Does anyone else have trouble staying in Little Space?

[PrincessUnlockMe]

There are many times that I feel the need to go in little space but there in small doses. I can't find a way to really indulge in the longer duration, anybody have any tips?

[Vampiress]

I 100% feel the same way you do lately (for like months now) and I wish I had the answers but I don't. I struggle slipping into it and staying into it, like a deeper little space. There are elements of a little that are always present in my personality but I can't really indulge in it lately. I hope that you can figure it out soon because I know how frustrating it is and can be a little sad, too.

[PrincessUnlockMe]

I 100% feel the same way you do lately (for like months now) and I wish I had the answers but I don't. I struggle slipping into it and staying into it, like a deeper little space. There are elements of a little that are always present in my personality but I can't really indulge in it lately. I hope that you can figure it out soon because I know how frustrating it is and can be a little sad, too.

Thanks, I appreciate knowing I'm not the only one. I've always had a younger personality even before I was introduced to this community but recently have been really trying to engage in it but sometimes I feel like the responsibilities have been a bit overbearing and its hard to be in the safe space even if Papa says otherwise. And sometimes I feel like I can snap at him when I'm just not feeling in the mood and he tries to start it up as well because I have other things on mind. I hope I can translate this soon he shouldn't have to be attacked because of me 

[Guest Teasing Tink]

I would say stop putting pressure on yourself to indulge in it deeper because it's akin to pressuring yourself to be happy when you feel sad because the underlying belief there is that: "it's not okay to feel sad." There's a reason for it. It sounds like your adult self just needs more TLC. Ask yourself what your adult self needs specifically in order to feel safe enough so that little you can come out and play. It could be something like: my adult self needs to vent/feel heard in this moment or my adult self needs help with the dishes. Just examples. We're multiple dimensional beings, so meet yourself where you're at. You can also communicate this to your Papa if your adult needs are something that they can help you fulfill as well. That way, it becomes less about keeping some record or living up to some imaginary standard of how often you can/should more fully enter little space, and more about just being fully present with every aspect of yourself that needs and deserves your attention. 

Edited April 27, 2021 by Teasing Tink

[Guest Bunnibeb]

I actually have a lot of issues with this as well either because I never have any time too or just because im always kind of stressed >__< But here are some tips to get into it 
 

• don't force ya self ! let it come natural!
• Surround yourself with things ya love like stuffies, blankets, etc. (whatever ya like)
• Play cute movies or comfort movies < 3
• Color or play with toys 

Just be comfortable and allow yourself to relax ya know? I hope this helps   

[Vampiress]

I would say stop putting pressure on yourself to indulge in it deeper because it's akin to pressuring yourself to be happy when you feel sad because the underlying belief there is that: "it's not okay to feel sad." There's a reason for it. It sounds like your adult self just needs more TLC. Ask yourself what your adult self needs specifically in order to feel safe enough so that little you can come out and play. It could be something like: my adult self needs to vent/feel heard in this moment or my adult self needs help with the dishes. Just examples. We're multiple dimensional beings, so meet yourself where you're at. You can also communicate this to your Papa if your adult needs are something that they can help you fulfill as well. That way, it becomes less about keeping some record or living up to some imaginary standard of how often you can/should more fully enter little space, and more about just being fully present with every aspect of yourself that needs and deserves your attention. 

 

This makes a lot of sense... my adult self has definitely been trying to navigate some painful stuff lately. Thanks for the insight!

[NatQuakers]

   I have struggled with this in the past, my little self comes out most when I am safe and comfortable. Stressing yourself or pushing yourself into little space might not be the best outcome to regress, for me personally, it causes me to do the opposite. Having little space activities that I can fall deeper into regression while doing them has been my best shot. This is a list of things that have safely brought me into my regression space.

• Simple kid puzzles
• Picture books
• Sitting in my sensory tent (I have a tiny tent in my closet which has blankets and teethers and cubes)
• Playing memory or very simple games
• Drawing animals
• Having a planned tea party with my stuffies
• Making a fort on my bed of stuffies then watching cartoons till I fall asleep (very cozy)
• Working in my little journal! (where I color, journal about my day in crayons, or have pre-prepared writing/coloring prompts)

      ^^^ Adding snacks/sippy cups/juice pouches to all of that too ^^^ (so I don't have to worry at all about making food when hungry and small)
 

   The best advice I can give is to figure out what puts you into little space/what are your comfort items. Keeping myself entertained so I don't start worrying about big stuff and chores is what keeps me regressed, as well as a safe environment. Listening to "boyfriend/caregiver" audios (I know it sounds weird) has helped me too in feeling less lonely. I hope this helps or at least gives you comfort that another little one has felt the same feeling. 
 
-XO Your Local Little <3 

Edited April 27, 2021 by NatQuakers

[PrincessUnlockMe]

I really do appreciate all the advice from everyone. I suppose I've just been hoping that falling into little space would kinda instigate a bit more happiness but I guess forcing it really isn't the answer either. Because we've just started a few months ago it's a bit hard to really know all the things that help me relive that space. ♪ ♥

 

Thanks all for the amazing support!

[Guest gakiusagi]

I 100% feel the same way you do lately (for like months now) and I wish I had the answers but I don't. I struggle slipping into it and staying into it, like a deeper little space. There are elements of a little that are always present in my personality but I can't really indulge in it lately. I hope that you can figure it out soon because I know how frustrating it is and can be a little sad, too.

 

I completely agree and feel the same way. It used to come so naturally, but lately it's getting harder to feel little. 

However, in the recent past, these are some of the things that have helped me, even the slightest bit:

 

~ Talking to my plushies about how I feel, hugging them, and even washing them so they're super clean;

~ Having my Daddy read me a story;

~ Watching a Disney/Pixar movie;

~ Keeping a little journal + doodling stuff;

~ Making cute DIYs;

 

And as others have said, don't put pressure on yourself to feel little <3

Hope this helps even a tiny bit.

[Vampiress]

I completely agree and feel the same way. It used to come so naturally, but lately it's getting harder to feel little. 

However, in the recent past, these are some of the things that have helped me, even the slightest bit:

 

~ Talking to my plushies about how I feel, hugging them, and even washing them so they're super clean;

~ Having my Daddy read me a story;

~ Watching a Disney/Pixar movie;

~ Keeping a little journal + doodling stuff;

~ Making cute DIYs;

 

And as others have said, don't put pressure on yourself to feel little <3

Hope this helps even a tiny bit.

 

Those are all great suggestions! Thank you for sharing! 

[LittleTeacup]

I go in and out all the time. Being little is part of my personality so it's always kind of there under the surface. It's never bothered me much probably because I'm used to it and only found out being little is a thing two years ago. Maybe being with a partner would result in me going little for longer periods at once but I don't know.

 

Not everybody regresses or has a dedicated little space. It's ok to have little you pop out for short periods at a time. Like others have said, it's worse to try to force yourself. That's like littles trying to force their little selves away. The most important thing is to be comfortable with who you are and for your partner to accept you so you feel safe being yourself around them.

[chobits]

Just in case, maybe look at if there have been any life changes that have made you feel more guarded and unable to be vulnerable. Techniques like those mentioned before are good, but if there are deeper issues they can stop you from entering little space. Little space is a very vulnerable and very fragile experience in my case, so outside stressors can sometimes stop me from being little, until I deal with them. Otherwise, I get comfortable in a safe place and turn on any sort of cartoon or start talking about being little with my Daddy :3

 

What Teasing Tink said is amazing advice, I just wanted to add on my own thoughts about stress and safety. Worrying over the chores or taxes or bills keeps you very Big because your mind is stuck on the mental load of the work you need to do.