Plus sized little shaming

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

This.

[SassyAssyBrat]

*clears throat and steps into big girl self*

 

If someone disregards you because of your size, then you let them walk away. They are not worth a second more of your time. Be patient, and you will find the daddy that is meant for you and will absolutely adore every inch of you. I promise! And if anyone is ugly about your size, you just send them my way and I'll be more than happy to put the pea brained m*ther f*cker in their place.

 

*steps back into little space*

 

and you is awesomes just how you are, and you are reawy reawy pwetty

 

~Jen~

[Daisies&Donuts]

I know I'm a bit late to the game, but I'm still going to toss in my two bits because stuff like this is important to me. 

 

On one hand, there is a tendency for "Daddies" and would-be-Daddies, especially those who don't truly understand the lifestyle or BDSM lifestyles to believe that DDlg is about older men regardless of physical appearances getting with very young, very petite girls, very attractive girls. I think that this sort of idealism happens more in BDSM and particularly DDlg than in vanilla life. It's probably perpetuated by the fact that very attractive people, especially when they are very young, are more likely to post a ton of pictures of themselves. Just speaking statistically. Entitled jerks are going to continue going around feeling badly for themselves that they aren't getting some idealized woman to fall for them and become utterly and unquestionably submissive. Let them.

 

BUT they aren't all entitled jerks. People do all have different tastes. The problem for the OP, I think, is that these men assume that the default woman in DDlg is an ideal Playboy-bunny type. That isn't true. If you're going to draw assumptions like this, you should conclude that we are your average Jane, aren't you an average Joe? In America, the average Jane is about a dress size 16 with an approximately 38 inch waist. Dress size 16 is considered just inside the "plus size" category.. .  So it can hurt when you realize that someone you've been trying to connect to is going to disregard you now because they made unfair assumptions about you. Unfortunately, there really isn't a way to combat this. There are too many dumb-dumbs in BDSM-land. 

 

So, to the OP and anyone else who has concerns about their physical nature: don't worry about the people who don't like you, there are plenty of people who will find you *more* attractive because of your physical nature. If you have concerns, be upfront about them straight away. Unfortunately, that is the only way that you are going to prevent people from making ignorant assumptions. Otherwise, know that this says nothing about you. It speaks only about the other person. It also doesn't mean they are a jerk. Maybe a little dumb to assume that you're going to be a certain way, but that doesn't mean they are a jerk. You're just not compatible. And that's ok. Someone out there is looking for someone just like you. 

[Guest Elencha]

In America, the average Jane is about a dress size 16 with an approximately 38 inch waist.

Seriously? Is there a source for this? The average American woman is that overweight? I'm not fat-shaming by the way, I'm a fat bastard myself, I just didn't think we had gotten to this point. Wow, I mean, I guess that means I'm actually slimmer than average, (barely), but that just can't be. I mean, I have mirrors. I'm a fat bastard. There is no way we are on average that freakin' overweight. Seriously? 

[Tasha-Pasha]

Seriously? Is there a source for this? The average American woman is that overweight? I'm not fat-shaming by the way, I'm a fat bastard myself, I just didn't think we had gotten to this point. Wow, I mean, I guess that means I'm actually slimmer than average, (barely), but that just can't be. I mean, I have mirrors. I'm a fat bastard. There is no way we are on average that freakin' overweight. Seriously?

https://www.google.ca/amp/www.today.com/amp/style/what-s-average-size-16-new-normal-us-women-t103315?client=ms-android-bell-ca sfw

 

Considering that women come in all shapes and sizes being a size 16 does not automatically make one overweight.

[Daisies&Donuts]

Yep! Here's an article from Today

 

http://www.today.com/style/what-s-average-size-16-new-normal-us-women-t103315

 

And it's true that some women are just large human beings. A friend of mine is not remotely overweight but just an Amazon of a woman. I haven't asked, but she must be at least 6ft tall and dress size around 16 or 18. She also insists on wearing platform shoes and darned if she doesn't look good in them. Technically though, this is considered "plus size", and men are intimidated by her size. (*some* men)

[Tasha-Pasha]

Yep! Here's an article from Today

 

http://www.today.com/style/what-s-average-size-16-new-normal-us-women-t103315

 

And it's true that some women are just large human beings. A friend of mine is not remotely overweight but just an Amazon of a woman. I haven't asked, but she must be at least 6ft tall and dress size around 16 or 18. She also insists on wearing platform shoes and darned if she doesn't look good in them. Technically though, this is considered "plus size", and men are intimidated by her size. (*some* men)

I didn't know we were friends irl!!

 

*giggles*

 

I am 5'10 and describe myself as an amazon woman!

[DaddysMonkey]

Hello there ! 

 

I would say I agree with posts before ; that everyone has their own preference. 

 

I have had my feelings hurt in the past by these kind of statements , but looking back on it I should not blame them. I would rather have honesty than be with someone who is not physically attracted to me. 

 

When I was 17 , graduating high school I was 220 pounds. I had/still do deal with eating disorder issues and because of that my weight dropped to 100 pounds. But guess what happened to me .... I was still rejected by some males , because they didn't like skinny girls. I felt like I was in a battle I would never be able to win. And it's true ; if you try to please EVERYONE than you will never win. The number one person you should please is ...... YOURSELF ! You should find a Daddy that loves you for you, whether you are skinny , bigger , short , tall , purple , or have a horn growing out of your head A Daddy that you want to be with , will love you for your imperfections and perfections all in one. So , if someone cuts things off short because of your physical being try not to be too discouraged ! It would be no different if you had to be honest with someone you weren't attracted to ! 

 

Granted , if someone is mean to you and says hurtful , terrible things than nobody should be tolerating that ! 

Everyone is human and deserves to be treated as such ; so hopefully that will not or hasn't happened to you. 

 

 

Hope this helps !

Edited December 10, 2016 by Daddysmonkey

[Daisies&Donuts]

Possibly of interest. This is a video about height shaming (too tall, too short).

 

https://partners.vice.com/dove/beautybias/news/standards-of-height-are-a-form-of-bias/?tx_news_pi1%5Bcontroller%5D=News&tx_news_pi1%5Baction%5D=detail&cHash=13bd1913cc505c030ecdceac00af7a20%3Futm_source%3DsponconFB

Edited December 12, 2016 by Daisies&Donuts

[Einstien2]

This is an interesting topic in today's world.  I think as a society we have become one that tells people you can be anything you want and that everyone is special.  This is true you can do anything you want but you can not have everything you want.  You are special to yourself, your family, and the ones that love you to everyone else you are just another person.  Unfortunately this end up becoming that if a person does not show interest in you that they are at fault and they are a bad person.  This is the farthest thing from the truth as they know what they like and dont like just as you do.  This changes though if they put that person down because of how they look.

 

I think that someone being honest and upfront with what they are looking for is important this way you do not get attached only to get hurt later.  

 

I am one that I dont care how you look as those change over time it is what is in your mind that matters as that does not go away.

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

I didn't know we were friends irl!!

 

*giggles*

 

I am 5'10 and describe myself as an amazon woman!

 

I'm 5'2 and I now fully intend you find you.. and climb you like a tree! (not in the sexual sense.. in the tree house kinda sense)