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Hey there, im new to this entire type of relationship of littles and cg's and doms and so forth and I'm in a bit of a pickle with my little where whenever she goes into her little space, she gets uncomfortable around me and I always tell her that its ok and I'm not going to judge her or anything of those sorts, also I desperately need help understanding her special language of small squeaks and hums. I just want to be a good cg to my little girl and give her the relationship she's always dreamed of. If anyone can give me any help, I'd greatly appreciate it!

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Hello!
So I know you posted this in the caregivers section, so please feel free to ignore me since I'm a middle myself.
First it can take quite a  bit of time for a little to fully trust themselves into the care of their caregiver, since it is a very very vulnerable state to be in. My advice is to continue to be there for her, get her coloring books and coloring markers/crayons/ paints. or a new stuffie, or whatever you have noticed she likes in her little space, to show her that you support and encourage her to go into that space. 

In the same fashion it can take quite a span of time for a caregiver to learn the different squeaks and hums of a little, the fun way to learn is repeat back the sounds to her. Make a game of it, watch as she makes the sounds: is she happy, curious, angry, excited, etc? then repeat it back to her. This will be a way to playfully show her that you encourage her to make these sounds and you want to learn about them. 


It may take some time but she will become more comfortable to show you that side of herself. 

I hope this helps 


edit:
Wanted to add what my daddy's advice is for this. 

The comfortable around thing is a matter of time
And for the special language that’s also just time together
Learning to pick up on the little things you won’t be fully consciously aware of.
Edited by alana.neko
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hiya! 


 


i hope i'm able to help you! 


 


first of all, i'd recommend letting your girl know that it's okay for her to regress at a distance from you, at least to start!


it might be that she's just embarrassed, and not ready to show you that side of her just yet.


i've been with my Daddy for over a year, and i still get that bashful sometimes. 


try doing it with a degree of removal -- engage with her when she's small over the phone, internet or a video call before it's in person. 


have her send you pictures of what she's doing, or selfies when she's in that space instead of seeing it in live motion. 


 


repeating the sounds like suggested above is a super cute idea! 


i'd also recommend talking about and coming up with a code system with your girl when she's in a big space. 


:heart:


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