Ways that Daddy navigates your anxiety when you want to hide or be prickly

[NoodleDoodles]

Edited June 30, 2021 by NoodleDoodles

[MissPattch]

Hey Noodle,

 

Anxiety isn't ever a fun thing, huh? I get it sometimes too and my go-to is to hide under my duvet. My Daddy understands that sometimes i need to hide to be able to figure out how and what i'm feeling for myself before i can effectively communicate it to him. Maybe you could set a time-limit on this self imposed isolation? Set an egg timer or an alarm on your phone, then when its done, go find your  partner and sit and have a cup of tea / chocolate milk and just talk.  I don't know about you, but usually, the longer i hide, the harder it is to talk about afterwards. Daddy's other tactic when he can see i'm starting to shut down is to change the subject and redirect my focus to something else. This one is particularly effective for me because my actions are directly linked to my feelings. If i'm stressy over something, making me think about something else gets my emotions to follow and i settle faster. We are LDR, so the physical restraint when i want to storm off isn't a thing yet, but for some, that being made to confront whats going in instead of running is a good move. 

 

You could also maybe make up a crisis kit? I used to use one of these when my mental health was at its worst. I kept it in my bag and it went every where with me. Things i had in it were things i found comforting, so a keyring my mamma had given me when i left home, a teabag and some sachets of sugar cos im British and i live for tea lol, a photo of my dog etc. You could make one up for your Partner to, even if its just this list of things that he can do. It could contain some questions you would like him to ask, an emergency stuffy if thats your thing, or a dodi, anything that you feel would close the distance between you both when you feel like you want to be on the other side of the planet >.<

 

I hope you find something that works for you both, your self awareness of how you feel and how it affects him is an admirable trait <3