I don't know what to do.

[Guest Daddy_Girl]

Me and my little are having a lot of problems. 

We use to be really close but now things are falling apart It's hard to try and talk to her about them because she doesn't want to listen to what I have to say. 

She's been ignoring me for a while now and it's really bothering me. I really don't know what to do about it.Can someone give me some advice on how to deal with her?

[Guest Buttons]

Hey! I'm so sorry to hear you're having struggles. <3

 

I think one of the most important things to remember is that before you and your partner are little + caregiver, you are two adults. You are partners in a relationship, which happens to involve a caregiver/little dynamic. Relationships always require good communication to survive -- it's two different individuals coming together with different ideas and opinions, and sometimes that causes tension, so a compromise must be made. To get to a compromise, each partner must be willing to listen to each other.  

 

From what you've said, it seems like your little isn't willing to listen to you. And that is more of a relationship problem rather than a little+caregiver issue. My advice would be to sit down together and talk as adults, discuss what is bothering you both. I think you need to make it clear to her that an adult conversation needs to be had, rather than a caregiver+little one. Outside of the caregiver+little aspect, you are both equal partners -- and that means that both of you deserve to be heard and listened to by the other. 

 

Also, if you are feeling bothered and uncomfortable, you're always free to use your safeword and then make it clear that you want to talk with her as two, equal adults. 

 

I hope that helps!! <3 Communication issues can definitely be helped, so best best best of luck <3 <3

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

If she simply won't talk or listen, and you are having so many problems, maybe time to admit defeat and move on. Like the above poster said, its a relationship issue, nothing to do with your specific dynamic. Maybe you've just run your course.

[Guest Daddy_Girl]

Well she just broke up with me right now so I don't have to deal with it anymore I guess. 

Thanks for the advice though. 

I'm feeling extremely depressed now... Maybe things will get better and I can move on quickly. 

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Of course things will get better. Break ups suck. Just take time to heal. That's the only thing that works.....time.

[Guest Buttons]

Well she just broke up with me right now so I don't have to deal with it anymore I guess. 

Thanks for the advice though. 

I'm feeling extremely depressed now... Maybe things will get better and I can move on quickly. 

 

I'm so sorry to hear that. <3 Like MyDaddyMyWorld said, breakups suck. It's okay to be sad -- that's always okay. But remember, there is always an end to the hard times. You did your best, and that's something to celebrate! Best of luck <3