How do littles feel about being called "daughter"?

[♡ マリィ ♡]

As an orphan from an early age, I don't really have an attachment to those kinds of words, so... I don't think I'd mind and I'd probably just roll with it? Just do whatever you want to do, if it makes you and your partner comfortable then have fun and good luck my dude :0

[daddymind]

In a weird way this kinda reminds me of a clip from a t.v show (movie?) I saw once. It went something like “The word Daddy has become so sexualized these days that my future kids will have to cal me bro or something”. Anything I call my little I won’t be able to use with the daughter I hope to have in the future. So calling my little “daughter” would be out. We walk a damn fine line in this lifestyle and that would be too much for me.

 

That's a good point. I think if we wanted kids I'd be very cautious about getting comfortable using certain words for my partner. But I find dad/daughter kind of helps me to release the paternal energy that I can't deny exists within me, regardless of the fact I don't want to have an actual daughter. I would just rather give all that energy to my partner as long as she is equally as receptive to it. So I think that makes it less of an issue to see her as my "daughter" when we're in a certain head space. She's the only one who will be given that name in my entire life. And I'll never be a "dad" to anyone else. At least I sincerely hope not!

[SmolAetherr]

That's a good point. I think if we wanted kids I'd be very cautious about getting comfortable using certain words for my partner. But I find dad/daughter kind of helps me to release the paternal energy that I can't deny exists within me, regardless of the fact I don't want to have an actual daughter. I would just rather give all that energy to my partner as long as she is equally as receptive to it. So I think that makes it less of an issue to see her as my "daughter" when we're in a certain head space. She's the only one who will be given that name in my entire life. And I'll never be a "dad" to anyone else. At least I sincerely hope not!

eh i've been asked this before, i'm a single father and i really and personally worry for people who confuse parenting and kink just because of a title/honorific

 

i can be a father figure to a partner and maintain sexual attraction to them while recognising that the responsibilities, morality and duty of care to my daughter is seperate im likely missing something here but why does that seem to be hard to grasp?

 

and no im not talking about preferances, thats not up for discussion as its individual taste and situation with no right or wrong, im talking about how people connect these titles and seem.. confused/put off when they are used in different and creative ways

Edited March 29, 2021 by Aetherr

[daddymind]

It's kind of difficult for me to explain. But ultimately it is just a preference with me and I prefer to use these titles exclusively. It's not that it would be confusing in terms of roles and duties, I just prefer to connect the title and the energy it represents to one person.

[LittlePupRune]

I know personally I have been curious about trying more familiar terms in play. I'd be willing to try "dad" for my Sir if he was comfortable with that and terms like "kiddo" for me, not sure how I'd react to being called "son" tho. Regardless of the exact terms they are something that would be used only behind closed doors as its a more intimate and darker play and I do not feel comfortable being super open about using those terms. It does carry baggage and connotations with it that I'd rather not have to deal with with other people.

[daddymind]

I know personally I have been curious about trying more familiar terms in play. I'd be willing to try "dad" for my Sir if he was comfortable with that and terms like "kiddo" for me, not sure how I'd react to being called "son" tho. Regardless of the exact terms they are something that would be used only behind closed doors as its a more intimate and darker play and I do not feel comfortable being super open about using those terms. It does carry baggage and connotations with it that I'd rather not have to deal with with other people.

 

Oh sure, this is definitely a behind closed doors thing for most people. The psychological implications are strange, but in public I wouldn't mind as much being called "daddy" than "dad", purely out of not wanting people to feel uncomfortable or creating unwanted presumptions. Why the removal of d and y makes a difference is very curious. But to me there is a difference in connotation between daddy and dad. Father feels even more psychologically involved than dad. These are just words/phonetics but they do make a difference. Perhaps because of the person they should be connected to (again there is a concept of exclusivity). But behind closed doors, it's so special to be given a title that would otherwise be reserved for someone else. And not just someone else, but someone with such a crucial role.

 

I think a big part of me likes being called something that is rare, exclusive and embodies how I feel in terms of trust and duty. And I in turn like to use titles that represent the reciprocation of that trust and duty.

[LilDemonBaby]

personally i dont like it and it would def trigger me to be called that (bad backround). i prefer baby, little one, or lil alien or anything personal really. 

