My Questions

[walrus'eseseses]

Alright, so, I'm pretty new to the CG/L community. I've known about it for months, but I'm just now actually getting in to it a little. I just told my best friend that I'm a little, and she just keeps telling me 'Be yourself' or 'Be who you want to be.' Which is great! She wasn't totally weirded out that her friend was a little, which is incredible!

 

So, question time!

 

1. What's the easiest way to find a CG? I can't do an in-person relationship right now, so it would have to be all online.  I've considered asking my best friend if she could be it, cause little me does view her as it, but I'm not sure how she'd respond to the question.

 

2. How can I get into littlespace/headspace faster?  I always need to be going to bed, and be wearing my footed onesie and cuddling really hard with my stuffy. It's kind of hard, and I want to have it be easier. But today, for the first time, I got into a deep littlespace. Usually, I'm not in it that deep, but today, it was deep, and incredible!

 

Thanks!

[♡ マリィ ♡]

Hello, Walrus! Welcome! ♡

 

If you think your friend would be a good fit for a CG, you can try! A lot of people have friends/platonic caregivers, if this friend makes you comfortable and feels alright looking after you, then hopefully you have a match! If not, there are plenty of people online willing to do it, but I don't think being little is such a strange thing these days that you have to find someone in the community specifically do to it for you. My boyfriend had no idea what it was until I brought it up to him a few months ago and I can't believe how easily and eagerly he fell into his role as Daddy. So anyone you trust/can be intimate with is also a candidate, platonic or romantic!

 

As for getting into little space, I find it easier to get into when my day (or at least, all my adult day) is done. So work over, stress gone, preferably have eaten? Since my Daddy isn't with me IRL at the moment, we usually hang out in VRChat or play games together, or we watch movies together on Disney+. When Daddy isn't available, I hang out with our friends who know I'm little and they take care of me until he's there - do you have any other little friends you can go to? Sometimes you can hype each other up into being little! It's always a lot of fun.

 

I hope you have a wonderful day, and welcome again! I hope you find a CG soon!

[junebug0325]

Heya! Welcome to the community.

 

I first want to start out by saying that it's awesome that you have told your bestfriend that you are a little! I have known my best friend for almost 8 years now and I am still trying to find a reason/or a way to bring it up to her, so I applaud you for being able to do that.

 

I would say that I feel like I'm not really qualified to answer these questions, as I met my Daddy here on the forum! I wasn't really looking for a relationship at the time that I met him. I had just gotten out of a really bad, abuse relationship and I was just focused on healing myself and starting college at the time. But alas, things happen when you least expect them to. As for finding a caregiver, forums like this one and immersing yourself into the community is a great way to find one. I will caution you though, that there are a lot of fakes out there and to just be careful and don't ignore the red flags.

 

As for getting into little space faster, I find it easier when I'm home, with my Daddy and I have kind of a routine going for when I get home. I get undressed from my work clothes, get into some sort of comfy clothes (it doesn't have to be little clothes all the time for me, most of the time I just want to be comfy), and then I sit down and watch some cartoons before getting things done that I need to, like chores and cooking (which is part of my service to Daddy). I usually eat my food in a cute plate with a sippy cup or a bottle and I always eat with Daddy. Then we clean up together and we normally start winding down for bed, sometimes I take a bubble bath, and then we get dressed for bedtime, Daddy reads me a story, and we go to bed. That's basically how my night time goes, and I'm in little space almost every night because of it. Once you get into a routine, it becomes easier for you to be little.

 

I would also say, if you start associating things with being little and being in little space, it is also easier. For example, most people associate onesies, sippy cups, and pacifiers with being little and it helps them fall into little space easier. So if you have the resources to start doing that, I definitely recommend it!

 

Hope this helps!

 

 

 

Junebug x.