how do you cope when you miss your daddy?

[pbandjenelly]

My daddy went out of town , he'll be gone for 9 days. Before he left , he cuddled me and we made a chart to count down the days.

 

But i feel so sad, since we met we haven't been apart from each other for a long time. We're going to FaceTime a lot though and hes going to tell me bedtime stories and such.

 

I miss him and I'm finding it hard to actually sleep.

 

What are sone good ways to cope, until he comes back home?

 

Any recommendation for a good comfort show, movie, song or item ??

[Guest Account deleted]

Oh I'm sorry you are so sad.. Of course you miss him, that is very normal, and I can very well understand that!

The chart is an excellent idea!! And how lucky you are, that he's going to be able to read you bedtime stories!

 

Try to relax a little. It's "only" 9 days. I know, I know - it seems like forever! But you very well know it is not forever so all you have to do is relax, be brave, be patient! Also, I am sure you don't want your daddy to be all worried because you didn't sleep and look like a sleepy mess when he comes back.. Think about him: one of the best ways to cope is to get organized for the day he comes back! For example, you could make him a surprise! One big surprise that will take several days for you to complete, or one little surprise each day, that you can wrap up and label "Monday", "Tuesday".. It will be so exciting to see his happy face when he gets to open all your little presents!

 

You can keep a "While you were gone" Journal. That is A LOT of fun! You can make it yourself, or buy a cute little notebook, decorate it with stickers, coloring pages, glitters and doodles. Write everything little thing that made you smile, keep track of the yummy things you eat and the shows you watch. You can glue tons of things into it, bus tickets, candy wrappers, a picture, a feather you found…Keep track of the stories he read/told you - write a few words about how they made you feel etc.. It's not like your regular Little Journal if you have one, it's different. This one is meant to be kept as a souvenir by your daddy.

 

Something that can be a nice mood booster, and comforting at the same time, is watching a nice musical. I am sure you can find one that will make you giggle and wiggle! The Wizard of Oz, The Sound of Music, High School musical, Annie, Mary Poppins, The King and I etc... Ask your daddy if it's ok to have popcorn or any other nice little treat that you like.

 

Going to bed and being able to fall asleep.. It's a mental thing. Right now you are sad, and focused on the fact that you miss him and can't sleep without your daddy. That is not the right mindset to fall asleep peacefully. Once the bedtime story is over, snuggle in bed with one of your daddy's sweater. Call it a grateful snuggle. Because yes, you can be grateful! For the chart, for the bedtime story so imagine that you are "charging" his sweater with gratefulness and positive vibes!! Try to see if he can text you for a last hug. It has to be only ONE text, and it's the last one. You text him to say you have turned your light off, and he can text back sending the good night hug and that is it. When you get the good night hug, no more texting, no more sad little face, it's time to fall asleep with a happy heart and a smile on your face

 

*EDIT!!!* I forgot to say something! I would also suggest a couple apps that are super fun and creative and will bring smiles. I am sure you have plenty already but consider looking for new ones, they're only a few bucks and can really help. My favorite ones are Pango Musical March, apps from BabyBus, Chibi Dolls Avatar Creator, Sago Mini (build a village) I also love Wonder Woolies and Triple Town. 

 

I know it's hard.. I'm sending you a big hug! 

Edited May 22, 2021 by Crafty_Pink_Bee

[Guest AlisonS23]

Well said crafty. Yeah it’s hard being apart at first falling asleep and stuff can be hard. Grab your stuffy. Wear his shirt to bed. But the biggest thing is you are lucky he’s coming back to you. He will be back before you know it cuddling and helping you fall asleep. Absence makes the heart grow fonder sometimes. So welcome home s*x is always fun. You will be just fine. Keep your chin up.

[Jessie<3]

Sometimes i get my daddy to give me a few tasks or suggestions of things to do for the day. That way I can message him when I have done it and know that i am making him pproud and get some praise.

 

Its a good way to stay busy and feel super connected.

 

For falling asleep when daddy is on nightshift i cuddle my giant ted which he got me and wear his hoodie. He also records videos of him reading and talking to help me fall asleep like he does every night over video call or when i stay over (as we live apart rn). That way i can pretend its really him there helping me fall asleep and I get a lot calmer.

 

I hope this helps