[LittleBunnyCici]

Honestly, I wouldn't care too much either way.  That sort of thing isn't at all uncommon among partners engaging in role-play, even with vanilla normies.

 

I could definitely see it being confusing and potentially outing your lifestyle if you use the term publicly, even if you do your best to be vague about it, tho lol

[Selvmord]

Why is it different than the little one saying daddy or mommy? This is confusing and important to me. Someday I want my baby to call me daddy but my fear is that it would creep her out

[Guest LittleElizabethBun]

...redacted... Edited November 19, 2021 by LittleElizabethBun

[Guest LittleElizabethBun]

...redacted... Edited November 19, 2021 by LittleElizabethBun

[Dad1212]

This is an interesting thread and a topic that is always controversial. I have two thoughts. The first is simply an observation on the debate itself. What I find fascinating about kink communities is how firmly some participants attempt to police the boundaries of what is "allowed" or not within what is clearly a very broad spectrum of possible ways of living and being. I think this is more acute in the present discussion because if a term like daughter is allowed to be equated with little girl, it threatens the self concept of those who wish to argue that daugher-girl and daddy-father are (against all known principles of the English language) completely unrelated.

 

So my second point, without even getting to my own position, is simply to ask what the meaning of these words is in the English language. The Oxford Dictionary is pretty clear on this:

 

DADDY

(plural daddies)

​used especially by and to young children, and often as a name, to mean ‘father’

 

To spread the load, consult the Cambridge Dictionary for daughter

 

DAUGHTER

Female child; a female child in relation to her parents (father or mother)

 

The last time I looked, little girls were still understood to be female children (daughters) and young children the world over were calling their fathers daddy.

 

In psychotherapy the tendency for a person to try to deny what is plainly apparent, often as protection against the intrusive cognitive and emotional burden that confronting it would entail, is called dissembling. Dissembling is thus a common focus in therapeutic work, opening up the space where aspects of relationships, such as father-daughter dissembled in a spurious policing of "no daddy-lg is entirely different", can be brought up and reflected upon for what they really are.

 

That's not an easy process and I don't expect those who feel that emotional burden - frequently reflected in feelings such as revulsion - to agree, but I do offer it out there as something to ponder and hopefully to prompt further discussion and reflection.

[lilamulan]

Yeah I'm def. Not a fan. That makes me really uncomfortable, can't really explain it but I always referred to my daddy, but never referred to my father as that. However, I was always called daughter by my father so I ain't about my daddy calling me that lol. Really not a fan !!!

[babybia]

Wow, I'm new here and I never thought think a DDLG community would be so unanimous about not liking the term and implications.

 

I personally love, *LOVE* it when daddy treats me like I'm his daughter. I think it's romantic and wholesome. Of course an actual father being in a sexual relationship with his daughter would be really fucked up, but tbh I think my healthy relationship with my own dad kinda set my standards for men. Thanks to my dad, I know how well a man can treat a woman he sees as "his daughter" and so that's what I look for in my partners. I also just think it's cute. As an ageplayer I want everything to be cute.

 

Also, English not being my first language (so my dad doesn't actually refer to me using the English word "daughter") might also explain why I'm not as repulsed by the term. I've tried imagining what it would be like to do this with someone who speaks my native language and while I don't think I'd have a problem with it, I never actually tried it so I can't say for certain.

[QuietlyLurking]

I think it really depends on the context and understanding between you. I personally would find it uncomfortable mainly because it's not a title I'd be used to so I'd have a hard time accepting it, but at the same if you both communicate that it doesn't represent a blood relationship and you're okay with it there's no real problem

[Chubbyprincess84]

I guess I am gonna be the odd one out here... I would like this. That being said, I am also into incest play and age play. Although I agree that the stereotypes are harmful to our community, I do fall under the types of little (and Domme) that most people talk about when they call us incestuous pedophiles. 

 

It is definitely something I understand people not feeling comfortable with, and that is exactly why these conversations have to happen before starting a dynamic. This is what the vetting process is for. To discuss boundaries like this that could potentially cause serious harm. 

[littleblasian]

No. I  already have a father and a dd can't replace that bond. I would be really uncomfortable and cut ties with a dd if he ever called me his daughter. 

