Daddies/Mommies/CGs, what do you get out of this?

[♡ マリィ ♡]

I mean this in a harmless way, but I've always really wondered what was so compelling or enthralling to all you caregivers out there to want to be with someone like us.

 

I made a joke the other day about not wanting to be little anymore and Daddy was so upset and angry with me, he said he couldn't live without this dynamic in his life now he's had it (which came as a total surprise to me!) and I wondered if the sentiment was the same for others, and why? I want to know what makes you guys care, what fulfills you about this relationship type. ♡

 

And what does your little do that makes it worth it for you?

[DaddyDomination]

Caring for My lil angel is all the reward I need. I find it's more rewarding in itself to build someone up than to tear them down. Doesn't matter your role in life top, bottom, DDlg etc. If you have your eyes and ears open you can learn from anyone. 

 

My angel's sweet, caring attitude helps balance Me out. She inspires Me to be the best Daddy I can be, as I aim to inspire her to be the best little she can be. 

[SmolAetherr]

this is an easy one to answer, you ever hear about those parents when their kids are about to move out and they get sad because they enjoyed looking after them?

 

yeah its like that, its rewarding and you have a bond that is far deeper you feel needed and important its pretty much everything a little would need/get out of it but the caregiver just enjoys giving all those things

Edited April 4, 2021 by Aetherr

[LittlePupRune]

So I'm a switch, I've been a daddy and am currently my Sir's sub and sometimes have little time. I don't think my answer is universal, but I personally really enjoy serving. I am emotionally fed when I help and can serve the people I am close with. Acts of service is one of my love languages. Back when I was a Daddy I got to help my little work on themselves. I helped them set rules and goals, made sure they followed through, and provided guidance where I could. That was my reward. 

[blair.vvitch]

Honestly, if my girl came to me and said she didn't want to be a little anymore I'd be really sad, but the happiness in it for me comes from the comfort it brings her. It brings us closer together to have this dynamic because of her past, it shows me that she trusts me and that she'll allow me to do things for her that she's never allowed someone else to do for her and to let her walls down and completely relax. I love her and I want her to find happiness in whatever way she can.

[Alaskan Daddy]

As a daddy the most rewarding part is knowing that my love and care is making a difference in my little's life. The love and appreciation I get from her is such a rewarding feeling. 

To me a DDLG relationship is fundamentally the same as as any other relationship. It is all about each partner giving the love and care the other partner needs and desires.

The only difference is how that love and desire is given. The love I and appreciation I get from her is so powerful. It is a need I have to give her the love and care she desires and to see the difference it makes in her life. 

The best time of the day is when we are in our 'daddy-little' bubble where I can hold her with her stuffy and she allows that little girl that lives inside her to come and be care for knowing there is no one to judge her.

I hope all of this makes sense

[daddymind]

I enjoy serving the person I love. If my babs wasn't little at any time, or stopped being little at some point, I would still be a service sub at heart and would fulfil that role in other ways. But in terms of serving babs' little side, I love the unique and special duties that come with that. It opens up my scope and definition of service even more and it becomes more broadly rewarding. Giving her what she needs and wants is very fulfilling. It's a unique kind of energy that really feeds my motivation to show how much I can give.

[Bubbles_and_Feathers]

I wish there was a better way to put it, but, like others have said, it's just fulfilling. As a switch, I have to say that providing care for my girl is just as rewarding as spending little time with her- it gives me such a cozy and secure feeling because it feels so intimate. Her being vulnerable and me fulfilling an innate need to provide for just results in a very intimate setting where I feel closer to her. We are social creatures, and connecting just feels good.

[junebug0325]

My daddy says he gets a sense of fulfillment from the dynamic, especially the aspects of it that allow me to safely express my little side under his protection, and also the aspects which allow him to express the gentle, but firm side of his Dom-self, which he has said, in past D/s relationships that are not DD/LG in nature, has been harder for him to do. I think he also gets this fulfillment because he knows that I have had abuse and trauma in my past, and when I am little, it means I am fully trusting of him and his ability to take care of me, even if I am unable to due to my mental state (i.e. in a regressed headspace).

 

As silly as this sounds, being a Daddy or a Dom is actually a form a service, just in a way we don't expect. They are fulfilling your needs and taking care of you. And because of this, they feel a sense of fulfillment just as a sub would servicing their Dom. I wish I could explain this better, but it is a little more complicated to explain, and of course, is different for everyone.

 

 

 

Junebug x.