Potential questions

[Guest Foreveryours]

Hmm how about some potential question a Dom needs to ask without hurting her emotions. Indeed like any other relationship for me dd/lg is much sensitive. So will love suggestions. A newbie if we are talking who doesn't even know her little age how to help her explore into depth. I have many questions in mind but for all Littles some don't go right., especially when it is long distance relationship on the start.

[MrBonesWildRide]

Usually I let the topic come up naturally. When i'm getting to know someone I like to learn more about them as a person before I touch on lifestyle, so at least I have a background to go on and can kind of weigh my topics. If the person is naturally sensitive, a barrage of questions may seem like an interrogation. If the person is naturally direct, then being indirect can also cause issues.

 

That being said, some ideas can be

"How long have you been in the lifestlye?" (or rewritten as: "How long have you known you were a Caregiver/Daddy/Mommy/little/etc?") - This is semi closed-ended but it gives a good way to judge their experience.

 

Judging from what you've asked in your post, the people you are grooming are generally new to the lifestyle. So you might ask: "What draws you in to the lifestyle and what are you interested in learning about it?" This will allow them to explain what they might like and their interests. Asking a little for their little age if they are new is daunting, so I would leave that question up to them for exploration. 

 

I think the biggest thing is that you do not want to be the person pushing this on them. If they are trying to learn about the lifestyle, forcing them with questions about themselves feels like you're turning them into something rather than having them discover it for themselves. The questions should be more inquisitive than directional. "What do you like to do that may seem childlike?" versus "So if you like [certain items] then you must be around 5-8 right?"

[Princess-P]

I'm not really sure what questions you could ask that might hurt someone's feelings except maybe regarding depression/anxiety/traumatic experiences. But as your talking about someone new those arent things you would talk to ANYone about right out of the gate. Remember that littles are actually adults and as such should be able to answer questions about herself/the lifestyle without getting emotionally distraught.

 

Also not all littles have an age, some don't engage in age play at all and are just inherently little. Start off with an easy light chat and let her open up to you.

[Guest littlemissragamuffin]

I just want to point out there are many littles who don't have a set little age or wouldn't be able to answer because they just are, it's more of a feeling and could change with moods for many. They just act out on how they feel and not a set age to act like... And if that's a question that's hurt people, well that's why

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

It's a relationship like any other. If you specifically want to know something, simply ask. She is still an adult. Simple as that.

[Tay212]

Yes, what they said.  I do not consider myself an age player and don't have a set age or and don't even like to label myself with an age range.  I'm just naturally a little/middle and was before I ever knew DDlg existed.  Some days I feel little, some more teen-ish and then I got the days I got to adult all day.  The question itself doesn't bother me, but when people react like it's something that should be set, I feel judged. 

 

Mostly just ask anything you want to know and remember not to react judgmentally or like you are asking so you can make a list of things that need fixed about her.  You might want to ask her what kind of goals she has for herself and in what ways she needs help reaching those goals or what she would expect out of a Daddy and be willing to give as His little...this would help for establishing rules that would help her be the best her. Also, maybe ask about discipline that's worked for her and limits.  Like for me silent treatments and degradation/humiliation are hard limits and I wouldn't accept them as forms of punishment.