Not sure where i belong

[AngelSweet]

I am not sure where i belong anymore. I'm an older little, some days i don't even feel little to be honest. Am i a little after all, or a middle. I'm a submissive for sure but do i belong here? I do want a caregiver but maybe I'm too old for one??? I'm just so lost and feel alone. 

[Little kaiya]

You're never too old to want a caregiver. I'm 43 and only found my Daddy when I was 39. Age is just a number and has as much or as little impact as you let it have.

[Vampiress]

Never too old and you're a little as long as you want to be one! In fact some littles have Caregivers that are younger than them. A lot of us go through these times of feeling insecure, struggling to get into littlespace or connecting with our little sides, and a number of issues but it doesn't mean none of us are little. As someone said in another thread perhaps it's just a sign of needing to sort through some things that your "big" self needs to deal with before you feel comfortable settling back into your little side more regularly.

[Guest Account deleted]

Hello!! I am 44 just like you..! I was SO struggling with this too but a lot of very friendly and encouraging people on this forum have reminded me that YES, I do belong here so if I do, you do too!!      I know that feeling and it's not a pleasant one, but I can assure you that you are not alone. ♥ We all get insecure and I can fully understand that being a Little on your own can get disheartening at time but please, don't let your age dictate who you are. Vampiress is right: if you want to be a Little, then you're a Little. Your mindset belongs to you. Sometimes all it takes to actually feel more comfortable with your Little side is to be just a bit more nurturing to your Big side!   Allow yourself to be gentle and patient with all your different sides and all of them will bloom and thrive! You are not too old for a caregiver. As Little Kaiya said, age is just a number!! If you scream RAIN, it doesn't mean it will start raining. And if your brain screams OLD, it's doesn't mean you start being too old. You are the perfect age for anything you chose to be!  

Edited June 1, 2021 by Crafty_Pink_Bee

[MissNMTX]

There are many of us who are chronologically older who struggle with this. Especially those of us who didn't even discover it until we were "older". I myself am a middle. They aren't super common on this particular forum, but we are here. Also, there's nothing wrong with being a middle. Its who you are. Of course, you belong here. Your circle of friends may be smaller, but that's true for life. Just keep thinking, talking, and exploring. Eventually you'll find your right.