applicable for both.

Being young at heart, enjoying the little things in life (jumping in puddles, colouring, seeing rainbows, being a child at heart etc) and your general attitude or personality are all a part of what makes someone a Little. A Little can in addition be an age regressor or age player, but an regressor or ageplayer aren't necessarily a Little. If that makes sense? Like how someone can be a sub and a Little, or a submissive Little- depending on the person there's separation between the two, or an amalgamation.

 

So along with what Nymph said- maybe it's that you've grown accustom to having to suppress true elements of yourself in order to fit in with the average adult. Kinda the reverse of a regressor or ageplayer, you find yourself having to get into a grown-up mindspace to handle your responsibilities as an adult but majority of the time you're "you".

 

And of course if you feel you're a regressor, you are welcome here. ^--^ As Nymph said, as long as people are respectful everyone is welcome. Don't even have to be into DD/lg or BDSM, or its variants. Some people are just here to learn, test the waters, or ask questions.
 

Edit: I can't speak on being part of the Spectrum in regards to the question, as I don't know. But hopefully others who have experience will chime in.

 

Best of luck!

Edited July 17, 2021 by Lollipox

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Thanks for the answers everyone!