Would I actually be a good Little?

[Dopamine247]

~Reposting here because I just realized I think I posted this in the wrong category! Sorry!~

 

Hallo...

 

Hmm, I’ve been on this forum for less than a month now but I’ve ran into so many cool people. And I feel kinda safe enough to actually post something like this right now.

 

I’m literally wondering if I’d be a good Little? I have no experience whatsoever and the one Daddy Dom I had in my life wasn’t that great. He wasn’t really a fan of teaching me anything or helping me figure out what I’m into when it comes to that dynamic, and I kinda had to figure things out on my own, it sucked a lot. But uh, anyways, I got into DDLG about four years ago, met my ex best friend through a kik group chat and she was the one who was into DDLG and got me into it. I didn’t know what it was or what it even meant, but I knew I liked the whole sippy cup and pacifier thing going on at the time. It’s been years now and I’ve learned a lot so far (that of course it goes way beyond pacifiers and sippy cups) and I still have so much more to learn but I feel like I won’t really learn more until I get an actual Daddy Dom.

 

But uh, back to the original topic. I’ve noticed when I’m talking to a Daddy, I don’t have the answers to any of their questions and I start to get anxious and feel awkward. They always ask me if there is anything I like to do in little space, do I wear certain clothes in little space, what kinda Daddy am I looking for. I literally freeze up and I don’t know what to say. I don’t know what I like to do in little space because I never go into little space that much in the first place. And I don’t have any cute clothes, I don’t have any stuffies, coloring books, no toys, I don’t watch cartoons or anything like that either when little. And it’s not like I DON’T want any of that either. I’ve never been able to express myself that much because I’m hiding it from my family at the moment because I know for a fact that they wouldn’t approve of this lifestyle, so it really limits me on things I can do. And it’s hard for me to go into little space by myself, only time that I would get little was when I was around the guy I liked who was a Daddy. And now when I feel the littleness coming on (usually when I’m tired or really happy about something) I push it away and I start to feel awkward afterwards, I literally don’t know what’s wrong with me, I don’t feel comfortable going into little space at all because I don’t have a Daddy but I feel like that’s messing me up too, because I’m never gonna know what I really like to do in little space because I won’t even let myself go into it! Sigh, it’s exhausting.

 

Not to mention I find it difficult to find a Daddy as well because I have really bad social anxiety and it stops me from accepting friend request or talking to people.

 

I don’t know, I’m sorry this is way more than I expected to type. It’s just frustrating searching for a Daddy but I’m not even sure if it would go well because I may not be what they’re looking for, all because I barely know what I’m into when it comes to that type of relationship.

 

If you read this far then thank you so much, I’m just kinda looking for some advice atm.

Edited May 26, 2021 by Dopamine247

[MissPattch]

Hey Dopamine

 

Its so easy to get frustrated when you are trying to figure out where you "fit" with in the realms of DDlg sometimes. There are so many options and ways of being. 

 

When i first started my DDlg journey last January, i didn't have any of those things you would associate with littles, there were no pacifiers or stuffies or anything. Now though, and after a year of just experimenting and trying things out, i think i'm getting closer to finding out what my little space looks and feels like for just me. Having a Daddy is great, and it can be helpful for making you feel small, but there are going to be times when there is no Daddy and you will have to figure it out by yourself :/ Its not easy, and it can be lonely sometimes too, but after you work through all that, you will be able to come and go into your headspace all by yourself ^^

 

If you're trying to meet a Daddy and they are asking all those questions you find difficult, i might suggest you put some of what you said in your post, into your profile. That way, it saves you having to feel embarrassed / shy / ashamed about what you don't have or know  

 

You mentioned that you usually get small when you are tired or really happy, which is cute ^^ I'm like that too Denying those feelings can be damaging to your emotional health and well being I know its hard to be little around people who don't understand it, but maybe if you have your own personal space, you could buy a small stuffy and keep it by your bed in a drawer and just bring him out to cuddle when you go to sleep? I have had a pillowcase blankey for ever, and i am a long term thumb sucker, which are my go-to little things, and they are easily hidden from prying eyes when i need them to be.

