Why...

[Angrykitten]

Five years are gone... he was my daddy and he was the father of my son and now he found someone else... I don’t know what to do I feel worthless and like I will never mean anything again he wanted us to get married soon... now it’s gone...

[Kittykat83]

Huge huge hugs.

 

Loosing a daddy is awful, but loosing one that is soooo ingrained into your life and sharing a child together I can imagine is horrendous.

 

However, this yukky situation you find yourself in doesn't define you. Without knowing the ins and outs, you have a beautiful son, you are a little and a mother. You are not worthless, if anything, when you are low and feel as if you don't mean anything, even at your lowest of the low, you will always mean something to your son. To him you are his everything, you are his mum.

 

You will find someone when you least expect it, but please don't feel as if you need someone to find your worth. We are all worth something and have meaning whether in a relationship or not.

 

I can't really offer any words of advice, but hope this makes you feel a little better. Your strong, meaningful and important please don't forget that.

 

 

[Vampiress]

I believe Kittykat is so right, and I'm very very sorry you're going through all of this... sounds so horrible and I can't even imagine your pain. Just know that your worth isn't based on someone else. That is totally separate from anything to do with this guy. You are valid and worth SO much, you don't need him or anyone else to validate that... and if you are struggling to believe in that, just know that to a child you are the world and that you are beyond valid to them. I hope that in time you can heal from this and start a new chapter of your life where you will find unexpected happiness that is better than anything you've ever experienced before. As Hemingway said, "We are all broken, that's how the light gets in." You may feel broken now, but this isn't the end of the road for you. You just have to let the light in and see what is in store for you next.

[DeepBlueIII]

I am so sorry to hear this.  I hope things begin anew for you.

[Nymph]

He is still the father of your son, and if he chooses to stay in his life you need to learn how to deal with that, so be careful not to turn into the other woman. If he doesn't, honestly it's easier that way for you but harder on the child (well, depending on the age, if it's a baby he won't remember). Have you guys talked about it yet?

 

If someone else could steal him away so easily, I assure you he will get stolen from her sooner or later, it's just who he is, there is nothing you could have done to stop it.

 

The fact that he said he wanted to get married soon and then runs off with someone else makes me thing he is a true piece of poop, he never meant it and to string you along like that was cruel, you will soon start to see other little things that no doubt he did to you that were not so nice, when that happens, remember it was not your fault. You were being sincere, it's not your problem he couldn't be.

 

You are so young, don't let this turn you into a bitter person, stay true to yourself. You might need some time to heal and that is ok, I am sure you will find a wonderful person who will love you for who you are and is honest with you.