Do middles have a harder time?

[MissNMTX]

Hi All,

 

My 1st original post here since my return to the forum several months ago. It seems I'm having the same problem as before and decided to reach out. Maybe its as simple as my being in the wrong site? My question is, do middles really have a harder time in the DDlg lifestyle? It seems so to me. I'm chronologically older as well, but that doesn't seem to be the problem. I've seen the threads. I've also seen the threads on middles. So I know what I'm talking about isn't so uncommon. I've meant lovely people here(both times) and had lovely chats. I've learned so much and I know the truth is that I'm a submissive middle. However, it doesn't seem that "daddies" like that? Am I just being impatient? It seems that I'm never "little" enough no matter how vulnerable or needy I may actually be feeling at any given moment. I'm starting to ramble now. I guess what I'm asking is to daddies have needs/desires that a middle simply can't meet?

 

I'd love to hear your older middle stories. Successes or not. I feel so out of place sometimes and like just giving up on ever having a partner. I also know I'm not the only one. Maybe sharing can help.

 

I know there are threads similar to this post so if it needs to be moved by an admin that's okay. Otherwise, thanks for reading, sharing, and generally letting me vent.

[lil_moon]

Hi there!

 

First of all, I'm sorry that you have hard time in the lifestyle. I am a submissive and middle as well, and to be honest, I don't think middles have harder time in the DDlg lifestyle. I know I am a middle before I met my Daddy and I'm not into baby talk at all, but when I met my Daddy, he has been supportive of me being middle. I do think that everyone has their own needs, including Daddies, littles, and middles, but I believe both littles and middles could fulfill a Daddy needs once they meet the right Daddy for them. I hope you won't give up on looking for a partner though because you are a middle though, or worse, giving up on being a middle. 

 

I'm sorry if this doesn't help much, but hope you have a wonderful day!

[Pupperoo]

Hello!

I don't think it's necessarily a case of middles having a harder time, but I am not going to refute that the more ''mature'' littles seem to have a harder time finding a CG. To clarify, for those littles that are very 'young' in their littlespace or in their general personality I think the bad CG's out there feel like they have an easier time to manipulate and get their way than they do with those that are generally more mature, both in and out of their headspace. This is of course not necessarily the case, but I can see the perception being there. It's not that uncommon that I get ghosted right after they try their manipulative crap or sexual spiel from the get go and I challenge it, and I've heard that as well from others that tend to be more mature, whereas those that are newer or younger or perhaps less experienced don't see the red flags as quick and gets drawn in faster. Sometimes, of course, the CG's aren't actually bad and are just as socially awkward as some of us littles/middles and then freak out and ghost when we question their approach. Perhaps. All conjecture and speculation of course!

As a final note (even though this will severely hurt my own ego), we should never discount the possibility of it just being a problem regarding some of us as individuals. Far from all middles or maturer littles have this issue, so it could generally just be just that, a problem regarding us as individuals. Perhaps the maturity that comes with being a middle doesn't hit that particular note most daddies or mommies are after. 

Keep looking and keep your chin up. You'll find someone that suits you soon enough. That's what I am banking on for myself anyway, and I am hoping that's true not just for myself but for every lonely little/middle/CG out there. Be patient and we'll get there!

Best of luck.
♥

Edited July 8, 2021 by Pupperoo

[DollDirector]

as a middle you have some maturity.

it's likely that most daddies are immature and afraid of being exposed. 

 

[Vampiress]

In my experience, as a little with middle tendences, those of us who speak and act a little more maturely tend to appear intimidating to a lot of the Caregivers in the community. I do think that is in part because some in the community want someone who is vulnerable and easier to mold and manipulate. Being more mature is not a bad thing, it means you're more likely to be able to protect yourself from this kind of thing. It allows you to avoid those kind of people up front because they're less likely to try and talk to you. In that sense I could see it being perceived as not getting as much attention as some littles, but it's more of a blessing than a curse because you're avoiding some bad experiences. At least when one does come along you'll know they likely don't mind that you have what might be seen as a stronger personality and not so easy to push around. Whenever any Caregivers do try to befriend me, I've had more good than bad experiences because of this since the others won't even try to bother with trying that stuff on me. You will tend to get more genuine friendships (or relationships) as a result, I think!

Edited July 10, 2021 by Vampiress