 

At the end of the day, its all about self discovery. Learning yourself and who you are as a little. A Daddy can't tell you that, you have to learn it yourself. Its nice to have somebody to share it with, yes, but if they are no longer there for what ever reason, you need to still be able to function by yourself. Finding the right Daddy is also a mammoth task, so don't be in any hurry to grab the first ones that come along ^^

 

I hope some of this is of some small use and helps you feel a little better about finding your way

[Dopamine247]

Hey Dopamine

 

Its so easy to get frustrated when you are trying to figure out where you "fit" with in the realms of DDlg sometimes. There are so many options and ways of being. 

 

When i first started my DDlg journey last January, i didn't have any of those things you would associate with littles, there were no pacifiers or stuffies or anything. Now though, and after a year of just experimenting and trying things out, i think i'm getting closer to finding out what my little space looks and feels like for just me. Having a Daddy is great, and it can be helpful for making you feel small, but there are going to be times when there is no Daddy and you will have to figure it out by yourself :/ Its not easy, and it can be lonely sometimes too, but after you work through all that, you will be able to come and go into your headspace all by yourself ^^

 

If you're trying to meet a Daddy and they are asking all those questions you find difficult, i might suggest you put some of what you said in your post, into your profile. That way, it saves you having to feel embarrassed / shy / ashamed about what you don't have or know  

 

You mentioned that you usually get small when you are tired or really happy, which is cute ^^ I'm like that too Denying those feelings can be damaging to your emotional health and well being I know its hard to be little around people who don't understand it, but maybe if you have your own personal space, you could buy a small stuffy and keep it by your bed in a drawer and just bring him out to cuddle when you go to sleep? I have had a pillowcase blankey for ever, and i am a long term thumb sucker, which are my go-to little things, and they are easily hidden from prying eyes when i need them to be.

 

At the end of the day, its all about self discovery. Learning yourself and who you are as a little. A Daddy can't tell you that, you have to learn it yourself. Its nice to have somebody to share it with, yes, but if they are no longer there for what ever reason, you need to still be able to function by yourself. Finding the right Daddy is also a mammoth task, so don't be in any hurry to grab the first ones that come along ^^

 

I hope some of this is of some small use and helps you feel a little better about finding your way

Thank you so much for the response. I’m going to try and work more on finding out how I am and what I like to do as a little. It’s so difficult for me, but you gotta start somewhere! Maybe one day I’ll be able to get my first stuffy and just add onto things while also figuring stuff out for myself as well, I really appreciate the advice. Thankyou! ^~^

[Guest Daddy-Tom]

There are many people who are forced to hide their little side from disapproving family members, so you are not alone. Try starting off small when you are alone and feeling little, to just recognize and acknowledge the anxiety, but just let yourself take baby steps. Eventually with encouragement you'll feel comfortable acting little around potential Daddies. There's no need to rush anything and this community by and large is safe.

[Dopamine247]

There are many people who are forced to hide their little side from disapproving family members, so you are not alone. Try starting off small when you are alone and feeling little, to just recognize and acknowledge the anxiety, but just let yourself take baby steps. Eventually with encouragement you'll feel comfortable acting little around potential Daddies. There's no need to rush anything and this community by and large is safe.

 

Thankyou for the advice, I really hope so. Sucks that I have to hide everything but hopefully one day the right Daddy will come along.

[DerbyNerd]

Even when you're with family and 'hiding' there are some activities that crossover into now being 'acceptable' for adults that can feel like little activites. For example you could get one of those mindfullness/relaxation colouring books instead of a kiddie book. Lots of adults watch cartoons so thats also socially acceptable. As for a stuffie try getting a stuffie keychain! I've always collected soft toys so my family never thought it odd that I have so many but for people who have to go incognito stuffie keychains can be a perfect solution. I have some little gear like bottles and paci's too but I've found tumblers with straws give me a similar feeling to a bottle - once again bigger is better for me cause I gotta hold it with 2 hands so its makes me feel little and smol. 

 

As for clothing I've always found that oversized clothing makes me feel smol and clothes with soft textures relax me - I also tend towards 'geekier' clothing as that is often brighter colour and I've found recently that overalls and pinafores are back in which makes adult clothing kinds feel like little clothing. 

 

Also if you're feeling brave it would be cool to make another little friend, its nice to have someone to talk to about little stuff. OMG and a little friend (like me) could send you a stuffie as a gift and thats how you could explain it to your family 

[Vampiress]

Hello!

