Parenting and CGl

[Misund3rstood]

This is a question I am asking on behalf of my little. Not too long ago my little and I were discussing having children together, like we had multiple times up to this point (a boy and a girl, Lila and Finn ). However, this time the conversation took an unexpected turn. Out of nowhere she came to the realization that she wouldn't be able to be little whenever she wanted. She understandably got pretty upset at the thought. I tried to talk it through with her and comfort her the best I could, but to be honest it caught me off guard and I didn't necessarily have the knowledge of the situation to do the best job. I told her that whenever we are both with the kids (while they are still at an age that they cannot actually comprehend what's going on) that she can still go into little space whenever she wants and that I will take care of all of them. Then I explained that when I'm not around she won't be able to do this, but that we will still have plenty of time and opportunities to enjoy our DDlg lifestyle. And the same goes for when they become older as well. There will be times that they are at friends houses or being babysat, with the grandparents, and that even if they are at home they will have bed times and we can enjoy our time then. Anyway, the whole point of this is to get any and all advice that you wonderful littles out there might have for me on this topic. It would be especially nice to hear from any littles that are already mothers and have ways of juggling being a mom and the dynamic. Thank you and hope to hear from all of you soon

[Guest buddhagirl]

I have two children and two step-children, ages 6-17. Parenthood is different for every person so I have no idea what your little will experience if she chooses to become a mother. 

 

But I will say that being a mother always comes first so it definitely effects a DDlg relationship. You have to compartmentalize a lot, and it actually may not be possible for her to be in little space and you take care of them when you're all together because many children want/need their mother almost all the time. I love being a mom, but it means I don't get to be little nearly as much I'd like or even need. Sometimes when we're all together and I need Daddy, I can get a few minutes of his time privately, but many times it's not possible. 

 

Daddy and I continue to get better at finding way to weave our DDlg dynamic into our daily life with the kids, though, and it's very fumetimes when we're all together and I need Daddy, I can get a few minutes of his time privately, but many times it's not possible. 

 

Of course, you will be able to create space without the kids for regular time together, but that won't be feasible for the first year or so after baby. 

 

Lastly, if being little feels more important than being a mother, I'd advise not having kids. Being a parent requires more sacrifice than you can imagine, and it isn't a good idea unless you want it more than anything else in the world. Just my opinion...

[Misund3rstood]

Thanks again buddahgirl for your reply. I feel like I should have made something clear on this one. My little was upset because she knows that she wants to be a mother more than anything, and because of that she will sacrifice a lot in order to do so. She is still young, so I think the realization was just catching up with her which resulted in an initial shock. All and all she handled it pretty well. I guess I just wanted to get some feedback on how people do successfully mold these two parts of their lives together. Obviously our kids will always come first no matter what. It sounds like you have quite the handful but still find time for you and your Daddy on occasion. Even though it's not as much as you would like, it's nice that you are still able to keep that part of yourself in the midst of parenthood. That is exactly what I want my little to know; that although she will be a parent and things won't always be as frequent as they are now, we will always make time wherever we can and that part of her never has to completely fade

[missmouse]

Im a mom and I take care of my 2 yr old when im in little space. He likes me better when im little. We color together and sing silly songs and play with dollies and take naps together. Daddy says I watch him real good.

[Guest Padaddy]

Greetings everyone,

My name is Seth, I'm twenty-five years old and a father of two.  I've been curious for some time how many of us have children.  I wouldn't think that there's a massive population of us but I think that there's more than just a few. 

I'm curious to know how having kids affects your lifestyle and do they know?  Have you had issues with family trying to take them from you because of DDLG?  When my wife and I divorced she tried to have the judge believe that all DDLG is some form of child porn/abuse. 

 

Can't wait to hear from you and see how you juggle everything.

Daddy Seth

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

I have three children. There is no reason to divulge the specifics of my intimate relationship with them. My eldest knows, more or less, but he's an adult and just teases me about it lol, but we are like that as a family.

My children just see that I am finally in a devoted, close and happy relationship.

[DsBabyGirl]

I have 3 kiddos. Which is why I need a Daddy!! All day long as BIG me I take care of others. Its nice to be the little one and spoiled-help keeps me happy and sane

[Dami]

Ella and I have 3 children, one of whom she is stepmom to. All 3 live with us full time, though my son has recently started regularly seeing his bio-mom every other weekend. They know that Mommy likes to cuddle, and that she has a naughty (middle) name too, like they do. Ella Dawn is not my little's real name, but if we are in that headspace, and she gets in trouble, I WILL call her that in front of the kids. She is able to call me Daddy, 24/7, which is amazing. Everyone assumes she's calling me Daddy because of the kids. My kids are still young. The oldest is 11, with special needs. As an aside, we are also polyamorous, and the only one not aware is our youngest, who is 4.

We do have a separation of playtime from the kids. Our bedroom door has a physical keyed lock to it, and our bedroom closet door has an electronic cipher lock on it, where the toys are kept. Thank you lord, for walk in closets. Ella also has a playcorner in our bedroom- where she can be little, and color, or whichever

[Guest little domi]

I am a mother to 2 girls and 3 stepchildren. They really don't know about this side of me. The little side does, of course, poke through at times, but shows more "immaturely playful" than "little" to them. One of my snarky teenagers has told me to "grow up" a couple of times, and to that I say, "It's overrated!".