Struggle reaching little space *TRIGGER WARNING *

[Luna.Bella]

hello all, I've been a little for years now - I found it when I was way younger than I should have been lol. I'd never struggled being little, it was kind of a daily thing - like mentally I was always a child I guess and when I was "allowed" to be little was me showing my true self. I married a guy who was into it and things went so well for so long until I got pregnant and he started abusing me after I had my baby. He'd put me into little space first and tell me I was too little to know what I wanted. We split and I can't get back to being little - it kills me because it's been part of me my whole life. What can I do to get back to my safe space??

[Guest sircarealot]

First I am very sorry you went through all those things. I hope you are doing well now. Have you sought the help of a professional mental health provider? There are even DDlg friendly providers that can help provide you with the tools to heal.

[Vampiress]

I'm so sorry you've been through that and it's very brave of you to share. What a horrific experience that must have been for you.

 

Whether this is a sexual or SFW space for you, I think most important is finding resources on how to reclaim this space for yourself. I know there's resources online that you can read about how to reclaim your sexuality after that kind of abuse, but I am not sure if anyone has written that about littlespace. If your littlespace is sexual then there'll be some crossover if you do look up how to reclaim your sexuality.

 

Going through some of the links they all point to seeking therapy, and there are therapists who specialize in things like DD/lg and things of that nature. You'll definitely want an advocate you can feel safe with and that understands you. If you have a partner or want a Caregiver then communication with them is going to be massively important as well as compassion and understanding. If you are looking to reclaim this on your own then perhaps changing your perspective as you rebuild this will help. Keep telling yourself that this is your space and this is a space you're going to make safe for yourself while you slowly incorporate little activities and indulge yourself until you become more comfortable. Just don't push yourself too far too fast and avoid anything that might be especially triggering until you're ready for it. Also don't beat yourself up if you can't slip into littlespace at first, it's going to be hard and you will need time to feel comfortable to let yourself go into that mindset so be kind to yourself as you test the waters. However, a therapist guiding you through this is still probably the best thing to help you out.

[♡ マリィ ♡]

This is awful, honey, I'm so sorry.

 

First, I don't believe your ability to be little is gone, but if you want to move forward, I believe you'll have to find a way to remove the association to your terrible ex-husband. Obviously, if you can afford/access therapy you definitely should, but if possible perhaps you could meet/hang out with people you know IRL who know you regress and try again in a safe space with friends? I've had problems being small because of trauma before and that helped me, but you've also been forced into littlespace against your will, so don't be too upset if you can't slip into it right away. You're really brave and I wish you and your baby the best, and I hope your ex steps on a thousand thumbtacks in quick succession.

 

Please feel free to DM me if you want to talk, you're not alone! ;v; ♡