First time being little in front of cg.

[LittleKittyOne94]

Ok, I’ve been vetting this person I’m interested in having a little and caregiver dynamic with for the past few weeks.

 

We’ve started talking about meeting up in the next two weeks, I’m honestly nervous since this will be my first time going into little space with a partner.

 

I’ve been so use to getting in and out of little space by myself for so long now, that I’m afraid I’m gonna freeze up in front of them.

 

Any tips of what I can do to prevent this from happening?

Also is there anything in particular I should put in my little space bag?

I’m already thinking a small stuffie, paci with travel case, a change of clothes, a coloring book and my crayons, and my meds.

 

Any help would be appreciated!

[baby_k]

Bit off-topic, sorry:

Why you would need to go to little space immediately with person you hardly know?

 

Seems really unnecessary stress to think freezing up. I would just consider it as a normal date ( which can be taunting enough already ): you are there to get to know the other person. You don't have to share something as private and fragile as little space with anyone untill you feel fully comfortable with it. It can be tempting of course but taking things slow is also rather good option, and allows the other person to know YOU, not just to have playdate.

[Little kaiya]

I honestly can't agree more with what baby_k has said. If you are worried about freezing up in front of them it really suggests you don't feel ready to be little in front of them. A couple of weeks is a super short time to vet someone, especially if you haven't even met in person yet.

 

Consider giving yourself, and them, more time to get to know one another.

[MissPattch]

I just met my Daddy for real for the first time just recently too, but we have been talking for just over 8 months. Our first date was a no pressure, very vanilla and SSC trip to the zoo. In public because we were technically strangers still. 

 

I get you are keen to jump right into little space, but if this is the first time meeting, then you really need to be sure that you plan and prepare as an adult and not as a little. You should be thinking about your personal safety and making sure that you are prepared if this doesn't go the way you hope. I'm not trying to put a downer on your excitement, just trying to share what i learned from my experience. 

 

Its important to remember too, that even when you are in a CG/l relationship, you still need to have a basis in a regular / vanilla thing too, for those times when you need to live in the real world and not your little space. Its great that you are keen to share your little space with this partner, but make sure that they see you for all you are and not just the small <3

[D&Daddy]

What everyone above me said was exactly my thoughts while I was reading your post. A first date is a big enough deal without throwing the ddlg dynamic on top of that. This is a situation where you need to be big and ready to take in everything that's happening. Even if you're planning on only have a ddlg dynamic with no romantic relationship, this is still a first meeting and still wouldn't be appropriate to immediately fall into a ddlg dynamic. First you need to get to know each other in person, see if you get on together as people, look for red flags and all that important stuff. Then after all that slipping into little space should be more of a natural process because you now feel comfortable with him, rather than something you feel you need to force yourself into. If he tries to push you saying you need to be little with him or trying to force you into little space then that is a red flag, you haven't (I'm assuming this part) given him that part of yourself yet so it would be wrong for him to try to take it. Even if you have, I think there's a strong case in telling him that for the first date you need to keep that part of yourself to yourself for your own protection while you get to know him.

 

So I guess the final word is, don't try to force yourself into little space, don't let him try to force you either. Keep your wits about you, gather all the info you can about him and then if you feel comfortable maybe on a second or third date, you might start to slip into little space naturally anyway.

[Butterflywings]

Great advice in this thread.