[peachprince]

Most of the time my partner doesnt but occasionally we do both take a very familial role with each other. When hes a bit bigger and needs advice he calls me Dad, when im small but not baby little sometimes he'll call me his son. I really like it, for us its a way to heal our inner kids as we were both abused by our parents. We get someone we know we can go to and we know loves us- like a safe reset. I get how it could be weird for other people though! for us it just works out perfect

[BrassyBabyGirl]

 

No. I  already have a father and a dd can't replace that bond. I would be really uncomfortable and cut ties with a dd if he ever called me his daughter. 

 

I found this interesting. I have not had a paternal figure in my life so it would not bother me I think for there are no conflicting ummmmm imagery there. Also, my Daddy does not have physical children so there is no imagery for him there either. That said we do not do that. I am Babbbyyyy Girllll lol. I think I would be like "WUUAHHHHH Um no I am babygirlllll!" (Insert foot stomp)

[BrassyBabyGirl]

I guess I am gonna be the odd one out here... I would like this. That being said, I am also into incest play and age play. Although I agree that the stereotypes are harmful to our community, I do fall under the types of little (and Domme) that most people talk about when they call us incestuous pedophiles. 

 

It is definitely something I understand people not feeling comfortable with, and that is exactly why these conversations have to happen before starting a dynamic. This is what the vetting process is for. To discuss boundaries like this that could potentially cause serious harm. 

 

I love reading about other peoples dynamics! TY for sharing. I think it is important to talk about varying dynamics but also want to note, the fact that this IS NOT pedophilia ( YOU ARE ALL CONSENTING ADULTS) or incest (YOU ARE NOT RELATED) I feel is most important and why people get so lost in what this is. In a way it makes me sad that you say you are what they talk about and you know it, but also proud that you do not let stereotypes, put downs and other people's misconceptions rule your life.

Edited March 2, 2022 by BrassyBabyGirl

[Chubbyprincess84]

 

 

I love reading about other peoples dynamics! TY for sharing. I think it is important to talk about varying dynamics but also want to note, the fact that this IS NOT pedophilia ( YOU ARE ALL CONSENTING ADULTS) or incest (YOU ARE NOT RELATED) I feel is most important and why people get so lost in what this is. In a way it makes me sad that you say you are what they talk about and you know it, but also proud that you do not let stereotypes, put downs and other people's misconceptions rule your life.

 

Thank you for your comment. I appreciate your support, and trust me, when I say that I am the who they mean, I don't mean mean it in any way that should cause you to feel sad. I know I am an outlier and have no issue with that. If people want to hate me or think of me as a predator, that is their problem, not mine. I can assure you my babies have never felt anything but safe with me, and my Daddy loves how I exist in the grey area without fear of societal expectations and judgements. 

 

I understand what you are saying that this lifestyle is not pedo or incest, but my turn ons cross boundaries most people in this lifestyle have. =)

[BrassyBabyGirl]

 

 

I understand what you are saying that this lifestyle is not pedo or incest, but my turn ons cross boundaries most people in this lifestyle have. =)

I get it, that is why it is interesting to read about it :0)

[yourlilnightmare]

For me using the word daughter immediately gives me the creeps. If I see it used in personal ads or profiles, I lose all interest in interacting with them. It's weird when men who are old enough to be my actual dad use the term when messaging me. 

[Guest Pwuppie]

As someone whose biological father wasn't present most of my life and when he was, it wasn't always colorful, I don't mind being called ''daughter''. It'd bring me some comfort and perhaps replace at least 1/4 of the bond I didn't have with my bio dad.

As long as I don't get called daughter during NSFW acts, it's fine with me.

I think I'm also okay with it because my ex-partner used to call me ''daughter'' because English wasn't his native language and he didn't see a difference between ''babygirl'' or ''daughter'' x)

[WigglyBun]

As someone whose biological father wasn't present most of my life and when he was, it wasn't always colorful, I don't mind being called ''daughter''. It'd bring me some comfort and perhaps replace at least 1/4 of the bond I didn't have with my bio dad.

As long as I don't get called daughter during NSFW acts, it's fine with me.

I think I'm also okay with it because my ex-partner used to call me ''daughter'' because English wasn't his native language and he didn't see a difference between ''babygirl'' or ''daughter'' x)

I'm with this comment as well. I also didn't have much of a relationship with my bio dad or even my step dad, so being called "daughter" would feel very comfortable for me in SFW settings.