A Very Jealous Little

[Baby Bear]

So Daddy and I were talking yesterday and talking about the things we would like to do together... I asked if he had done it with any of his exes and he said yes. This is a conversation that happens a lot and I find myself extremely jealous and upset that it won't be as significant to him since he's done it before... He's been in about three serious relationships and I've only had (kinda) one before him.. I don't know how to stop being jealous. I understand it's his past but how should I go about this? Help make myself feel better...? Thanks! xoxo

[ChildishMaster]

If you can't be his first be his best.

[Princess-P]

It sounds like you understand being jealous of someone's past kinda silly, I mean he's with you and loves you now so pfffft to the past.

 

But of course its hard to stop that reaction. Maybe when you have these conversations about what you would like to try/do refrain from asking him if he's done it before. Then just look at it as something fun and new that you two are going to do together

[MrBonesWildRide]

 

This is a conversation that happens a lot and I find myself extremely jealous and upset that it won't be as significant to him since he's done it before...

 

To overcome your jealousy, you're going to first need to ask yourself why you are actually jealous in the first place. You've already said that it's because you "won't be as significant", so that's your step one. Step two is to address how the reason you are jealous affects your relationship with the person. Why do you believe that the significance of being "the first" is important to you? This is a bit harder to think about because the reason can be something that was learned over time or it may just be a personal preference you've never thought of. Finally, you might want to ask how this affects your relationship with your Daddy. You say this conversation comes up "a lot". The issue is that this is his past. If you have an issue with somebody's past and you can't get over that, you can either accept it as the reality of the relationship, or move on. 

 

Moving on seems like a weak idea. But maybe you feel too strongly about this. Who knows, we are not you. But most, if not all, of us would tell you that communicating your feelings and learning to think of it as something that happened and how you and your Daddy can be the best for each other would be a better option.

[Baby Bear]

Thank you so much

It's not such a severe problem that I would give up on our relationship, but I think talking to him through my jealousy will help. Thanks for your answers!

 

And I definitely aim to be his best and his last

[ChildishMaster]

That's great that you're feeling better now! One thing you should know too is that there's 7 billion people in the world, he may have not know that many but I bet he knows a lot. Out of all those people he knows, you are the one he choose to love the most. That means there's something(or many things) about you that no one else has, that no one else can ever replace to him.

Love to me is very powerful thing and knowing that you are the most special and unique person in your s/o's eyes is mind blowing.

[Baby Bear]

I had the same problem with my daddy... He had been with multiple other partners before me and I had been with none, so I honestly felt like i meant nothing, or that our experiences wernt good enough or I wouldn't be able to match up to other girls standards... It stopped when I talked to him about it and it took a lot of crying and cuddling for him to convince me that every time doing something with me it was special, and that the past didn't matter. ((this is about sexual experiences))

 

It's such a relief knowing that other people have the same problem! He too cuddles me and allows me to just cry while he explains that I am his favorite. I'm happy that you've learned how to overcome it! Hopefully I will too @_@

[Guest Jennyanydots]

Don't know if you are still around Baby Bear, but I decided that my reasons for wanting Sir are so completely different than any other person that it doesn't matter who they were, what they did, how good they were at it, or how often they did it. . .it's still going to be different with me. If Sir can make me see the world in a different way, then why should I assume I don't make him see the world differently too. Sir would NOT lie to me. And the deeper our relationship grows the more obvious it is that what we share can never be like anything either one of us has had before. Sir is quite experienced and I have had only one other partner and it was a very bad experience for me. To be honest, now that I have concluded my uniqueness, I am grateful for Sir's. . .expertise. If all those other sluts hadn't taught him about himself (and various other things), he wouldn't be able to care for me half as good as he does and I am NOT just talking about sex - though it applies.