Feeling lost...

[LittleKittyOne94]

I just started exploring my little side at the end of last year and still learning a lot of things...

 

Me and my Daddy (were long distance) have a great relationship and have been together for almost 4 months.

Thing is though there’s been a few times when I’ve asked him questions or for advice regarding little space?

Like for example : what his opinion was on bottles vs sippy cups during little space?

 

I end up feeling stupid for asking afterwards, when he says he doesn’t know or doesn’t answer it clearly to resolve it.

He’s never said anything to make me feel like this.

It’s mostly my mental health dragon in the back of my mind breathing fire...

 

I can’t be the only that deals with this right???

How do you deal?

[Alaskan Daddy]

I don't think your mind is telling you stories. I also feel that your daddy has an opinion and maybe does give you an honest answer because he may not want to hurt your feelings. My suggestion is that whenever you ask him a question or advice that you tell him you want his honest opinion and that 'I don't know' is not a good answer. Also remember that the answer he may give may not be the answer you want to hear. 

The other thing I would tell you is to let your daddy know when you are struggling with your mind telling you stories. It sounds like he can give you comfort to let you know that everything is fine.  Lots of littles have that very same struggle. I hope I have helped you in some small way. Good luck

[DatDaddy]

I think you'd benefit more from asking other little's. 

You are asking a daddy who doesn't use sippy cups, or bottles... It's kind of like asking someone who never drove a car in their life how to drive stick shift... He just doesn't have the experience for the question you are asking. It's a good sign that he tries but there's nothing to be embarrassed about either way. 

[MissPattch]

It's great that you are engaging with your Daddy about stuff like this and asking for his opinion But like DatDaddy says, he may be telling you the truth and doesn't actually have an opinion. It might not be something he's ever thought about, or he might struggle to articulate a response if this is new for him too. He might be trying to guard your feelings also.

 

Feeling silly after asking a question is a normal thing, specially if you don't get the response you wanted / expected. I feel like that sometimes with my Daddy >.< Try not to overthink his responses, and trust that his answers are honest. Maybe instead of direct questions about his opinion, you could bring it up in a conversation? Talking openly about stuff is a good skill to have, and it doesn't put people on the spot and make them feel like they have to provide a direct and resolute answer. When Daddy and i started talking about ABDL and pacifiers, he asked me to do some research on it and think of some questions i might like to ask, and then we talked for a good while about it, without any pressure to commit to the idea.

[Novicestitcher]

I understand how you are feeling.  I was talking with a daddy and we were getting to know each other.  I asked him about his other littles and he did not answer for a few days and then told me that he would talk about them later.  I passed it off at first but then I started to feel like I had to pass a test to get him to talk to me.  Eventually I decided that I don't have time for that.  It did however take me days to work thru it all.   Anyway communication should be the key.  don't be shy about letting him know how you feel and ask for a clearer answer.  Communicate Communicate  Comunicate