 

To expand on previous posts about things you can do that probably won't arouse suspicion with family and friends I might have some ideas you can try out:

 

Gaming (Pc, console, or mobile) - There are plenty of games that are little space friendly! If you like PC gaming Steam would have lots of games you might like. I'm not sure what all is available on console but Nintendo Switch seems to have lots of great games for littles. I also recommend mobile gaming. I have a cute game on mine about The Very Hungry Caterpillar if you ever read that book, I like that one. Plus several other games that make me feel more little.

Media - plenty of music, movies, and tv shows you can watch and even stream on pc or phone. Most people don't think anything about adults who watch Disney or stuff on youtube, Disney music is also usually considered pretty acceptable.

Art and crafts - this could include adult coloring books, but lots of adults are into crafts and art so you could definitely do projects that might make you feel little.

Stuffies - You can get a stuffed animal from the brand called Warmies which has an insert that you can take out and heat up and use it for warmth which is easily explained away as just being something for comfort. 

Food - eat things that make you feel little or reminisce about childhood. For some people this might be cut up fruits, applesauce, french fries, or whatever you fancy! Great for snack time!

Online - you can explore stuff online, plenty of Discord and kik groups. Discord groups are great for activities because you can talk to other littles, participate in coloring and other activities, do movie nights and whatever other things they have planned. Also doesn't require face to face communication which is easier for some introverts to try and get to know people.

Books - get something like a Kindle account on your phone and read books that make you feel little. You can also get a free account at https://archive.org/ (SFW) and read lots of books for free. I've read some kids books through it that I remember reading as a kid.

Journaling - lots of littles do journaling and do cute little doodles, use fun ink pen colors, stickers, etc... whatever you want!

Collecting - you can collect all kinds of things that might not seem so weird as an adult. A great example is Funko Pops! Very popular items especially among adults. They kind of look like toys to me and they have them of almost every character you can think of in pop culture, and if they haven't made it yet they probably will! Also trading cards! I recently nearly finished a collection of Pocahontas trading cards and have several other sets.

 

Oh and back to mentioning youtube... whatever you're into doing is probably on there. DD/lg information videos, kids shows (I love Sunny Bunnies and it's free), music you might like as a little, and also DD/lg ASMR role play videos made by Mommies and Daddies.

[Dopamine247]

Hello!

 

To expand on previous posts about things you can do that probably won't arouse suspicion with family and friends I might have some ideas you can try out:

 

Gaming (Pc, console, or mobile) - There are plenty of games that are little space friendly! If you like PC gaming Steam would have lots of games you might like. I'm not sure what all is available on console but Nintendo Switch seems to have lots of great games for littles. I also recommend mobile gaming. I have a cute game on mine about The Very Hungry Caterpillar if you ever read that book, I like that one. Plus several other games that make me feel more little.

Media - plenty of music, movies, and tv shows you can watch and even stream on pc or phone. Most people don't think anything about adults who watch Disney or stuff on youtube, Disney music is also usually considered pretty acceptable.

Art and crafts - this could include adult coloring books, but lots of adults are into crafts and art so you could definitely do projects that might make you feel little.

Stuffies - You can get a stuffed animal from the brand called Warmies which has an insert that you can take out and heat up and use it for warmth which is easily explained away as just being something for comfort. 

Food - eat things that make you feel little or reminisce about childhood. For some people this might be cut up fruits, applesauce, french fries, or whatever you fancy! Great for snack time!

Online - you can explore stuff online, plenty of Discord and kik groups. Discord groups are great for activities because you can talk to other littles, participate in coloring and other activities, do movie nights and whatever other things they have planned. Also doesn't require face to face communication which is easier for some introverts to try and get to know people.

Books - get something like a Kindle account on your phone and read books that make you feel little. You can also get a free account at https://archive.org/ (SFW) and read lots of books for free. I've read some kids books through it that I remember reading as a kid.

Journaling - lots of littles do journaling and do cute little doodles, use fun ink pen colors, stickers, etc... whatever you want!

Collecting - you can collect all kinds of things that might not seem so weird as an adult. A great example is Funko Pops! Very popular items especially among adults. They kind of look like toys to me and they have them of almost every character you can think of in pop culture, and if they haven't made it yet they probably will! Also trading cards! I recently nearly finished a collection of Pocahontas trading cards and have several other sets.

 

Oh and back to mentioning youtube... whatever you're into doing is probably on there. DD/lg information videos, kids shows (I love Sunny Bunnies and it's free), music you might like as a little, and also DD/lg ASMR role play videos made by Mommies and Daddies.

Omg... thank you so much so many things, all those ideas made me smile so hard! I definitely will be trying a lot of these out and I’ve been think about getting a coloring book for so long. The stuffie idea sounds so adorable too, I can’t wait to get my first stuffie one day. Thank you for all the lovely ideas! I’m gonna try my best to experiment with a lot of them.

[Dopamine247]

Even when you're with family and 'hiding' there are some activities that crossover into now being 'acceptable' for adults that can feel like little activites. For example you could get one of those mindfullness/relaxation colouring books instead of a kiddie book. Lots of adults watch cartoons so thats also socially acceptable. As for a stuffie try getting a stuffie keychain! I've always collected soft toys so my family never thought it odd that I have so many but for people who have to go incognito stuffie keychains can be a perfect solution. I have some little gear like bottles and paci's too but I've found tumblers with straws give me a similar feeling to a bottle - once again bigger is better for me cause I gotta hold it with 2 hands so its makes me feel little and smol. 

 

As for clothing I've always found that oversized clothing makes me feel smol and clothes with soft textures relax me - I also tend towards 'geekier' clothing as that is often brighter colour and I've found recently that overalls and pinafores are back in which makes adult clothing kinds feel like little clothing. 

 

Also if you're feeling brave it would be cool to make another little friend, its nice to have someone to talk to about little stuff. OMG and a little friend (like me) could send you a stuffie as a gift and thats how you could explain it to your family 

Yes!! I want oversized clothing so much, it’s kinda hard for me to find things tht look big on me bc I’m on the chubbier side, but I really can’t wait to get all of this stuff. I really wanna try and get more comfy with my little side

[Vampiress]

Yes!! I want oversized clothing so much, it’s kinda hard for me to find things tht look big on me bc I’m on the chubbier side, but I really can’t wait to get all of this stuff. I really wanna try and get more comfy with my little side

 

It isn't winter anymore but still might be nice at night, you can try these... The Comfy or The Oodie which are oversized hoodies that you use like a blanket. Very soft and comforting. Also not as suspicious as wearing a onesie since it's just a blanket hoodie made for adults.

 

SFW:

https://thecomfy.com/

https://us.theoodie.com/

Edited May 28, 2021 by Vampiress

[DerbyNerd]

Yes!! I want oversized clothing so much, it’s kinda hard for me to find things tht look big on me bc I’m on the chubbier side, but I really can’t wait to get all of this stuff. I really wanna try and get more comfy with my little side

Try buying bigger sizes of men’s clothing - especially hoodies and stuff. I’m plus size and I can find men’s hoodies that are plenty big on me. The guys hoodies I had already are ALMOST as good as stealing daddy’s hoodies hehe.

 

If you want some little gear that’s made for littles but could be easily hidden as normal clothing Littles Laboratory makes shirts as well as onesies. They can just pass a cool, bright shirts and unless someone knew where they came from no one would know. I wore my hive hero’s shirt around friends and family and they had no idea. They are also super plus size friendly.

[Dopamine247]

Try buying bigger sizes of men’s clothing - especially hoodies and stuff. I’m plus size and I can find men’s hoodies that are plenty big on me. The guys hoodies I had already are ALMOST as good as stealing daddy’s hoodies hehe.

If you want some little gear that’s made for littles but could be easily hidden as normal clothing Littles Laboratory makes shirts as well as onesies. They can just pass a cool, bright shirts and unless someone knew where they came from no one would know. I wore my hive hero’s shirt around friends and family and they had no idea. They are also super plus size friendly.

Okie Thankyou!! I’ll start looking in the men’s section from now on also I’ll definitely visit the site, I’ve wanted a onesie for SO long. I really appreciate all the advice, you guys are so heckin sweet. I have like one big hoodie but even then it’s not really tht big on me, but I love wearing it bc it makes me so smol but tanks for advice!! <3